Shrugs For Weddings

Frequently Asked Questions

1. QUESTION:
   what do you think of winter white weddings?
   thinking of getting married jan 2010 in uk where im from.Obviously our weather is very unpredictable but thought it would be nice at the start of the year, winter theme, bridesmaids in fluffy shrugs and then jetting off to somewhere hot for honeymoon?
   I have had my wedding dress for 9 months,maggie sottero and it has silver and pearl detail around the bust so like what emily said,i was thinking of adding a silver theme with the white and then going for a deep colour for the bridesmid dresses.Thanx guys for all your veiws!
   Wedding in florida sounds great future Mrs Zigler.Funny enough,florida is where we are thinking for honeymoon.Ive been looking at deep puple bm dresses and they do look stunning and just that little bit different.All the best for your feb wedding!

   • ANSWER:
     I’m getting married in Jan 2010 too! We choose a destination wedding to keep costs down and will be getting married in the Italian alps. At least we will be guaranteed beautiful white snow. I have choosen to wear white to keep the winter theme and then silver for my only bridesmaid. I will be keeping all the jewelry clear crystal so give everything a bit of an ice queen feel but I dont want to go overbaord.

     It’s family only and we have booked a long quite traditional meal afterwards in the hotel. They have a small bar with a huge open fire for us to use which is why I chose that hotel!

     Have a faux fur bolero in white for my bridesmaid and little cream fur coat and hat for my daughter who will be two.

     After that the men are wearing grey Italian day suits (nothing too formal) and I think I will decide to go with crystal bouquets and buttonholes.

     I have tonnes of ideas that I didn’t use because I wanted to keep things simple. I still have them all on file so let me know if there is anything I can suggest.

     Hope you have a great wedding. I think (obviously) that a winter wedding is the perfect time to unite…if you get married when the world is all bear then you have all the glorious days of growing together ahead of you!

     PS> This is the way I’m starting my wedding invitations…
     “the weather outside is frightful, but our wedding will be delightful!”

2. QUESTION:
   can anyone give me some tips about what to wear to a wedding?
   i’ve only ever been to 3 weddings, one was my mums, one was my aunt’s (and both of those i was like 10) and my partners brothers wedding which wasnt the same style of wedding as this one. Sooooo…i have no idea what to wear. The wedding is in 3 weeks, i’m panicing like crazy. It’s listed on the invite as a formal wedding, ceremony at 3 followed by dinner at a fancy venue.

   Here is my dillema….
   1. I will not wear a dress
   2. I’m a bigger gal so it’s a little harder for me to find clothes
   3. skirt or pants??
   4. what type of shoes??
   5. jewellery??
   6. what kind of top do i wear (i was thinking about a sleeveless shirt with a little black shrug??)

   its only a small wedding (40 people) so i’m guessing that we are gonna be in some photos and i dont want to look awful

   please help….
   *bride told me that it is formal in the way that her hubby’s brothers would wear jeans to their wedding if they didnt write formal..if you get the drift…..ben (my partner) has been told that for the men it is just expected for them to wear black pants, nice shirt and tie, not full suit…if you get my drift…so formal, as in prom formal, isnt expected for the women…i live in australia, so its autumn, weather will be around 25C, cool but not cold.
   definitely know not to wear white, never wear white anyways so wouldnt to a wedding, am happy to wear heels, if i was to wear nice black pants, what colours should i look for in a top and what colours are definitely no go’s in tops (i know of white and black)

   • ANSWER:
     If it’s formal and you don’t want to wear a dress, I’d recommend the following:

     * Wide leg, very nice pants.
     * Strappy heeled sandals
     * A nicely detailed fitted top. If you can’t find that, a detailed silk or satin tank with a shrug.
     * Jewelry should be understated, but balance nicely. If you’re wearing your hair up, wear earrings and a necklace, otherwise just the necklace.
     * Something like http://www.igigi.com/shop/index.cfm?fuseaction=product.display&currentpage=11&Product_ID=205&fromcat=22&disptype=3
     * Or http://www.igigi.com/shop/index.cfm?fuseaction=product.display&currentpage=11&Product_ID=234&fromcat=22&disptype=3

     It’s early enough in the year that you can get away without wearing pastels if you’re uncomfortable in them, but lighter colors are best for spring weddings. Also, since the wedding is an afternoon wedding with a formal dinner, I’d say at least be willing to entertain the idea of a dress. Maybe something like this? http://www.igigi.com/shop/index.cfm?fuseaction=product.display&currentpage=5&Product_ID=397&fromcat=22&disptype=3

3. QUESTION:
   What about autumn and winter brides? Why is there not more variety with gowns?
   It seems that the majority of wedding gowns are strapless. The rest seem to mostly be spaghetti straps, halter, straps, and maybe cap sleeves. There seems to be very little in the way of dresses with sleeves. I know I have looked at tens of thousands of dresses on line – and very few have sleeves. Many that do have sleeves are very plain – almost like t-shirt sleeves.

   I know I could get a bolero jacket or shrug – I never really cared for that look, but that’s what I’ll probably have to get.

   I just don’t get it. I couldn’t possibly be the only bride who wants a pretty dress with sleeves and not a huge “glinda” skirt. Strapless gowns don’t seem very logical for weddings in the fall and winter.

   Does anyone know how the strapless trend got so huge – almost to the exclusion of everything else?

   Is there anyone else out there who doesn’t want a strapless dress?

