Maternity Wedding Outfits

Buying maternity clothes can quickly become expensive, especially if you’re purchasing name brand tops and bottoms. Given that you’ll eventually need (or want) nursing bras, maternity jeans, and a few empire-waist dresses, the more you can save, the better. With a little upfront planning, you can design a wardrobe that helps you to show off your best features without breaking your budget.

In this article, we’ll offer several tips for stretching your dollar when shopping for maternity wear. You’ll learn that there’s no need to sacrifice style or comfort. With the following suggestions, you can build a pregnancy wardrobe that matches your personal sense of flair without the matching high price tags.

Borrow Shirts From Your Partner

After looking through your own closet for loose-fitting tops and bottoms, be sure to explore your partner’s side. Chances are, he has more than a few shirts that he won’t miss. He’ll likely have a few Oxford-style shirts that are easy to wash, very comfortable, and provide a crisp, clean appearance. If you’re wearing a t-shirt or stretchy top as a first layer, wear an unbuttoned Oxford as a second layer. It’s a breezy, stylish look that won’t get in the way of your growing stomach.

Ask Friends And Family Members For Old Clothes

Before rushing to the stores, ask friends and family members who have babies whether you can borrow their old maternity clothes. They’ll likely be happy to lend them to you since doing so saves them the trouble of taking them to thrift shops, or giving them to goodwill. Moreover, you’ll have the benefit of wearing quality tops, bottoms, and dresses for which you have paid nothing.

Buy Maternity Outfits To Mix And Match

If you’re continuing to work during your pregnancy, you’ll likely need a few professional-looking outfits. When buying them, think of ways to mix and match the individual items. For example, suppose you purchase an outfit that includes a jacket, pants, and blouse. Can you wear these items with those from other outfits? Build your wardrobe in a way that maximizes the number of ensembles you can create from the fewest possible items.

Also, if your friends worked during their pregnancies, ask whether you can borrow their maternity office attire. Their outfits may still be in great shape. Because your friends are unlikely to need them in the near future, they might be happy to lend them to you.

Treat Your Feet Right

This is not an area in which to cut corners; your mood is highly influenced by the comfort of your feet. As you enter your second and third trimesters, you’ll notice that your shoes feel slightly tighter. In some cases, they may feel very tight. The reason is because your feet will have swollen due to fluid retention and looser joints.

Fortunately, comfortable shoes do not need to be expensive. The main points to remember are to buy a size that offers plenty of room for growth, and forgo heels. Flats will become increasingly important as your balance and coordination wane.

Purchase A High-Quality Outfit Meant To Turn Heads

Thus far, we have carefully and creatively built a maternity wardrobe that costs little, but offers plenty of style. Use some of the money you’ve saved to purchase one evening outfit that is designed to catch the attention of passersby. You can wear it on dates with your partner, or while enjoying an evening out with friends. This outfit will give you confidence that may have diminished during the course of your pregnancy.

Spice Up Outfits With Accessories

A pair of simple, yet dazzling earrings can invigorate an entire ensemble. A well-chosen scarf can draw eyes while giving an old outfit new flavor. An elegant necklace worn to the office can provide needed zest to an otherwise unremarkable suit. Accessories are a valuable addition to any maternity wardrobe. Be creative, and try new matches to create exciting looks.

Building a closet full of fashionable, high-quality pregnancy clothes can be affordable. It takes creativity, a little help from friends, and the willingness to look beyond the designer brands in the major department stores.

Frequently Asked Questions

QUESTION:
UK Only please – need a maternity wedding outfit?
I am really struggling to find pretty sresses at affordable prices that can be worn to a glam wedding. I dont want to look like a frump just because I am the only pregnant woman there Can anyone help?
thios is fab, keep the ideas coming, i am looking at all of the sites you are suggesting
- ANSWER:
  Hiya hun, why not try these links?
  
  http://www.21stcenturyvillage.com/maternitydirectory.html
  
  http://www.tiffanyrosematernity.com/maternity/clothes/wedding-dresses.html
  
  http://www.definitelybaby.com/acatalog/maternity_wear_dresses.html
  
  http://www.bjornandme.com/
  
  Well to be honest, theres loads of places. You can buy online or pop into hight street shops. But I would say you’ll get much more choice buying online though.
  
  Hope you find the outfit you want.
QUESTION:
Where can i get a cheap maternity outfit for a wedding?
I dont want to spend loads as i am 37 weeks pregnant now (ill be 39 come the day of the wedding) and im never going to wear it again.
- ANSWER:
  i`d say that ebay is your best bet hun if you want something that you won`t wear again. there`s some nice dresses on the link below. hope you mange to find one, enjoy the weeding & the rest of your pregnancy!
QUESTION:
I am looking for a maternity outfit to wear to a wedding?
Anyone have any suggestions? I am due in July but the wedding is in April so I’ll still be pregnant with my beautiful twins…
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QUESTION:
How do you get your sims to wear a maternity wedding dress when getting married?
I have a dress that works for maternity but have the problem of getting them to wear it as formal.. or in general because every time i click change into formal they dress in this horrible outfit? Any idea’s? Thanks.
- ANSWER:
  You need to use a cheat.
  
