Speeches For Weddings

Frequently Asked Questions

1. QUESTION:
   Do people make speeches at a church weddings?
   ?…or is that a reception thing. We are getting married at the church then going to my dads house for a big party/BBQ. SO do people make speeches at weddings?…

   • ANSWER:
     I’ve never seen speeches at any wedding. Most people say they’re part of the reception though.

2. QUESTION:
   Speeches for weddings?
   My best friend of 16 years is getting married in jan and want to know if I should do a little speech? I was meant to be a bridesmaid but unfortunatley had to get out of it as I am pregnant and due around her wedding date.

   Do you think its appropirate if I get to the wedding and not in labour to do a speech?

   If so what should I mention? Any suggestions?

   • ANSWER:
     It is absolutely appropriate! I would have loved for my best friend to give me a speech/say something nice at my wedding! lol

     Ok, so many tell a cute little story or something funny from when you guys were younger (but keep it sweet)…. something that would remind the groom why he is marrying her or would show why you two have been friends for so long.

     Don’t make it too long, but make sure to tell her just what you think/feel about her. She will appreciate it.

     P.S. Hopefully that baby stays in long enough for you to give the speech!

     Congratulations!

3. QUESTION:
   On average, how many weddings will you attend in your lifetime?
   How many weddings will you attend as a guest/wedding party in your lifetime? I’ve been looking for this answer for hours but i know someone has to know! PLEASE HELP ME. I’m doing a speech on weddings tomorrow and i need to know

   • ANSWER:
     i’m 18 and i’ve attended maybe 6? and theres a couple that i’m going to this year

4. QUESTION:
   Opening speech/welcoming speech at weddings?
   Can someone give me an example of the opening speech given by the officiant? I’m looking for examples of non religious openings speeches… usually said at the opening of the ceremony and said before the vows.

   Or you could point me to a site that has opening speeches on them.

   I’m trying to figure out in what order they go.

   I know after the bride walks down, the officiant gives the opening speech, followed by the “Raise your right hand” speech before the vows. And then after the vows, are there words spoken during the exchange of the rings?

   Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.

   • ANSWER:
     You don’t ask them to raise their right hands unless you are officiating at traffic court.

     Sample secular wedding ceremony in the links below.

5. QUESTION:
   I have A little over 300 Dollars, and I don’t know what to spend it on!!! Does anyone have any ideas?
   I’m a BIG music person, (I sit in class and sing!!! Drives my 9th period teacher crazy…teehee) so I want an Ipod Touch or a Laptop. If I save for a little while I could afford a Laptop OR my 16GB Touch. The Laptop can anything the Touch can, plus more!!! On the other hand though, the Touch is portable and lightweight (for the more boring things in life, lectures, speeches, weddings) so I’m stuck on what I want. I’m also a decent youtube director, and my camera is outdated…I have a Nano, I have a Camera, and at home I have a PC (and a Laptop, but that don’t belong to me) so I’m really just upgrading what I have rather than starting something new. I’ll tell you all what I’m eyeing and I want to know what you would get or if you have a better suggestion, just tell me! I want either a 16GB Ipod Touch, an Inspiron 1525 Notebook, or a Canon Elura 100. I’m stumped, can anyone out there help me out?
   I do NOT want an MP3 Camera.

   • ANSWER:
     get the touch. I bought it with my christmas money and i have gotten it and i like it becuase its easier to use than the other ipods. it fun and fashinable and its something everyone will know you for. i took it to school like 4 times and people think i have the iphone and i say i have the touch and they insist i have the iphone so i went along ans suposibly im the fist person to have an iphone (i wish, i have a t-mobile shadow and i couldn’t affornd a 600 dollar phone plus im happy with my mp3 and my phone) now appple has release this new software which makes the ipod touch have everything the iphone has except the phone part. It so cool. hope this helps

6. QUESTION:
   Wedding Speeches/Toasts?
   Does anyone have any idea who normally gives a speech/toast at weddings, I need help my wedding is in August and we don’t know who to ask to do speeches, neither of our parents will give speeches.

   I was told that an old time friend is suppose to toast to the bride and someone from each of our families is suppose to welcome the other into our families, also that the maid of honour isnt suppose to give a speech.