   • ANSWER:
     Finally, someone who agrees with me about there being WAY too many strapless gowns, and brides who are sheep all following the trend.
     I suppose I was lucky enough to find a beautiful traditional gown with a scoop neck and long sleeves, of heavy bridal satin and lots of crystals, pearls, sequins and lace appliques on the sleeves, bodice, and in places around the skirt of the dress and train.
     I really do think that if you look hard enough, or ask at bridal shops, that you should be able to find something. I have seen links on here throughout the last months…
     Good luck to you in your hunt!

4. QUESTION:
   Am I being too harsh on my boyfriend?
   My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 18 months. Although we are in a long distance relationship (about an hour and a half apart) we are very happy together.
   We recently got an invite to my uncle’s birthday party and said we’d go. I found out a week later that my boyfriend had RSVP’d to a Buck’s party for the same day. He’s now told me he’s not going to my uncle’s party as he wants to go to the Buck’s party.
   My boyfriend has been invited to two weddings within two weeks of each other, one for one of his good mates and the other is for his cousin. I have met his mate at least half a dozen times but never met his cousin.
   Knowing that the weddings were coming up, he took me shopping so I could buy a nice new dress to wear, only to find out now that I haven’t been invited to either wedding.
   I’m so upset about this because as I feel that I should be invited, regardless of whether his cousin has met me or not.
   My boyfriend is Greek and I’m Australian and I’ve been told by friends that unless we’re married, I’m basically not recognised as anything.
   I’ve voiced my opinion to my boyfriend and he just shrugs his shoulders and asks me what I expect him to do.
   I’ve asked that he at least not go to the bucks party so that we can spend at that weekend together but he’s refusing.
   Am I being too tough on him or do I have a right to be very disappointed with the way I’m being treated? I’m not nothing and do not feel it fair that I am treated as such. A ring on my finger should not being determining whether I get invited to things or not.
   This isn’t the first time I’ve been excluded from things and the last time it happened it caused a massive argument.
   Any advice/suggestions would be appreciated.
   Thanks for your help in advance:):)

   • ANSWER:
     you’re not being too tuff. its fine you should be disappointed

5. QUESTION:
   Outfit for a wedding?
   I got a good black dress, I’ve worn it to weddings before with a pair of red barely-there strappy heels and a white shrug. The shrug is only if the reception is overly air conditioned. I tried to find a black clutch today but I ended up with a silver one, is that cool? red white black and silver?

   • ANSWER:
     yeah. Its not like your gonna be pictured with the clutch, its jsut to hold your things. THe red, balck, and white are a good combination, especially the white it will break up all that balck that people dont want to see at a wedding. To match the clutch you might want to wear some silver jewlery.

     Have fun

6. QUESTION:
   What is a analysis of the poem “Shooting Kinesha?”?
   Shooting Kinesha

   “I hate what I come from,” says my cousin Shoshana,
   22, jawing per always, feather earrings tangling
   in her light brown hair. Shoshana hangs on to Kinesha,
   her kid, to stop her running off. Our cousin Deb’s
   wedding just got out; we’re standing at the bottom
   of the wedding hall steps. “White people
   don’t have culture, except what they stole
   from our African brothers.” Shoshana’s
   wearing black, per always, me too, her in leather,
   me in acetate-velour. “Weddings, U-G-H.”
   Shoshana spells out ugh like it’s spelled
   in books. “I hope yours was cooler than this.”
   I nod. I always nod at Shoshana, whatever she says.
   Shoshana checks, rechecks her watch, watching
   for her boyfriend. I’m waiting for my husband too.
   I’ve been a pain in the ass to him all morning.
   Shoshana sips cheap California champagne
   to hide her upset feelings. Kinesha breaks loose,
   veers close to the street and parked cars and traffic,
   thrashes her lace anklets and buckle shoes
   into a crowd of part-white pigeons.

   “In London I only hung out with Jamaicans,”
   Shoshana says. “People gave me looks on the bus.
   Ouch.” She detangles an earring. “Once I ripped
   an earlobe on these. Anyway, I want you to meet
   my boyfriend. He’s cool, he’s sticking by me.
   He says he knew he could when I wouldn’t
   dime him out after they caught me with his pot
   in the Kingston airport. Kinesha’s his. He’s
   the only guy I’ve loved since, you know, Ken?”
   Ken’s the one who died beside her
   of an overdose in the Motel 6 in Ohio
   the time she was 16 and stole her dad’s Beamer
   to run away. “You heard?” Of course I did,
   in this family. “Kinesha’s Kinesha
   to remember him,” she says. “I still miss him.”
   I nod. I poke Kinesha’s belly, her nose.
   “U-G-H,” says Kinesha, annoyed. I’m bad with kids.
   “I’m teaching her to assert herself,” Shoshana says.
   Her wrist-chains jangle. I twist my wedding ring.
   An organ somewhere plays “Ode to Joy.”

   Here comes the third bad cousin, Christina,
   scruff-haired in the pale-pink prom dress
   the bride her sister made her wear. ,000
   per year doing something with websites and she
   can’t even keep her hair in order. “Isn’t it awful?”
   Christina says, “What do I look like, Gwyneth Paltrow?
   You guys look swell.” She’s good with kids:
   Kinesha slams herself for a hug into Christina’s
   legs. Christina and Kinesha kiss. She says
   “Did you like my PowerPoint presentation
   on the bride’s life? Did you think it was funny?
   Go play with the pigeons.” She puts Kinesha down.
   “Deb wanted a poem, but don’t you hate poems?
   Was it wrong of me to start with an Eminem quote?”
   Kinesha shouts, staggers, stamps at the pigeons;
   jaded, they hardly move, only jump-start
   halfhearted when Kinesha brandishes
   her one-armed naked Barbie above her head,
   then turns Barbie into a gun, shoots
   at the pigeons. “I feel like we should be
   sneaking around back with cigarettes
   like we used to, remember?” says Christina.
   “Too bad we don’t smoke anymore.”