  1. Type in boolprop testingcheatsenabled true
  
  2. Hit the shift key and click your Sim at the same time. It may take a few tries to get the menus.
  
  3. Choose Spawn from the menus that come up, and choose Tom’s Clothing Tester (it’s something like that)
  
  4. Hit the one above “force redress” I can’t think of exactly what it’s called now, sorry!
  
  5. Choose Formal clothing, and see which wedding dresses show you’re Sim is pregnant. Not all of them will.
  
  6. Choose that dress, repeat step 2, and choose “Force Redress”
QUESTION:
What do you think of this wedding dress? and mother of the bride dress?

http://www.romanticforbrides.com/maternity-wedding-gowns-rfb-simple-a1208-226.html

I have a very romantic theme i am size 10 and 5ft 10 my flowers have blue in them .

http://www.millardefashions.co.uk/popup.cfm?p_n=375385&p_i=375385

Mum loves this outfit but is the black to somber for a wedding ?
- ANSWER:
  The wedding dress is beautiful , i also like the mother of the bride outfit but could i point something out .If she had the jacket and hat in the same blue as the detail of the top of your dress it would carry the theme better. It is of course up to you. You will look stunning in that dress with ringlets hanging down . Some one is a lucky guy. Good Luck and congratulations
QUESTION:
Vintage maternity (20s-40s) help for friend’s wedding?
Hi. I’ve been invited to a wedding in a couple of months, dress code 1920s-1940s. I’ll be 8 months pregnant by then and am struggling to find affordable, attractive options. Authentic vintage maternity doesn’t really exist as you didn’t flaunt your bump back then and stayed home once you were big. So any ideas on outfits that are styleable or looks I can improvise? Clearly I have not a big budget and it’s a waste to buy something I can’t wear again (maternity clothes are a problem like that anyway). Also, I am in my thirties + curvy size 10/12 without bump so needs to be age appropriate and flattering too (e.g. sleeveless or hip-hugging/above-knee styles to be avoided). Any help/inspiration much appreciated!
- ANSWER:
  I think you’ll struggle with 1920-1930 stuff.
  
  Loose (swing) coats were quite 1940′s and here is an ebay item which could be used as inspiration. http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=160392754503
  
  An image of an original 1940′s blouse, which you can style loose over a modern maternity skirt. http://www.victorianelegance.com/ve/vec951.jpg. I’d start browsing charity shops
  
  Hairstyle, hat, gloves and make-up colours should be able to complete a ‘look’.
QUESTION:
Anyone know any good maternity stores?
I am going to a formal event, and in a few months, I am going to my brother’s wedding. Anyone know any nice formal maternity stores or stores with formal outfits?
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QUESTION:
Where are you shopping for maternity clothes at?
Hi. I’m finding that the local selection of maternity clothes (reasonably attractive maternity clothes, that is) is rather limited in my area.

Where are you shopping for maternity clothes? Which stores have a good selection? I’d love to cute some cute summer dresses, but I’m having trouble finding some, and I’ve got a wedding to go to in June, so I need a cute outfit/dress for that, too. Any suggestions would be great! Thanks.
- ANSWER:
  Pregnant women can wear alot of summer dresses that aren’t even meant for pregnant women because they are loose fitting. I have difficulty finding dresses to cover up my large breasts though. So I would go just about anywhere looking for dresses. Other than that I find maternity shirts here and there, Target, thrift stores, malls, fred meyer, all kinds of places. And as for pants, I can’t find many maternity pants that fit me because I am small. i am normally a size 3. So i’ve been wearing my pre pregnancy jeans and just leaving them unbuttoned and i bought the BellaBand to keep them up. You should get one!
QUESTION:
Do you need to do anything special to make a download the wedding dress for a sim on Sims 2 PC?
I know you can download wedding dresses, etc, but do you need to do anything special to make your sim use it when they get married (specifically with the arch)? Rather than going through the process of finding a dress and downloading it just for the sim to use the default wedding dress. Also, does it work the same with downloaded maternity outfits?
I’ve downloaded wedding dresses, but I’m afraid of my sim reverting to the default dress if I use the wedding arch. I know you can set it as the formal dress, but it won’t stay on the sim if you use the arch will it? Does the same apply to downloaded maternity outfits as well?
- ANSWER:
  To have your Sim use the default wedding dress just choose the dress from the formal outfits available in the game. You may have to buy it first from a store. Have your sim stand in front of the dresser/wardrobe and then from the options available when you click on the dresser choose ‘plan formal outfit’. Click on the wedding dress. Then when your Sim wants to wear it just choose ‘ wear formal’ or ‘dress in formal’ (I forget the exact wording)’ when she is in front of the wardrobe/dresser. She will now be wearing the wedding dress if you planned that as her formal outfit.
  