   Any Ideas where I can find help for the bride and grooms speech.

   Also we’re going to be introduced at our reception and go around to each table during the reception to thank everyone individually our guest list is 70 close friends and family. Also thank people in person after the church Ceremony…..So is a receiving line neccessary???

   • ANSWER:
     This really depends on your family structure and who is willing to stand up and talk in front of a crowd. =)

     Most of the time the best man and the maid of honor will speak along with the parents of the bride and groom. Like I said above this, it all depends on who is willing to talk. You never want to force someone to talk, or to say something that will make them feel uncomfortable.

     Sometimes, other people will want to talk at your wedding like an old friend, or someone that is like a parent, and or even you officiant if they have know you for a long time.

     Good Luck!

     Two Hearts for Eternity, Inc. Weddings and Events
     Ms. JacQie

7. QUESTION:
   Who gave speeches at your wedding, or other weddings you’ve attended?
   We’re having a pretty small wedding party – just MOH and best man. No other maids or men, no flower girl, no ring bearer.

   I’ve heard that the best man and MOH normally give a speech at the reception. But I was thinking that since most of our relatives don’t know our best man and MOH, I wouldn’t make them speak in front of 75 strangers, and instead, my fiance and/or I would just say “Thanks for coming, you all mean a lot to us, etc.”. But would they be disappointed if I asked them not to speak, or suggested that they don’t give a speech? I’m not sure if they would be expecting to speak. And should we have someone else speak instead, maybe our parents? I have no idea who all normally speaks at the reception.

   Thanks!

   • ANSWER:
     if the person marrying you is coming to the reception, they can give a welcome message before dinner. you can give the BM & MOH the option of giving a speech but make it clear it’s totally optional and won’t look weird if one does it and not the other. or you and the groom can just welcome everyone and not give the BM & MOH the option

8. QUESTION:
   More than 1 weddings at the same time – did you notice it at your venue?
   So it seems like all the venues that we love and can afford run more than 1 wedding at the same time. Some run up to 4 at the same time. I’ve got a few concerns:

   - hearing other people talking / laughing during my vows
   - music from other rooms playing during my speeches
   - fighting for picture spots

   For those of you who had a venue that ran more than one wedding per day, how did it go?? Care to share your experiences?

   • ANSWER:
     It depends on how your venue is arranged.

     If the ceremony venue is right next door to reception number one then there might be some noise interference. Unless the venue has realized this and has insulated the rooms properly. I would ask them about your sound issues since it’s a valid concern.

     And I would also try to talk to previous couples or guests who attended weddings there to hear their point of views (after all the venue is a business and they want to have your business). If the venue provides you with a list of vendors that they recommend you could also call them and ask to speak to people who’ve worked there and get their opinions on if the other wedding’s intrude.

     As for the pictures. Most of the venues stagger the weddings so you’ll be taking photo’s while the other wedding is setting up their decor and you’ll hopefully be done by the time the other wedding starts (or ends as a max). Again, ask your venue how they handle this.

     My venue ran three weddings the day of mine (including mine) and I never noticed the first wedding (except maybe in the distance when we drove past their reception hall at one time) and the only time I noticed the second was when we came back from our photo’s to allow the photographer to pick up her car, the chapel was filling up with other people. Sound wasn’t an issue to us because our venue was on a game farm and each reception area was far away from the other and the ceremony venue was separate as well.

     Good luck with everything.

9. QUESTION:
   What bit of Four Weddings and a Funeral do you like most and least?
   For me it is the “stop all the clocks” speech an insulting wedding speech I like most.

   The bit where Charles realises he doesn’t love “Duckface” is heart-renching.

   • ANSWER:
     Best parts:
     It’s a tie between the opening scene where they are late to the wedding, and the scene where they are having a sign language conversation with the brother. (I enjoy that part because I know sign language. American though, not English.)

     I honestly don’t think there’s a worst part!

     – Kait

10. QUESTION:
    Commemorative speech help?
    Okay, I have to take an oral communications class for Nursing at University of Memphis. Its a Saturday class and I’m cool with that. I took Speech Honors class in 8th grade and did this before but I forgot? I think. I know that it is easy to give commemorative speech and weddings and re unions and stuff but what topic would I have to focus on (any suggestions will greatly be appreciated) when I give this speech in a classroom full of people I don’t know?