   Shoshana takes out her Newports, lights up.
   I’m remembering we never much liked each other,
   only hung together at family gatherings
   because we were supposed to be the bad ones.
   I hate what I come from. I say “My father
   just told me again my poems are ‘too full
   of disgusting sex.’ He said ‘Why don’t you
   write more like Derek Walcott?’ I’m sick
   of him throwing deep-thinking
   genius men up at me.” Christina rolls
   her eyes, shakes her head, fudges hair tendrils
   back into her frizzy twisted updo, vibrates
   her lips, blows air out. “Can you tell I’m
   drunk already?” she asks. I nod. She shrugs.
   “Well, why not, Deb didn’t invite single guys

   for me like I asked her. Selfish as always.”

   Shoshana checks her watch. “I’m gonna kill him.”
   I wish I wanted to kill my husband.
   Right now, I hate everything, everybody,
   and don’t have a friend in the world
   except my husband. It’s true he dislikes me
   more and more these days but at least
   he likes my poems and hates Derek Walcott.
   Kinesha sprays Barbie bullets at everything,
   Barbie’s head as bald as her elided crotch.
   “I didn’t buy her that racist, sexist doll,”
   says Shoshana. Christina and I nod.
   “She found my old one. I pulled
   all her hair out when I was 14
   and shaved my head the first time.”
   Kinesha moves away from the settling pigeons,
   turns her Barbie gun on us, shoots.
   Rat-a-tat-tat. “Ugh, you got me,”
   we say, and “BANG!” I say. We turn
   our hands into guns, three bad cousins,
   Mother, Bridesmaid, Wife-and-Daughter,
   for all our different reasons, shooting the child.

   • ANSWER:
     This is a real ‘urban poem’, full of pain and grit and anger about her situation which appears to have no solution,e xcept one of violence

     The tenor is harsh and strong, unrelenting in its verbal assault

7. QUESTION:
   How do you deal with a RIDICULOUSLY IMMATURE wife (or any other family member) ?
   My wife is really immature and irresponsible and I get really exasperated about her attitude, it’s frustrating and Ive told her on numerous occasions that she needs to grow up but she just raises her eyebrows and shrugs and sort of smiles – I don’t know what she means by doing that but it sure gets on my nerves, one issue we have is when we’re invited to a wedding she never wants to go cause “weddings are sooo boring”, we’re invited to my cousins wedding in December and she’s like “I’m not going, tell them I don’t wanna go into the church cause I’m Jewish” , that’s an excuse as she isnt even practising, she just can’t handle the boredom of a wedding again.

   Though she’s immature, she’s not rude or unkind in any way, to anyone, ever, she’s not spoilt or antisocial or anything like that, and we get along well for the most part but she doesnt know how to compromise and doesnt like to do anything that inconveniences her too much. She has quit numerous jobs by the way with the reasons “It was too boring or too tiring” and “I didnt like working Mondays cause it spoiled my weekend knowing I had to work Monday” and she wont go to certain restaurants where she knows they take long to serve the food cause she hates waiting cause it bores her, it’s the same thing with long ques, when we were in Toronto she really wanted to go see something but when we got there the que was too long so she refused to que and we had to go do something else instead cause she didnt want to wait 5 minutes cause she was complaining of being too cold. Plus she outright refuses to take the dog for a walk if its raining a little or if it looks like its going to rain cause she doesnt want it to affect her hair or eye mascara, if you think women with “problems” like this only exist in movies you’re wrong cause she’s actually like that and when I first met her I could just roll my eyes about it and figure that women will be women but now I’m just seeing it as immature and a little selfish.

   We have a good marriage but like every one else we do have our share of problems from time to time, this being one of the main ones right now, well it’s a problem to me but not to her, so I thought this would be a good place to ask advice. I’m 28 so not that much older than her, she’s 24 (almost 25), we’ve been married for 2 years. Like Ive said shes a good person, very sweet and humerous, but terribly immature.

   Shes the youngest of 4 by the way, and the only girl in her family, she was raised by her dad for the most part but due to family circumstances spent time in foster care too, so perhaps her upbringing has something to do with how she is now?
   I dont believe in divorce and if I did this would not be a valid reason for one

   • ANSWER:
     She needs you to motivate her.
     Spank her when she acts immature.
     If she’s going to act like a child, she should be treated as such.
     I am a spanked wife. Your wife and all wives need the firm discipline of a man.
     Women need to be spanked when they act like that.

8. QUESTION:
   My wife is ridiculously IMMATURE and it’s driving me nuts, am I overreacting ?
   My wife is really immature and irresponsible and I get really exasperated about her attitude, it’s frustrating and Ive told her on numerous occasions that she needs to grow up but she just raises her eyebrows and shrugs and sort of smiles – I don’t know what she means by doing that but it sure gets on my nerves, one issue we have is when we’re invited to a wedding she never wants to go cause “weddings are sooo boring”, we’re invited to my cousins wedding in December and she’s like “I’m not going, tell them I don’t wanna go into the church cause I’m Jewish” , that’s an excuse as she isnt even practising, she just can’t handle the boredom of a wedding again.