  Downloaded maternity outfits are a bit trickier. You need a hack, otherwise your Sims will just wear the fugly default maternity outfits. The most well-known hack is Squinge’s.But it can cause problems if you have other hacks in your game. See here and read the attached info and compatibility notes carefully to see if it is okay for your EPs:http://www.insimenator.net/showthread.php?t=7238
  
  If you ever want to download Wedding dresses though have a look at this site: http://www.pronupsims.net/ Their wedding stuff is absolutely gorgeous.
QUESTION:
wedding outfit while pregnant…grrrr?
i am going to my sister-in-laws wedding in aug, i will be 28 weeks pregnant and i need to get an outfit, but its so annoying i cant find anything at a reasonable price and be wearable again!
since its going to have to be maternity i need it nice for a wedding but i want to be able to wear it again during the pregnancy, i dont want to spend money on an outfit i will never be able to wear again, its annoying.
i need a formal/able to go to a supermarket wearing it lol

anyone know any places in uk or websites i can get something adnf ro a reasonable price?

thank you so much
- ANSWER:
  Can you get a plain frock, and tart it up with some bling or flowers or pashmina?
QUESTION:
Pregnant, what to wear to a wedding tomorrow?
I have a wedding to go to tomorrow. I am pregnant so forget trying to fit into any of my pre-pregnancy clothes. I have no formal maternity clothes and I don’t have the money right now to buy a new outfit. What would be the most apppropriate thing to wear?
- ANSWER:
  Most of us women have a few things that are sort-of flowing… that we can wear before we go to the maternity clothes.
  
  Another thing to look for is a looser fitting blouse that looks nice. You can cheat on the skirt and use safety pins to extend the waistline. After all, the flowing blouse will cover that up. If you have something with an elastic waist, you can release the upper seam and pin it together and resew the waistline closed later on when you got on your “instant diet”.
  
  If you don’t have a nice enough looking flowing or loose fitting blouse you can open the side seams of a blouse and wear a jacket over the blouse so noone can see the open seams.
  
  Also, feel free to ask a girl friend… We’ve all been there… and there’s a time when you just don’t have anything that fits quite right.
  
  And Libby’s wrap dress is another good idea… it fits in my category of flowing / loose fitting pieces of clothing.
  
  I hope one of these ideas helps you out.
  
  Remember… layering of clothing can cover a lot of sins and secrets !
QUESTION:
Where’s the Best place to buy Maternity Wear?
Which stores have good quality clothes that are affordable and fashionable? Im looking for casual wear plus an outfit to wear to a Wedding in the Summer.
- ANSWER:
  if you live in England, H&M have some nice maternity stuff, a few dresses and long tops and stuff like that, that is affordable. A bit more expensive is Marks and Spencers, but they have more clothes than H&M and then there’s Dorothy Perkins, where I got my sister some maternity clothes, but its a bit more expensive BUT theclothes are really nice xD
  
  Hope I helped :]
QUESTION:
maternity outfit???
Hi everyone,
I’m currently 8wks pregnant and starting to look a bit chubby rather than having a bump as of yet. With my first baby, I started showing and got a bump relatively early (as I think will be the same with no.2) The thing is I’ve a wedding to go to in May and would love something really nice to wear ie. a dress or trouser suit. Has anyone got any ideas where I could get something stylish, preferably from the uk.

Thanks in advance folks x x x
- ANSWER:
  Next directory always have a good maternity selection. Try their site www.next.co.uk
QUESTION:
How do you say these in French?
*Don’t forget the une, un, le, la, les, des, whatever…

How do you say in French:

1. Pajama,

2. Slippers Note: Like pajama slippers

3. A head to toe maternity outfit

4. A hat Note: Not dressy… not sport… like a casual hat?

5. Wedding dress

Thank you!
- ANSWER:
  1. Des(or les) pyjamas or des(or les) vêtements de nuit
  2. Des(or les) pantoufles or des(or les) chaussons or des(or les) chaussures d’intérieur
  3. Un(or l’) habit de maternité complet
  4. Un(or le) chapeau or une(or la) casquette
  5. Une(or la) robe de marriage
  
  Des, une and un mean “a”.
  l’, le, le and les mean “the”.
  
  (I’m french)
QUESTION:
When do you start showing?
I am a relatively medium to large frame (UK size 16) and am 6 and a half weeks pregnant. I have been invited to a wedding in 9 weeks time when i will be 15 weeks (hopefully, if all goes well!)
Planning an outfit for any wedding is stressful enough but i really don’t know what size i will be or whether i will need maternity clothes? and leaving the shopping for an outfit until the last week may be a little stressful!!!!!
Any suggestions or advice?
When did you all start showing? and is it my imagination or is my waistline already thicker?!!! I have stopped needing a belt on my trousers and with all the nausea and morning sickness i have actually lost weight so bit strange.
Any help appreciated! Thank you in advance.
- ANSWER:
  I didnt start to show until about 20-25 weeks pregnant and at about that time i had to start investing in maternity clothing…you would probably be safer with planning a maternity outfit because they leave room for growth so it would be a safer route to take!
QUESTION:
Would anyone care if I….? Maternity dress question.?
Hi. So, I’ll be having a bridal shower in late May or early June. My husband’s brother is getting married towards the end of June.

Will anyone care if I wear the same outfit to both my shower and their wedding? I’m having such a hard time finding a cute maternity dress.
- ANSWER:
  I don’t think anyone will care. In my eyes, it’s so pointless to go out and buy a few maternity dresses, if you can only wear them for a certain amount of time. I found a really cute dress for my shower at Motherhood Maternity, have you tried there?
QUESTION:
*Answer For Sims 2 Maternity Wear Not A Question*?
Ok, for a long time i been looking on Mod the sims and other sites for Maternity hacks because im sick of the Maternity wear for the sims 2. I did the cheat “boolProp testingCheatsEnabled true” and used the cheat Tom’s clothing or w/e it’s called and i loved it except it only works for everyday clothes and not swimsuits or other outfit types. I wanted my sim to be able to wear other custom sim clothes like pj’s, undies, and so on.. So i did some searching on it and couldn’t find one person to explain how to make your pregnant sim where other custom clothes but i finally figured it out and ill list it step by step.

