My cousin got married 8 years ago and only 30 people came to her wedding, but like 180 came to her reception. Some people she didnt even invite. She ran out of food and it was a disaster. She is helping me plan my wedding and suggested a guestlist for those who RSVP. She says I should let people know that if they do not RSVP they will not be allowed in because of food accomodations and such. I feel a little weird about that because I am not a celebrity or anything, but at the same time we are having the reception catered and it is a little pricy so it would be nice to have an exact number of people. Would it be rude to turn people away who have not RSVP'd? I always RSVP because that is what it is for, but I know that alot of people do not RSVP and then just show up and say I was invited. How could I word my invitations to express the urgency f a RSVP?Thank you allWhat you need to do is contact everybody who did not RSVP and ask them if they are coming or not. Make sure you leave at least two weeks between when the invites need to be mailed back and when the caterer needs the final head count, more if possible. If you haven't gotten the responses by a week after the mail back date, then you need to start contacting people or having friends and family members who know them contact the people and find out what is happening.Yes, people are irresponsible to not mail back the rsvp cards, but it's also your responsibility to follow through and find out what is happening with the ones that don't get back. What if any of them got misplaced or lost in the mail?