   Though she’s immature, she’s not rude or unkind in any way, to anyone, ever, she’s not spoilt or antisocial or anything like that, and we get along well for the most part but she doesnt know how to compromise and doesnt like to do anything that inconveniences her too much. She has quit numerous jobs by the way with the reasons “It was too boring or too tiring” and “I didnt like working Mondays cause it spoiled my weekend knowing I had to work Monday” and she wont go to certain restaurants where she knows they take long to serve the food cause she hates waiting cause it bores her, it’s the same thing with long ques, when we were in Toronto she really wanted to go see something but when we got there the que was too long so she refused to que and we had to go do something else instead cause she didnt want to wait 5 minutes cause she was complaining of being too cold. Plus she outright refuses to take the dog for a walk if its raining a little or if it looks like its going to rain cause she doesnt want it to affect her hair or eye mascara, if you think women with “problems” like this only exist in movies you’re wrong cause she’s actually like that and when I first met her I could just roll my eyes about it and figure that women will be women but now I’m just seeing it as immature and a little selfish.

   We have a good marriage but like every one else we do have our share of problems from time to time, this being one of the main ones right now, well it’s a problem to me but not to her, so I thought this would be a good place to ask advice. I’m 28 so not that much older than her, she’s 24 (almost 25), we’ve been married for 2 years.
   Yes Riso I married her cause overall she’s a good person but she has her downfalls like everyone else, this is one of them
   I dont believe in divorce and if I did this wouldnt be a reason for one anyway

   • ANSWER:
     You are married to a “princess”. She is still very young. I’m sure she will fall from her high horse soon enough. What you can do is not help in sheltering her. If she doesn’t want to walk the dog than don’t have one. If she quits her jobs than don’t give her money. If she doesn’t like waiting for her food than always take her to McDonald’s or Burger King. I’m sure she will get the picture soon enough.

9. QUESTION:
   my dad keeps asking me what I’m doing?
   Why does my dad keeps asking me what I’m doing? To give a little background, I am not around him much, I am often in my room on either on my computer or reading/listening to books that I get from the library. In addition, I had a run in with the law, which seems to have changed things between us. Also, my dad leaves for work around 3:30 am and doesn’t come home until 4 pm. Also, my dad is always telling me to do things, such as wash the dishes, take the dog out (especially before we go out), vacuum, mow the lawn, weed whack, sweep out the drain to the sum pump, or do the laundry. I feel that if he’d just stop telling me to do these things that he just may find they would get done without him having to constantly say so.

   I would like to say that I do not like him asking me what I’m doing so often and why can’t he just leave me alone, I find it very irritating that he wishes to know what I’m doing all the time. It’s not like anyone is asking him what he is doing all the time.

   Likewise, I am wondering why my father is a photographer who says that I’m not interested in photography, but when he found a photography magazine in my room he just shrugs it off as being mailed to the wrong address instead of seeing that I do have that interest. Likewise, when he initially made that accusation, I did tell him that I was interested in HDR photography, but he did not make any effort to find out what that was. Moreover, I help him on weddings and there have been instances where he says that he is making suggestions, for instance this weekend’s wedding, he said that I should move to get a better angle to get a better picture. In his example he showed me two angles where the fathers of the bride and groom were adjusting each others flower, yet I’m already in the practice of moving to a better angle.

   On another occasion, he made the accusation that I do not take pride in my work. He says that I just throw all of his tools back into the toolbag. That was very unnerving to hear, since I do organize the tools whereas, he does not, and his excuse was that I am sometimes in a hurry.
   There’s my dad. Just look at him.

   http://img340.imageshack.us/img340/3746/itshim.jpg

   You know, I used to think that he was just trying to start up a conversation, but I do not believe that anymore. Does he not see that it irritates me for him to ask me that? I’m respecting his privacy and staying out of his business, why isn’t he doing so for me?
   Also, there is hostility in his voice when he asks, “What are you doing?” Likewise, I am wondering why is always looking around my room instead of making eye contact with me when he comes in.

   • ANSWER:
     Your dad keeps asking what you are doing because he is a clunky man who loves you and is doing his best to show an interest in you. He expects you to help out around the house because good parents teach their kids responsibility. Sadly, when you have a run-in with the law, it is his responsibility to tighten up a little around the house until you can prove you have straightened up.

     He doesn’t listen well because you have some communication problems. Yeah, he is kind of clunky, but men often are with teenagers or young adults. Try asking HIM some questions. Show an interest in him. Ask him how he thinks something should be framed. He probably thinks you are acting like a typical teenage know-it-all. Prove you aren’t. Shoot his angles, then suggest you try your angle “as well” and look at all three. Be sure to thank him for the opportunity to go along.

     When he accuses you of something like throwing the tools in the bag, instead of getting upset, use that as a door to open communication. Ask him how he wants you to do it differently. You might find he wants you to put the heavier things in the bottom or something very simple you hadn’t thought of.

     Usually, if you talk over popcorn, ice cream, or some kind of food, it helps to bring out real conversation. This is a dad who is really trying. Give him a chance. Many people your age would LOVE to have a dad who is trying half that hard.

10. QUESTION:
    please help….what do i wear to a wedding???
    i’ve only ever been to 3 weddings, one was my mums, one was my aunt’s (and both of those i was like 10) and my partners brothers wedding which wasnt the same style of wedding as this one. Sooooo…i have no idea what to wear. The wedding is in 3 weeks, i’m panicing like crazy. It’s listed on the invite as a formal wedding, ceremony at 3 followed by dinner at a fancy venue.