1. Do (Ctrl+Alt+C) and type in “boolProp testingCheatsEnabled true” then Enter.(Exactly like i typed without the “)

2. Make sure she’s in the outfit type you want for example if you want to make her wear a custom wedding dress you downloaded from a site you’ll make her change to Formal then plan her Formal to that wedding dress your trying to get her to wear.

3.Shift click her and click “Spawn” then look for “PlanOutfit”.

4.It should open the shopping menu just buy one random Top/Pants/or Outfit doesn’t matter.

5.Now there should be another window that pops up. Just change her everyday outfit to anything random one don’t click the Check if you didnt change her everyday outfit you can always change it back if you don’t like which you pick.

6. Your done click the check and she should be wearing the Formal wedding dress you wanted her to wear, Good Luck!
Someone recently asked me youtube this question so i posted it on here plus i noticed alot of other people are still having this issue so im just trying to get it out there.
Also i know this is mainly for Question thats why i changed it and made the tile say Answer for it so people will know it not a Question. It’s pretty clear if you haven’t notice .
- ANSWER:
  Nice, thank you so much. I was having problems with this for a while. Finally someone to explain it step by step.
  
  @Jeffrey: Word to the wise, you should probably read before you post. She said it was an answer rather than a question to help people having the same issue. Regardless if it’s been answered before, it was helpful.
QUESTION:
Am I supposed to buy a new outfit just to go to a wedding? I am pregnant?
I’m gonna be 36 weeks pregnant at the wedding which is on sunday 23rd november. Talking to MIL the other day and she was asking if my toddler has a dress to wear. Well if my toddler has to wear a dress, does that mean that I am supposed to wear one? I found one suitable dress for my lil girl but it might be a little small and she doesnt own any shoes that don’t have desert dirt on them, so I can ask MIL to get her some shoes, but what about me?!? I am sooo close to the end of my pregnancy, can I just wear black pants and one of my maternity tops? There are no shops anywhere near where we live and I am not flying in to the city until the evening before the wedding so shopping is not an option for me until the monday. If I am supposed to wear a dress and buy a new dress and shoes for my daughter I dont think I can be bothered attending, we are only going to the ceremony part after all. What do you think?
My point is I CANT buy something, I live in outback australia and have no access to maternity clothes. Also I am spending a lot of money on going to the city to have my second baby and do not want to be having to buy new outfits when I am struggling enough as it is
So my options are to either go in clothes I already own, the black pants are nice enough, but my tops are pretty average…. or I can skip the wedding…
I have no choice, I have to fly at 36 weeks because I cannot give birth where I live (no maternity ward, no obstetrician, no anaesthetist) so it’s either flying or a 14 hour drive, I would rather chance the flight than go into labour by the side of the desert highway in 45 degree heat lol
- ANSWER:
  For me, I would wear whatever I thought was decent enough. And what’s good enough for me is good enough for my kid too. Anyone having a problem with that can deliver outfits to your door at their expense. Your first priority is to having a healthy baby. I’m sure that the bride & groom will be happy just to see you’re there at all. If they just want to see your clothes, invite them to tour your closet. Anyone having any heart will understand that at 36 weeks, it’s a miracle that you’re even there. I’d be home, with my swollen feet in the air, and a huge cup of iced tea at hand. So, if your clothes are an issue, just tell them it’s either you there, or not. I think they’ll take what they can get and like it. <*)))><
QUESTION:
Pregnant and wedding – what to wear?
Hiya all.

Ok, I’ve been invited to a wedding in September, by which time I will be about 4 weeks away from giving birth, and probably the size of a small house!

What on earth can I wear [aside from a tent] I have loads of weddingy type dresses, but obviously I can’t get into anymore, and I don’t want to spend a load of money on an outfit that I’ll only wear once.

Does anyone know where I could get a cheapish smart maternity dress from? I have thought about trying [nice] second hand shops, but I’m not sure if there is a market for second hand posh maternity dresses! Help!

p.s Had my 28 week midwife appointment yesterday – everywell well and good, thank goodness x
- ANSWER:
  heya hunni
  
  i dont know if u have 1 by u but i went to a party saturday and wore a floor length halter dress from west 1, i just had the size 14 (which is still big aorund the back but there’s a belt which fits under the boobs and ties at the back so it helps)
  
  it goes under the boobs and flows over the bump.
  
  im trying to find a pic but cant, maybe just go a few sizes up?
  
  great news about the appt hunni xx x
QUESTION:
A wedding to attend soon,yet over 6 months pregnant.How do i manage?
My bump is quite big,my midwife has said i look more like 30 weeks and so i need regular checks.I have swollen feet and ankles which i manage by drinking lots of water and resting my feet up.I get heart burn and indigestion too,so try & eat snacks or small meals and fruit.I don’t drink any alcohol,as i’ve tried to stay as healthy as possible.