    • ANSWER:
      um the times at college? i have no clue :/

11. QUESTION:
    does anyone have any pictures from a traditional hmong wedding?
    i need a visual aid for my speech on hmong weddings…and i need some pictures like right now and just wondering if anyone has some.

    • ANSWER:
      I did a Google image search for Hmong Wedding and got the following results:

      http://images.google.com/images?q=hmong%20wedding&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&sa=N&tab=wi

      Some are really good.

12. QUESTION:
    How long shouldmaid of honor toasts be at weddings?
    I am the maid of honor at my best friends wedding and I am writing my speech. So far it is about 3 minutes long with added time for laughs because some of it is funny. I would like to add more because there is so much I can say but I don’t want to take toomuch time.

    • ANSWER:
      absolutely no more than 45 minutes.

13. QUESTION:
    what wrong with him? or is it me?
    So me (24 ) and my b/f (29) have been with one another for 3 yrs and a few months, I love him to death and he claims he does also. We have gone to so many of our friends/family weddings together. He mentions me being his wife some day, and he constantly says that there is a surprise coming for me but i haven’t seen any “surprise” in the past 2 years.

    I feel like he has broken his promise because we are heading for 4 yrs together and i still haven’t seen a ring. and i have even told him and this is the God honest truth i want to be engaged for a few years about three and take my time with every thing and he still hasn’t done anything. I know this might sound cliche but i don’t even care about the ring. I just wanna be his in all ways possible. He makes the money hes making around 90-100 grand a year so its def. not financial.

    Oh and by the way he wants me to move in with him so i feel like he wants to jump over a my family value which is not to move out with out being a) married or b)engaged!!! And he knows this is something that is real important to me. Any ways I would like some feed back I real confused and this stress is putting alot of pressure on our relationship. Everyone is always asking when we are getting engaged and its real annoying, his sister announced me to everone as her “sister-in-law” at her bridal shower, and at freinds weddings during speeches they have said that we are the next to get hitchedand all of this is REAL uncomfortable.I just want to know WHY?
    This is for the first 8 answers, im in tears because I really thought i was alone in this… Thank you so much for understanding what i feel. THANK YOU!!!

    • ANSWER:
      I think you need to stop taking this so passively, and speak up.

      Next time he tells you there’s a surprise coming for you, tell him assertively he needs to stop saying that, because it gets your hopes up but he never follows through.

      Next time he mentions moving in with him, remind him in clear terms that you will not be doing that unless you’re engaged or married.

      When people ask you when you’re getting engaged, tell them you would really, really like to know the same thing.

      If someone from his side refers to you as a sister-in-law, speak up and say that no, you’d love that, but now you’re just the girlfriend.

      When someone says you’re the next to get hitched, say that you can’t get hitched without being engaged.

      Stop taking this crap lying down – speak up!

14. QUESTION:
    Really good quotes to use in a Maid of Honor speech?
    I’m trying to find some short and sweet, but not too sappy quotes to use for my maid of honor speech (ugh). Maybe ones with a bit of humor to them. They can be from poems, famous people or whatever.

    If you’ve used some in speeches or heard really good ones at other weddings please share! Thanks.

    • ANSWER:
      Women are like teabags. We don’t know our true strength until we are in hot water
      - Eleanor Roosevelt

      There are no mistakes, no coincidences. All events are blessings given ti us to learn from
      - Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

      I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.
      - Maya Angelou

      If we seek the pleasures of love, passion should be occasional, and common sense continual.
      - Robert frost

      I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
      - Maya Angelou

15. QUESTION:
    Jehovah’s Witnesses only!?
    Hello to all my fellow brothers, I just have a quick question that I hope you guys can help me with. Ok so my friend is getting married in 3 months and he has asked me to be his best man. What do witnesses best mans do?. I mean I do know the duties of a best but this is only in worldly weddings. I want to make sure that I don’t do anything bad and make Jehovah and my friend upset. Can anyone enlighten me as to what I should do for my friend since I am his best man? Anyone has previous experience, has been a best man to a witness friend or know of best mans in the past?.. I know that worldly best mans give speeches at the weddings and they plan a bachelor’s party for the groom. This is something as witnesses we wouldnt do right? Anyways, please if you’d like give me some ideas as to what I should do. I want my friend to have a wonderful time before the big day and of course at the wedding too. Thanks a lot in advance!