    Here is my dillema….
    1. I will not wear a dress
    2. I’m a bigger gal so it’s a little harder for me to find clothes
    3. skirt or pants??
    4. what type of shoes??
    5. jewellery??
    6. what kind of top do i wear (i was thinking about a sleeveless shirt with a little black shrug??)

    its only a small wedding (40 people) so i’m guessing that we are gonna be in some photos and i dont want to look awful

    please help….
    *bride told me that it is formal in the way that her hubby’s brothers would wear jeans to their wedding if they didnt write formal..if you get the drift…..ben (my partner) has been told that for the men it is just expected for them to wear black pants, nice shirt and tie, not full suit…if you get my drift…so formal, as in prom formal, isnt expected for the women…i live in australia, so its autumn, weather will be around 25C, cool but not cold.
    definitely know not to wear white, never wear white anyways so wouldnt to a wedding, am happy to wear heels, if i was to wear nice black pants, what colours should i look for in a top and what colours are definitely no go’s in tops (i know of white and black)

    • ANSWER:
      For the ceremony at the church, you can wear a suit. Long or three quarter sleeves for the church please or a jacket to cover cleaveage and arms.

      Since you decided not to wear a dress, and the dress code is formal, you can wear a SUIT. Please, not pant suits, it’s very tacky to attend a weeding on a pant suit.

      So your option is to wear a knee, mid-calf or long skirt 2-piece suit in a light color (spring). Pink, green, baby blue, yellow, lavander, coral are all appropriate choices.

      NO mini-skirts, pants suits, no black, white or ivory please.

      For accesories, please wear a conservative necklace and a bracelet and nice matching earrings. One ring is enough. Please, do not wear flashy bling, several necklaces or multiple rings, that is a big no-no.

      I hope this helps. Good luck

      PS/ People, there is a difference bewteen formal and black tie. On a black tie affair you are expected to wear a gown. The party that she will be attending has a FORMAL dress code, so a dress or a suit are appropriate choices. Good luck.

11. QUESTION:
    Wedding dress Jay wears in ‘My Wife and Kids’ with sleeves!?
    Help! After a serious car accident left my left arm in need of reconstructive surgery I have bad scaring on my left arm. In search of a wedding dress I saw an episode of ‘my wife and kids’ where Michael & Jay renewed their wedding vows in which Jay was wearing the most gorgeous wedding dress with sleeves I’ve ever seen. However after much searching for weddings dresses with sleeves you either get lace sleeves, short sleeves or a shrug which I don’t want. I’m pretty much after the exact dress from this episode of my wife of kids where she has an off the shoulder dress going across just under the shoulders down into three quarter length sleeves. I wondered if anyone has come across a dress like this or if anyone has any idea where I could find a photo/still of this episode so I least have a photo of the dress in order to get it made for me??? any help would be much appreciated, many thanks.

    • ANSWER:
      I found a picture!

      http://www.mywifeandkids.com/images/gallery/Season_02/gallery.html?photo=41

      It’s not the best picture in the world – but you are right – the dress is GORGEOUS!

      Good luck – I really hope you can have the dress made!

12. QUESTION:
    Question about dress to wear to wedding/reception?
    Ok don’t laugh I have never been to a church wedding. All the weddings I have been to have been outdoor weddings or casual type weddings. I have to go to my brother in laws wedding in July and it is in a church. Is it okay to wear like an knee length sleeveless dress and maybe wear a shrug while in church and then take the shrug off for the reception? Also are you supposed to change your outfit from the wedding and change to go to the reception. I’m not in the wedding just a guest. Thanks in advance!

    I was thinking about this dress, it is knee length, with some killer heels what do you guys think…. be honest, I’m 26 yrs old.

    http://www.newport-news.com/shop/product_single.aspx?style_id=30322206&index=28&gp_coll_id=9&gp_cat_id=1649&nav_cat_id=1686&category_id=1689

    • ANSWER:
      yes I like that dress, black is ‘the’ color to wear to weddings believe it or not. granted in the summer it can be hot to wear black- literally- but I went to a wedding in Feb. and was the only gal not wearing black. I usually do tho. that newport dress is great, and you can wear it again to other events. and perfectly suitable for church. it’s a good idea to bring a shrug or wrap with you for the ceremony because some churches (catholic) require shoulders to be covered. no you don’t have to change for the reception, you just wear the same thing all day.

13. QUESTION:
    is this piece of writing okay?
    I’m a 13 year old girl and this is a paragraph from the novel I’m writing. I know it seems cliched but it’s not.The gebres are mystery, fantasy and romance. I know it won’t be that good I just want some opinions. Sorry for bad grammar etc. I will answer any of your questions if you paste them one. Thanks x