My youngest brother is getting married in 2 weeks.For a start i’ve found finding an outfit difficult.I can’t wear a skirt or dress because of my ankles and feet.So i’ve decided to wear white or cream trousers,but can i find any suitable maternity trousers anywhere? No! They all seem to be baggy linen casual trousers.I had no idea how big i would be at this stage,and the top i have bought makes my belly look very prominent.The wedding is in the busy city centre.Afterwards there’s a slap up meal,with loads of Champayne.He says the meal will last about 2 hours.I can’t eat a big meal or drink hardly.How will i manage the whole day with party later?
- ANSWER:
  Ok first of all realize you aren’t the first pregnant woman to attend a wedding, so it can be done. Second, you can’t wear white or cream trousers, that’s disrespectful to the bride and a horrible way to start off with your brother’s new wife. They sell maternity clothes in every major department store plus several different maternity shops. A simple pair of black pants with a beautiful jewel toned top should be easy to find. Also there is nothing that says you have to stuff yourself at the party and you should be able to find an extra chair to prop your feet on. What difference does it make if your belly is prominent? Your pregnant, it’s supposed to look like that. Know one expects you to drink alcohol. I think you are making way too much out of this. It’s just a wedding and pregnancy is not a handicap. You’ll be fine.
QUESTION:
Please help! I need people who know French!?
*Don’t forget the une, un, le, la, les, des, whatever…

How do you say in French:

1. Pajama,

2. Slippers Note: Like pajama slippers

3. A head to toe maternity outfit

4. A hat Note: Not dressy… not sport… like a casual hat?

5. Wedding dress

Thank you!
- ANSWER:
  1. Pyjamas(most common) or vêtement de nuit
  2. Pantoufles(most common) or chausson or chaussure d’intérieur
  3. Habit de maternité complet
  4. Chapeau or casquette(kind of sporty)
  5. Robe de marriage
  
  (I’m french)
QUESTION:
Which dress do you like better?
I’m attending a wedding at the end of July and I’m due with twins August 17th, so I need a cute maternity outfit. I have found a few. Tell me which one you like best.

#1-http://www.bellablumaternity.com/augoinpi.html
#2-http://www.babiesnbellies.com/shop/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=6_66&products_id=1346
#3-http://mercedeshill.com/bohemian-maternity-dress-p-105.html

I have tried them all on and they all look great! So please tell me which dress you like better, it’s a semi-formal wedding, semi-casual wedding.
I will be confy in strapless.
- ANSWER:
  I like the first one best, it is really soft and pretty.
QUESTION:
Extremely nervous for maternity photo shoot… HELP!?
Alright, well I’m 32 weeks pregnant with my little man Cruze Hunter … and I’ve been asked to be in a professional photographers “rocking the bump” photo session. She’s never done this, as she’s more into wedding, newborn, and engagement sessions, so I’m going to be the main model portrayed on her website – and I can’t help being so, so nervous! I’ve already gotten over the 30 lb weight gain, and I’m not self conscious about my body, (well I shouldn’t say that, I have a little more flab on my arms then normal, but the outfit I’ll be wearing has got my back with that situation haha), but I’m really nervous about my smile. I feel like it’s either going to be too fake, or not enough… I know I obviously won’t be smiling the whole time but with all faces I’m scared I’m going to have that stone statue texture. I’m 18, and a pretty woman – but it’s the facial expressions that are blowing my mind and making me nervous… Anyone know how to make these special pictures completely beautiful, without me looking like a nervous dummy… thanks
- ANSWER:
  The photographer or someone you take with should be talking to make you laugh or smile and it would be awesome if the baby kicked while it was happening that way it would be super natural!
QUESTION:
quick garage sale question…help?
Needed a little help on how to price items. so could you tell me what you would expect to pay at a garage sale? I have a maternity dress from Motherhood, worn once to a wedding. A Motherhood swimsuit, worn one season. Maternity shorts and capris. Maternity Tees and tanks. And newborn and preemie baby clothes sleepers, outfits, onesies etc.~My daughter was HUGE at birth so all of the baby clothes have either never been worn, or were worn once.
- ANSWER:
  I would price them a little higher than other clothing items you might have, since they haven’t been used much (or at all). Just be ready to bargain.
  
  I would say for the dress, for the swimsuit (swimsuits are NOT cheap! lol), for shirts and capris, and for tees and tanks.
  
  Baby sleepers –
  Outfits –
  Onesies – .50 cents
  
  Maybe have a sign with the prices but below it put “or 10 for “.
QUESTION:
Pregnant and not sure what to buy for anniversary dinner…..?
Okay guys – you will think this question is the SILLIEST going around around but I need your help!!!!

I’m 14 Weeks 6 Days pregnant and next Monday I will be 15 Weeks 5 Days pregnant and I have a pretty big baby bump already. People ALWAYS think I am further along than I am.

Now, I NEVER buy clothes for myself as we have always been either tight with money or saving for something, so now as we have more money with the new business and a lot of money saved, I thought that it would be great to buy myself a special outfit for my 5th Wedding anniversary.

Hubby is taking me away for two nights to celebrate and apparently has a lovely flash restaurant booked for the night of our anniversary. Soooooo, my question is simple – for somebody who HARDLY buys clothes, I do try and be stylish with what I have got – but WHAT should I buy for this dinner? This outfit I buy will also have to suit going to a wedding the weekend after (5 days from the anniversary dinner) and as this is my first pregnancy, I have no cocktail/evening maternity wear at all. In fact, I never had much in the cocktail department to begin with so I really am at a loss.