    • ANSWER:
      You do EXACTLY the same as non-JWs do! What the hell makes you think you are any different? Just because you follow a nutty sect like that! That has to be the most stupid question today, and that is saying something!

16. QUESTION:
    Garter and Bouquet dirty songs?
    Ok to make things short me and my fiances families are kind of perverted when it comes to weddings, every speech I’ve ever heard given mentions sex later that night….so we’re looking for funny yet not too dirty songs for the garter toss and maybe for the bouquet toss….OR and good ideas would be appreciated.
    ok for you party poopers who think it’s low class…get over it this is tradition in my family. I was asking for suggestions. If your suggestion is to skip it than dont even leave your suggestion.

    • ANSWER:
      “Don’t Cha” – Pussy Cat Dolls
      “Freaks Come Out At Night” – Whodini
      “Good Vibrations” – Marky Mark & The Funky Bunch
      “Erotic City” – Prince
      “Freak Me” – Silk
      “Little Red Corvette” – Prince
      “You Shook Me All Night Long” – AC/DC
      “Talk Dirty To Me” – Poison
      “Cherry Pie” – Warrant

17. QUESTION:
    Do you have to do Wedding speeches?
    I always wondered this. I know that for the weddings that I have gone to they have always had speeches. But what if for my wedding I want to forgo that? I always find that part of the ceremony to go longer than it should because people write a long speech wanting to make sure they are not being too short. But for my wedding, would it be in bad taste to not have speeches? I would rather have a video homage to both of our lives and maybe some ‘interviews’ with family and friends instead. This takes pressure off of people to have to come up with a speech.

    Is this a good idea?
    Sorry I wrote something wrong here, I meant having that during the reception not the ceremony.

    • ANSWER:
      I did not have speeches at my wedding

      We only had the best man toast

      My husband was the best man at a wedding of a friend, he ask her twin sister(MOH) if she want to give the speech with Toast with him. That is getting a little more common, the MOH helping with the toast

      I do not understand why people want everyone to stand up and give speeches

      I only seen the father of the bride(my did not) if they want and best Man toast(sometime with the MOH)
      That is the only two I think should speak at a wedding
      Everyone else is just plan to much

      I think it’s bad taste to have speeches at weddings

18. QUESTION:
    What kind of activities would be good for the kids at my daughter’s wedding?
    I posted this in the Weddings category, and didn’t get much in the way of helpful responses, so I’m really hoping to get some good input in another category.

    The plan is that we will hire a babysitter for the evening (possibly two), to have them coordinate fun stuff for the kids who’ll be at the wedding. They’ll be in a room that is attached to the banquet hall, and will all be fully visible to their parents, and they’ll all be entirely allowed to go back & forth between rooms. The concept is not to exclude them from the wedding festivities, but instead to give them something to do that’s a bit more interesting for them than a bunch of speeches by grown-ups they’ve never met!

    What do you all think would be appropriate activities? We will need to avoid anything that might cause problems with the carpet (no play-doh, glue or paint). We probably also need to have a balance between quiet-time activities, and physical activities.

    Ideas???
    Here’s what I got from the previous posting.

    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ArG.fcQ5sMYoUpVoHAjsHWHsy6IX?qid=20061116155953AArtbKR

    • ANSWER:
      Easy…there is always a pinata full of candy that they can swing at with a bat, musical chairs, have a game like a cake walk where they can win small party prizes in the wedding colors (pencils, crayons, sunglasses, etc.), get rubber ducks with plastic numbers on the bottom, let them line up and grab a duck and correspond each duck with a prize, have a treasure hunt, scavenger hunt, etc. Hope this helps some! Tell your sister congratulations!