    The beach was already packed when we got there, I didn’t know it was so popular (probably because I never came here at night.). Rhemy parked the car and went to the trunk.
    “Did you bring enough?” Mallory asked her walking round to the trunk.
    “I think so, we can have two each.” Rhemy said hauling a pack of beer out of the trunk.
    “Are you guys gonna drink that?” Julian asked, “I want one!’ At first I thought he as going to give them a lecture about drinking. I looked at him with surprise written all over my face.
    “What?” He shrugged, “I like it.”
    “D’you want one Silver?” Mallory asked me.
    “Uh okay. Thanks.” I took a drink of the beer, it was quite sweet in a weird way. I didn’t drink, the only time I had alcohol was at new year and at weddings.
    “C’mon lets go down to the beach.” Rhemy said already walking away. When we had picked up Julian Rhemy and Mallory were instantly chatting away to him. It was like they had known him for years, which I suppose they had since Julian was always in sugar and spice. Julian had dressed up especially he was wearing his favorite skinny jeans, (the armani ones he’d saved up for three years to buy.) a blue sweater that suited his skin tone and his new sneakers.
    “You’re looking nice.” I said to Julian, Rhemy and Mallory were walking a little ahead.
    “Thanks! Thought I’d make an effort.”
    “Hoping to see anyone in particular?” I asked casually.
    Julian blushed scarlet, “No!”
    I knew he was hoping to see the new guy at school, who he thinks is gay.
    “Have you found out his name yet?” I asked
    “Who’s name?”
    “C’mon you know who I mean, the new guy at school. I know you totally like him. A lot.”
    “Fine! I like him. He’s called Justin and think he may be gay. He’s in my geometry class.”
    I laughed, “At least he’ll keep you awake.”
    “I like geometry.” Was all Julian said.
    Mallory turned round suddenly, “C’mon guys keep up!”
    I half walked half skipped to were they were waiting trying not to spill my drink all over me.
    “So what is it you guys do here then?” Julian asked. He was looking around, obviously to see if Justin was here. I did the same but I was looking for someone else.
    Rhemy shrugged, “Dance, hang out and look for some hot guys.”
    “D’you see anyone you like?” Mallory asked me.
    “Nu-huh.” Julian said shaking his head, “Silver’s already spoken for.”
    “By who?” Rhemy asked.
    “Zach Carter.” Julian said looking at Rhemy and Mallory’s startled faces, “I know right.”
    Rhemy let out her breath, “I’m so jealous right now I could kill you.”
    “Ditto.” Mallory said.
    Music started blaring from a stereo nearby making me jump. Mallory squealed.
    “Woo lets go dance!” She said running along the beach shaking her hips with her arms above her head. Julian followed her doing the same then Rhemy followed. I didn’t want to dance in front of all these people so I sat down on the sand and watched them. I loved the feeling of sand I took of my sandals and moved my feet through it, the grains got stuck in between my toes. I looked up at the sky, it looked like a navy blue blanket covering the world. There was no clouds out tonight so the stars were on full show, the were so pretty. I smiled.
    “You look happy.” I snapped my head up and saw Luc the guy from my art class standing next to me. He was looking down at me smiling.
    “Really? I was just looking at the sky.”
    He sat down beside me, “It’s beautiful isn’t it? Just like you.”
    “Excuse me?” Who was this guy? He hadn’t paid any attention to me until a few days ago. I knew he was Zach’s friend and that he was on the football team but that’s it.
    “It was a compliment.” He told me making me seem dumb.
    “I know that, but why are you talking to me?”
    “Because I want to. Where’re your friends? Did they ditch you? I can give you a lift home if you want.” He reached out and touched my face lightly.
    “What the hell are you doing?”I shouted.
    He flinched, “Nothing. I… I was just trying to be nice. Look, Silver. I know your dating Zach but you shouldn’t be. You should me dating me.”

    • ANSWER:
      I get bored easily with the teenage – young adult (up to 29) ‘I- need- a- boyfriend-worried- about- my- clothes- friends- rep- future’ type stories. Ok that’s a preference so if I seem harsh forgive me.

      I’m going to skip over the scene set up stuff and jump right to the important Luc / Silver moment. I hate Luc. The reason she hates him. NOT GOOD if you want him to hang around. You need to separate him from her feelings of him for your reader. For example.
      ie: He’d recently started speaking to me in class. He was a whiz in trig and was able to give me some hints that made me understand ___________. When he saw I was being held up by a teacher one day he gave a shout so that she let me go even though he didn’t hang around. In gym he picked me for his team then played me a few times, but let me bench it. I am so bad at sports and he made it look like I’d played more than I actually had.

      You need to make your reader like Luc if he’s going to do something ‘crappy’ like steal his best friends girl or else your reader will never ever like them together if you plan it that way. The other problem is that if we always hate him we won’t have a problem letting him go.

14. QUESTION:
    Destination wedding….a good idea?
    My fiance and I have started discussing wedding plans. I would like to be married in April (the month we first met in). He would like the wedding to be sooner, rather than later, but I think we need more time to save than this April will give us. I have my heart set on a Jamaican Honeymoon. I have already started thinking about EVERYTHING. Church, hall, colors, attendants… His feeling is “we dont need all that company”. When he first made this comment, I shrugged it off. But as I got to thinking about it, he doesnt have alot of family that he is close to. I think he may be concerned with matching my 5 bridesmaids and 5 jr bridesmaids with 10 people. Now I am considering a destination wedding, in Jamaica of course, for just the two of us, then a reception for all of our family and friends when we return. Does anyone know anything about these type of weddings? Ive been looking at the Sandals websites. Will a destination wedding save me money? Considering I am combining the wedding and honeymoon…. What about cruises? Any one been on one? I need tips/advice! Also, a good friend of mine was going to be the photographer (shes a pro)-if I have a destination wedding, shud I pay to have her come along?

    PS-I LOVE the idea of a beach wedding-we had our first date on the beach and its been one of our favorite places since!
    Wow. Actually, I NEVER expected either of our parents to pay for ANYTHING. Even if we were to get married where we live. WE are footing the bill for EVERYTHING. If we go to Jamaica, it will be JUST THE TWO OF US-so no costs for other people. And the reception would be our celebration party, for everyone.