So, I have seen plenty of maternity clothes around so I will have choices when I go out and buy, but I’m not sure which way to go and I DON’T want to make a mistake and look over done or too frilly or something.

Would you suggest something elegant and simple and maybe black (have seen maternity cocktail like dresses) which I can dress up with accessories and maybe a little jacket/cardigan/bolero type thing of a brighter colour? Would that work or be too dark?

I have never had a chance to buy many dresses so I don’t quite know the fine line of looking elegant and right for the occasion, or over done.

The wedding by the way is a cocktail/semi formal theme.

So ladies, what would you suggest? Every answer will help and I can take it on board when I go shopping. I just don’t KNOW what is right and not right to wear! Sorry I’m rambling!
Thank you very much so far for your suggestions. I love the ideas so far and can imagine me wearing them.

The empire dress with band under bust sounds nice too!

And don’t worry, I WILL be wearing flats (ballerina shoes we nickname them!) Comfort first!
- ANSWER:
  Well I don’t know much about cocktail dresses but when I go out to dinner or to a special occasion I want to dress stylish, but also comfortably. I tend to stick to empire waisted dresses (the ones that are fitted beneath the breast) because they don’t feel tight on my stomach, they’re loose, so I don’t overheat, and they’re practically made for pregnancy (they can make even the smallest woman look pregnant!). And maybe some kind of funky coloured shawl or nice jacket for if it’s cold?
  
  And if you’ll be on your feet for long periods of time, get some nice flats, lol. Nothing worse than sore feet and you’re not even halfway through the day!
QUESTION:
Friend protesting a baby shower for another friend(long)?
I have a friend whom I have been friends w/ for about 3 1/2 years now(whom I will refer to as friend 1). She and her husband have been trying desperately to conceive for the last 5 years, and finally conceived via IVF a few months ago. My friend is a middle school teacher, and her husband is an economics professor at a small local state college, so they are not exactly rolling in money, and during the school year friend 1 is quite busy. They also found out they are having twins, so they are now preparing for 2 babies.

When I was expecting my son about 2 years ago, friend 1 didn’t come. She had recently had a severe letdown in the trying to conceive department(they were going to try a sperm donor, got almost to the end of the process, then the donor decided he didn’t want to donate anymore), so I understood(as it had taken me about a year to conceive my son, and we had had some concerns as to my fertility as well as my husbands due to previous medical issues on both our parts) why she wasn’t interested in coming. I saw her after this, and we talked, and I told her I understood her reasons for not coming, and left it at that.

Friend 1 also didn’t come to friend 2′s baby shower, but by this point they had drifted apart a bit, not to mention that friend 2 is a bit bossy and demanding(she is one of those ppl who do their best to make your POV the exact same as theirs), as well as had kind of made light of friend 1′s husbands fertility issues. Plus, Friend 2 had gotten pregnant on a 1 night stand w/ a guy she had been seeing off and on for the last year or more, after which she didn’t allow the guy to be a part of the pregnancy or the baby’s life for any reason other than she wanted to control every aspect. The guy had a good job, and was very nice(I met him a few times) and he was interested in being there, but backed off when friend 2 said she didnt want him around. I had been out of work about a year at this point, so I was pretty much broke, however I scraped up the money to get her some of the items she had on her registry(most of which were pretty expensive as they were all organic clothes, and all natural this and that, seventh generation diapers-which I can respect, b/c I do my best to get as much organic food and all natural things for my son and myself, but only to the extent I can afford, and when your friends are not that well off, you cannot expect them to just drop on an organic outfit set from a specialty store)and went to her baby shower w/ my then 7 month old son.

I emailed Friend 2 and another couple of our friends to ask them if they thought they would be interested in helping me host a proxy baby shower for Friend 1(I thought this would be easier for friend 1 b/c she is in the middle of preparing for her maternity leave, as well as middle of the school year whatnot, and it would mean that no one -except me and my husband- would have to drive all the way out to where she lives now as she lives about an hour and half away from most of us; & further from me). I thought it would be nice, as well as being helpful, as I have known a few mothers w/ twins, and every little bit helps in those circumstances, especially w/ things like diapers, and she is due at the beginning of May, so it is coming up quick.

No one responded to my email. I finally got a call from Friend 2, saying that she didn’t want to do it b/c “well, (friend 1) didn’t get me anything for my baby shower, and she didn’t get you anything for your baby shower or your wedding,”-neither of which bothered me btw- “I can’t afford to buy her anything” -you are a single mom working at an ipod store less than 20 hrs/week b/c you stay home w/ a “headache” at least once a week, you need get what you can afford, not spend every dime you make on over priced expensive things for your child, then complain about being totally broke all the time, not to mention if it was really that desperate of a situation, I could get a gift for her to give to her, or go in w/ her on something-” And (another of our friends) is mad at her(some situation that occured over a year ago, over some knitting needles), and w/ her having twins, she will get all this free stuff anyway”-At this point, I am just thinking to myself, If you don’t want to be bothered w/ doing it, just say that and don’t make excuses.

Then friend 2 said ” I would really like to see you when (her child) and I finally feel better”-fyi, friend 2 will make plans w/ me and my child, then a few hours before they are supposed to show up, I get a phone call from friend 2 saying “Oh, (her child and/or her) are sick, so we won’t be coming today”- to the point that if I believed her, her child would be sick literally all the time(I know this isn’t true as she hangs out w/ her other friends, and they leave her messages on her facebook page in regard to them). It has gotten to the point that my husband jokes anytime I have plans w/ her, b/c we both know they will never come to pass.

I asked h
er to help me w/ this b/c I thought it would be a nice thing for friend 1 and her children, as I have watched her go through not being able to be pregnant for several years, and this will probably be her only pregnancy. I was thinking about making her a diaper cake or 2 and putting things on &/or in it. I am still unemployed, but I wanted to do at least something that wasn’t a gift card, and the only other people are her family that live up north, whom I’ve never met. I told my husband what Friend 2 said, and he said that he thought it was kind of messed up.

I am starting to think that Friend 2 only really wants to talk to me when she has nothing better to do, and that she is not at all interested in seeing or hanging out w/ me anymore anyway, and I should just cut her out of my life. Granted I don’t get to see Friend 1 much, but we still talk occasionally, and try to get together during the summer when she isn’t working. I also know that she would really appreciate anything for the
babies.

Thoughts?
the only reason I included the info on friend 2 is b/c she has been friends w/ friend 1 longer than I have, and I am trying to determine why she is being so bi+Chy and childish(the not wanting to get someone something b/c she personally hasn’t received gifts). My problem w/ her is this, not that she doesn’t want to help. If she didn’t want to help and just said so, I would have understood, but just say that.
her reasons for not wanting to do it are the reason for my issue w/ her. you don’t give a gift w/ the expectation of getting something in return.
- ANSWER:
  Ok so on top of being really really long and drawn out and full of drama, it really has nothing to do with a baby shower in the end. It’s just drama between grown women that can be resolved by acting like they’re grown women, not high school teengagers.
  
  Sorry, i don’t mean to sound harsh but it’s true. If “friend 2″ doesn’t want to particpate in a throwing a baby shower, then we don’t need to know why and we certainly don’t need to know that she got knocked up by a one night stand. It just means she doesn’t want to participate and you should let it go at that and move on to find someone else who DOES want to participate.
QUESTION:
Friend protesting a baby shower for another friend?
I have a friend whom I have been friends w/ for about 3 1/2 years now(whom I will refer to as friend 1). She and her husband have been trying desperately to conceive for the last 5 years, and finally conceived via IVF a few months ago. My friend is a middle school teacher, and her husband is an economics professor at a small local state college, so they are not exactly rolling in money, and during the school year friend 1 is quite busy. They also found out they are having twins, so they are now preparing for 2 babies.

When I was expecting my son about 2 years ago, friend 1 didn’t come. She had recently had a severe letdown in the trying to conceive department(they were going to try a sperm donor, got almost to the end of the process, then the donor decided he didn’t want to donate anymore), so I understood(as it had taken me about a year to conceive my son, and we had had some concerns as to my fertility as well as my husbands due to previous medical issues on both our parts) why she wasn’t interested in coming. I saw her after this, and we talked, and I told her I understood her reasons for not coming, and left it at that.

Friend 1 also didn’t come to friend 2′s baby shower, but by this point they had drifted apart a bit, not to mention that friend 2 is a bit bossy and demanding(she is one of those ppl who do their best to make your POV the exact same as theirs), as well as had kind of made light of friend 1′s husbands fertility issues. Plus, Friend 2 had gotten pregnant on a 1 night stand w/ a guy she had been seeing off and on for the last year or more, after which she didn’t allow the guy to be a part of the pregnancy or the baby’s life for any reason other than she wanted to control every aspect. The guy had a good job, and was very nice(I met him a few times) and he was interested in being there, but backed off when friend 2 said she didnt want him around. I had been out of work about a year at this point, so I was pretty much broke, however I scraped up the money to get her some of the items she had on her registry(most of which were pretty expensive as they were all organic clothes, and all natural this and that, seventh generation diapers-which I can respect, b/c I do my best to get as much organic food and all natural things for my son and myself, but only to the extent I can afford, and when your friends are not that well off, you cannot expect them to just drop on an organic outfit set from a specialty store)and went to her baby shower w/ my then 7 month old son.

I emailed Friend 2 and another couple of our friends to ask them if they thought they would be interested in helping me host a proxy baby shower for Friend 1(I thought this would be easier for friend 1 b/c she is in the middle of preparing for her maternity leave, as well as middle of the school year whatnot, and it would mean that no one -except me and my husband- would have to drive all the way out to where she lives now as she lives about an hour and half away from most of us; & further from me). I thought it would be nice, as well as being helpful, as I have known a few mothers w/ twins, and every little bit helps in those circumstances, especially w/ things like diapers, and she is due at the beginning of May, so it is coming up quick.

No one responded to my email. I finally got a call from Friend 2, saying that she didn’t want to do it b/c “well, (friend 1) didn’t get me anything for my baby shower, and she didn’t get you anything for your baby shower or your wedding,”-neither of which bothered me btw- “I can’t afford to buy her anything” -you are a single mom working at an ipod store less than 20 hrs/week b/c you stay home w/ a “headache” at least once a week, you need get what you can afford, not spend every dime you make on over priced expensive things for your child, then complain about being totally broke all the time, not to mention if it was really that desperate of a situation, I could get a gift for her to give to her, or go in w/ her on something-” And (another of our friends) is mad at her(some situation that occured over a year ago, over some knitting needles), and w/ her having twins, she will get all this free stuff anyway”-At this point, I am just thinking to myself, If you don’t want to be bothered w/ doing it, just say that and don’t make excuses.