    • ANSWER:
      Check out Couples resorts in Jamaica. We stayed at Couples Negril twice in 2005 & 2006. We loved it. They are constantly doing weddings on the beach. Couples is an all inclusive resort which includes food, drinks, and entertainment. We spent around 4 grand for a week including air. I think that is less than doing a mainland wedding followed by a honeymoon. I think a destination wedding is a wonderful idea. Check out this video if you can of a wedding at Couples Negril: http://vimeo.com/12093533
      Couples also has a website with a message board of other visitors. www.couples.com

15. QUESTION:
    what to wear with this dress?

    http://www.nowmagazine.co.uk/imageBank/d/Debenhams-black-multi-spot-.jpg

    i got mine from ebay and the belt didint come with it, but ive got plenty of black belts to choose from….
    what else can i wear with it? its for a weddings reception(not the actual wedding, just the night party)….
    i make my own jewellery… http://www.amyegglestonejewellery.co.uk so i can easily make jewellery to match…but what colours? white, blue or black?
    also if i wear a shrug shall i wear white or black?
    and do i do tights or not? (im tall and plus size)and what kind? thick black, or glossy kind?(i never wear tights, tho rarely have my legs on show lol)
    erm…whats next….shoes? im tall so dont want huge heals…would ones like these be ok..http://www.polyvore.com/cgi/img-thing?.out=jpg&size=l&tid=12969280 but in black with slightly smaller heel?
    think thats all i have to ask haha
    no silly answers, or spam please
    thanks for first response..forgot bout bags…lol…i think white shoes wud look but cheap..but might see if i can find blue..if not it will have to be black…..
    as for 2nd response…biker jacket???for a wedding?? i think not…
    if you dont have a sensible answer to the question, dont respond….for those who have answered properly, thank you, i will take it all in consideration

    • ANSWER:

16. QUESTION:
    Oh, please, please, help! ?
    I’m a plain girl. I wear normal clothes, and rarely any makeup. Only on special occasions, like weddings, when I’m forced into it.
    I was sitting in my seat in class, on only the 5th day of school, when a boy that sat behind me started tracing my spine. It was annoying me, but the class was pretty boring, so I kinda shrugged him off anyways. He quit for a while, and then about 10 minutes later…He did it again! But that’s not the worst part. The teacher left out of the classroom really quickly, and the guy snapped my bra! He keeps waving his eyebrows at me in a really disgusting manner, and will not leave me alone. talking about his friends and ‘wrestling and winning’. (as if I care) He will not stop cornering me in the hallways, I even kicked him once, but he just smirked. and I just want him to stop. He’s obnoxious, moronic, and pushy.
    Any ideas or tips on how to make him stop doing that or liking me? (if he does like me, he could just be a perv or something)
    Sorry for being so long.
    (im really not one to go tattletaling)

    • ANSWER:
      Stand up to him! Be a strong girl! And whenever you see him give him that evil look… And if he kept doing the same things tell your teacher about it… (btw, violence is always an option to stand up against boys)

17. QUESTION:
    Two Questions, First: I’m going to a wedding for someone I don’t know, am I supposed to act a certain way or?
    So, I haven’t been to very many weddings… and in two weeks I’m going to a wedding as a date for my friend. I won’t know anyone except him, and I was just wondering if there’s a certain etiquette for going to a wedding for someone you don’t know?

    Second question: The wedding is on a beach in Seattle, WA where it tends to rain a lot… Not sure how the weather will be that weekend, but I have a blue-ish dress with a white shrug that I’m planning to wear, and I wanted to know if that’s ok for a beach setting?
    Sorry, I should of said it’s kind of a turquoise color… So it’s not light

    Thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      What you’re planning to wear sounds great. As far as how to act, I think the way you would act at anyone else’s wedding or any party you’ve been to where you only knew a few people. That’s really all the reception is anyway, is a party.

18. QUESTION:
    I think my boyfriend is about to propose?
    My boyfriend is planning a romantic trip this weekend and has been stressing about it for weeks. He keeps updating me on what the weather will be like, activities he’s booking for us (private horseback rides, etc.), and even questions about fine dining. He’s planning everything! It’s at this ridiculously fancy resort in the mountains and seems like it was planned a bit out of the blew. Before all of these plans, he had suggested we visit my family, during which he chose to stay home with my dad at one point when I accompanied my mother to the grocery store, which is VERY unlike him. Not that he and my dad don’t get along, he just that he likely comes with me whenever I run out somewhere with a family member. I thought it was sort of out of character but figured it was nice he felt comfortable enough now to hang out with my dad without me around and I pretty much shrugged it off. But when I returned, he was grinning ear to ear and oddly overly excited about who knows what.

    He’s recently been talking a lot about where we’d live “when the time came,” kids being a lot of work but one of life’s “greatest rewards,” weddings in general, you name it. I’ve only opened up to one close girlfriend about all of this b/c I also don’t want to look like an idiot if he doesn’t propose and I am sitting here pathetic and stressing.

    Did anyone else out there have hints and feel it was coming soon? I’m driving myself crazy thinking about it when I’d much rather just focus on having fun on this trip and going with the flow. Any advice ladies on how to keep my mind off this? My best friend keeps telling me I’m being naive and that it’s going to happen, but I really do not want to go there and get my hopes up :/

    • ANSWER:
      The forecast gives a 90% chance of proposal.

19. QUESTION:
    How do you deal with a RIDICULOUSLY IMMATURE wife (or any other family member) ?
    My wife is really immature and irresponsible and I get really exasperated about her attitude, it’s frustrating and Ive told her on numerous occasions that she needs to grow up but she just raises her eyebrows and shrugs and sort of smiles – I don’t know what she means by doing that but it sure gets on my nerves, one issue we have is when we’re invited to a wedding she never wants to go cause weddings are sooo boring, we’re invited to my cousins wedding in December and she’s like I’m not going, tell them I don’t wanna go into the church cause I’m Jewish , that’s an excuse as she isnt even practising, she just can’t handle the boredom of a wedding again.

    Though she’s immature, she’s not rude or unkind in any way, to anyone, ever, she’s not spoilt or antisocial or anything like that, and we get along well for the most part but she doesnt know how to compromise and doesnt like to do anything that inconveniences her too much. She has quit numerous jobs by the way with the reasons It was too boring or too tiring and I didnt like working Mondays cause it spoiled my weekend knowing I had to work Monday and she wont go to certain restaurants where she knows they take long to serve the food cause she hates waiting cause it bores her, it’s the same thing with long ques, when we were in Toronto she really wanted to go see something but when we got there the que was too long so she refused to que and we had to go do something else instead cause she didnt want to wait 5 minutes cause she was complaining of being too cold. Plus she outright refuses to take the dog for a walk if its raining a little or if it looks like its going to rain cause she doesnt want it to affect her hair or eye mascara, if you think women with problems like this only exist in movies you’re wrong cause she’s actually like that and when I first met her I could just roll my eyes about it and figure that women will be women but now I’m just seeing it as immature and a little selfish.

    We have a good marriage but like every one else we do have our share of problems from time to time, this being one of the main ones right now, well it’s a problem to me but not to her, so I thought this would be a good place to ask advice. I’m 28 so not that much older than her, she’s 24 (almost 25), we’ve been married for 2 years. Like Ive said shes a good person, very sweet and humerous, but terribly immature.

    Shes the youngest of 4 by the way, and the only girl in her family, she was raised by her dad for the most part but due to family circumstances spent time in foster care too, so perhaps her upbringing has something to do with how she is now?

    • ANSWER:
      go to couples counseling, read some relationship books – and grow up together.
      You do not sound terribly mature yourself the way you go on about these minor trivialities, and being so critical of her.
      I suppose you are perfect?

20. QUESTION:
    is this piece of writing okay?
    I’m a 1 year old girl and this is a paragraph from the novel I’m writing. I know it seems cliched but it’s not. I know it won’t be that good I just want some opinions. Sorry for bad grammar etc. I will answer any of your questions if you paste them one. Thanks x

    The beach was already packed when we got their, I didn’t know it was so popular (probably because I never came here at night.). Rhemy parked the car and went to the trunk.
    “Did you bring enough?” Mallory asked her walking round to the trunk.
    “I think so, we can have two each.” Rhemy said hauling a pack of beer out of the trunk.
    “Are you guys gonna drink that?” Julian asked, “I want one!’ At first I thought he as going to give them a lecture about drinking. I looked at him with surprise written all over my face.
    “What?” He shrugged, “I like it.”
    “D’you want one Silver?” Mallory asked me.
    “Uh okay. Thanks.” I took a drink of the beer, it was quite sweet in a weird way. I didn’t drink, the only time I had alcohol was at new year and at weddings.
    “C’mon lets go down to the beach.” Rhemy said already walking away. When we had picked up Julian Rhemy and Mallory were instantly chatting away to him. It was like they had known him for years, which I suppose they had since Julian was always in sugar and spice. Julian had dressed up especially he was wearing his favorite skinny jeans, (the armani ones he’d saved up for three years to buy.) a blue sweater that suited his skin tone and his new sneakers.
    “You’re looking nice.” I said to Julian, Rhemy and Mallory were walking a little ahead.
    “Thanks! Thought I’d make an effort.”
    “Hoping to see anyone in particular?” I asked casually.
    Julian blushed scarlet, “No!”
    I knew he was hoping to see the new guy at school, who he thinks is gay.
    “Have you found out his name yet?” I asked
    “Who’s name?”
    “C’mon you know who I mean, the new guy at school. I know you totally like him. A lot.”
    “Fine! I like him. He’s called Justin and think he may be gay. He’s in my geometry class.”
    I laughed, “At least he’ll keep you awake.”
    “I like geometry.” Was all Julian said.
    Mallory turned round suddenly, “C’mon guys keep up!”
    I half walked half skipped to were they were waiting trying not to spill my drink all over me.
    “So what is it you guys do here then?” Julian asked. He was looking around, obviously to see if Justin was here. I did the same but I was looking for someone else.
    Rhemy shrugged, “Dance, hang out and look for some hot guys.”
    “D’you see anyone you like?” Mallory asked me.
    “Nu-huh.” Julian said shaking his head, “Silver’s already spoken for.”
    “By who?” Rhemy asked.
    “Zach Carter.” Julian said looking at Rhemy and Mallory’s startled faces, “I know right.”
    Rhemy let out her breath, “I’m so jealous right now I could kill you.”
    “Ditto.” Mallory said.
    Music started blaring from a stereo nearby making me jump. Mallory squealed.
    “Woo lets go dance!” She said running along the beach shaking her hips with her arms above her head. Julian followed her doing the same then Rhemy followed. I didn’t want to dance in front of all these people so I sat down on the sand and watched them. I loved the feeling of sand I took of my sandals and moved my feet through it, the grains got stuck in between my toes. I looked up at the sky, it looked like a navy blue blanket covering the world. There was no clouds out tonight so the stars were on full show, the were so pretty. I smiled.
    “You look happy.” I snapped my head up and saw Luc the guy from my art class standing next to me. He was looking down at me smiling.
    “Really? I was just looking at the sky.”
    He sat down beside me, “It’s beautiful isn’t it? Just like you.”
    “Excuse me?” Who was this guy? He hadn’t paid any attention to me until a few days ago. I knew he was Zach’s friend and that he was on the football team but that’s it.
    “It was a compliment.” He told me making me seem dumb.
    “I know that, but why are you talking to me?”
    “Because I want to. Where’re your friends? Did they ditch you? I can give you a lift home if you want.” He reached out and touched my face lightly.
    “What the hell are you doing?”I shouted.
    He flinched, “Nothing. I… I was just trying to be nice. Look, Silver. I know your dating Zach but you shouldn’t be. You should me dating me.”
    oh god sorry it should be 13 year old my 3 isn’t working right.

    • ANSWER:
      Um- 1 year old. That is a bunch of bull crap. As for your writing, I think it’s okay, but needs more details.