Then friend 2 said ” I would really like to see you when (her child) and I finally feel better”-fyi, friend 2 will make plans w/ me and my child, then a few hours before they are supposed to show up, I get a phone call from friend 2 saying “Oh, (her child and/or her) are sick, so we won’t be coming today”- to the point that if I believed her, her child would be sick literally all the time(I know this isn’t true as she hangs out w/ her other friends, and they leave her messages on her facebook page in regard to them). It has gotten to the point that my husband jokes anytime I have plans w/ her, b/c we both know they will never come to pass.

I asked h
er to help me w/ this b/c I thought it would be a nice thing for friend 1 and her children, as I have watched her go through not being able to be pregnant for several years, and this will probably be her only pregnancy. I was thinking about making her a diaper cake or 2 and putting things on &/or in it. I am still unemployed, but I wanted to do at least something that wasn’t a gift card, and the only other people are her family that live up north, whom I’ve never met. I told my husband what Friend 2 said, and he said that he thought it was kind of messed up.

I am starting to think that Friend 2 only really wants to talk to me when she has nothing better to do, and that she is not at all interested in seeing or hanging out w/ me anymore anyway, and I should just cut her out of my life. Granted I don’t get to see Friend 1 much, but we still talk occasionally, and try to get together during the summer when she isn’t working. I also know that she would really appreciate anything for the b
abies.

Thoughts?
I worked w/ both these friends for about 2 years, then we all moved on to different jobs but stayed friends.
- ANSWER:
  You sound like a nice lady. How on earth did you get mixed up with a dumb bimbo like friend 2?
QUESTION:
How should I feel about my husband talking to this one particular woman at work?
Before we moved to where we are now, my husband worked at the same company but a different branch. While he was there a woman started working there who is, let’s just say, stunning. When I first met her it was at the Christmas party and I was hugely pregnant. I felt awful. I was very obviously pregnant. When I went to the lady’s room at the Christmas party I was adjusting my maternity dress in the mirror and she came in and I made a comment about how the baby was kicking. She said “oh I didn’t realize you were pregnant! I just thought you were heavy!” I’m not the jealous type. I couldn’t give a rat’s behind who my husband works with. But this woman stretches my limits. My husband has a work email account that I have to log into often because he keeps in contact with our bank via forgets to CC me. Last year I logged on and noticed they were chatting away, many many emails long. They weren’t outwardly flirty but hey were not work related. I brushed it off at first but then there was another work party. She showed up dressed in the sexiest outfit and kept talking to my husband and ignoring me. I was really put off by it. We moved up here about 3 hours away and they still talk like they’re best friends. I asked my husband to put an end to it because I feel like it’s improper for her to be talking to him about her weekend and how much she plans on partying. Low and behold I log into his email today and see a message to him from her. One of their mutual co-workers is getting married and she wrote to him “What is she wearing to the wedding? I’d like to know what I have to trump!” I was so upset when I read that, that I almost vomited. What makes me more upset is that he wrote back and told her what I was wearing. Christ. Am I over reacting to this? It feels awful and I am awestruck that my husband would disrespect me like this. Some advice please???
Any suggestions on how I can tell her off in a classy way? I want to take the higher ground and not swear or be crass. But I do want her to know that I’m on to her.
He knows what I’m wearing because he bought the darned dress for me. He told her which one is was and what store it’s from.
- ANSWER:
  write her azz back and cc your husband and cuss her the phuck out. and tell her that you’ll do it again in front of everyone at the wedding when you see her again too.
  
  i’d cuss them BOTH out.
  
  **add on ** classy? there’s nothing “classy” about having to tell a woman to back off your husband. just do it. who cares how he or she feels about it? they obviously dont care how you (would) feel otherwise this wouldn’t be happening. stand up!!
QUESTION:
Would this outfit be okay to wear to a bachelorette party?

http://media.redcatsusa.com/is/image/roamans/mm/0530_74633_mm.jpg?wid=230&hei=331&qlt=95&op_sharpen=1

I’m a little self conscious because I had a baby not too long ago and my body is still larger than usual. And it’s going to be difficult to lose weight because my thyroid isn’t working anymore because of the pregnancy. So I want something that’s stylish and cute but hides my “baby fat”. I’m self conscious about my butt, thighs, and tummy. My sister-in-law’s wedding is saturday and her bachelorette party is tomorrow. We’re going bar hopping basically.

Ugh. I just don’t look like myself at all anymore. I either have to shop in maternity or plus sizes and nothing fits me correctly anymore.

Thanks for your input!
- ANSWER:
  totally cute, baby doll dresses are really in season. Wear some hot heels and work those legs..oh and if you can afford it get your hair done.. sometimes when you feeling self conscious great hair can do heaps for your self confidence.
  Also give yourself some credit you just has a baby!
  Have fun!!
QUESTION:
I am looking for a maternity outfit to wear to a wedding?
Anyone have any suggestions? I am due in July but the wedding is in April so I’ll still be pregnant with my beautiful twins…
Money is not an object I make plenty…
- ANSWER:
  Have a look here
  
  http://www.tiffanyrose.com/
  
  They have really nice stuff!