19. QUESTION:
    Males and weddings: girls, and guys, help please?
    Ok I know that generally men don’t like weddings much right? But I just want to know if anyone has experience with this. Do guys really hate weddings that much?? I mean, since I knew what weddings were all about lol and understood everything, I’ve dreamed of having my reception kind of dark but still like it’s glowing? If that makes sense? Like this: http://www.tunjisarumi.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/090629_Mayam-Monsur_11.jpg . I’m worried that my male guests would kinda be pissed off like “It’s too girly, I don’t like weddings!” blah blah blah… I wouldn’t want them to hate it just ’cause they aren’t a girl … I hope I don’t offend anyone I know some guys love weddings but most don’t. So, are guys really like that when it comes to weddings? My friend also shares the same concerns. And also, can someone tell me about the cocktail hour? I thought a cocktail hour was when your guests have drinks and hor douvres (or however you say them) for an hour after the ceremony while the formal pictures are taken and then after that there’s the reception with the speeches/dancing/sit-down dinners/cake/champaigne etc. My mum and dad said out of all the weddings they’ve been to, they haven’t seen a cocktail hour. Is it not very common? Also some people say they should be before the ceremony. I thought it was between ceremony and reception.

    • ANSWER:
      wow that is incredibly girly. it’s very very pink. What is meant by men don’t like weddings isn’t that they despise going. They understand it’s one of those family obligations that you just suck up and do. However don’t expect your groom to have dreamed of this since he was 6. Don’t expect to really get an honest opinion on if this shade or this shade looks better or for the glowing monogram which font looks better. When he says he doesn’t care, he isn’t trying to hurt your feelings nor imply that he doesn’t love you. What he means is that he really doesn’t care at all which font is picked. He doesn’t care if your sister wears pink or green b/c he isn’t marrying her. He doesn’t care if you use white roses or those white ones with fushia tips. Don’t plague your man with a million questions that you need his opinion on. Just make those decisions on your own. Ask him his opinion on food, alcohol, and cake.

      Yes that is what cocktail hour is but your parents are correct that most weddings don’t do that. When you are engaged you will see that alcohol is the most expensive thing and leaving your guests to drink for an hour adds thousands to your budget. Most brides and grooms take the pictures before the wedding b/c they need about 2 hours of pictures. The bride and groom are there for 2-3 hours taking pictures so most of htem will be done before. Also for the pictures sake, your hair hasn’t fallen down, your lipstick hasn’t worn off, and your eyes have more sparkle b/c of the anticipation.

20. QUESTION:
    Breaking traditions of Weddings and Marriage?
    I’m curious about how weddings are now more inditional, personal and breaking tradition. If you have been married or want to get married one day, what advice would you give for each of these…

    THE WEDDING CAKE – would you stick to fruit cake or have a different style cake?
    FLOWERS/BOUQUET- what would you carry down the isle and what would your bridesmaids carry?
    INVITATIONS- Used to be on a paper, some still are, but some ppl are now using jigsaw puzzles etc. Heard of any interesting invitations ppl have used?
    WEDDING LOCATION- A lot of ppl no longer get married in churches, what different locations have you been to at a wedding?
    WEDDING SONG WALK DOWN THE ISLE TO- The general wedding march is getting old, what song did you or you want to walk down the aisle to? Think of something original or different or something personal for you or your partner
    VEHICLE- Horse, car, elephant?
    MAKE UP- make up advice?
    RECEPTION/TABLE- what decorations or theme can you think of now?
    FOOD/ DRINK- what food or drink would you make availabe for guests?
    HONEYMOON- Where would you go? Have you heard of anything eccentric?
    SPEECHES- Male to do the speech? Female? father? who does the speeches, and what would you say?
    THE VOWS- No longer do most people say the traditional vows since they can be a bit outdated, what do you think of anything new?

    • ANSWER:
      THE WEDDING CAKE – I would go with a life-sized cake of me and my bride in the nude
      FLOWERS/BOUQUET- I will carry nothing but 10 virgins will be carrying me on a litter. The bridesmaids will each carry a ceremonial torch for each year I have been alive.
      INVITATIONS- Invitations will be standard, only they will be on a self destructing personal video message from the Queen.
      WEDDING LOCATION- Location will be on a remote island in American Samoa only accessible by boat.
      WEDDING SONG WALK DOWN THE ISLE TO- Elton John and Miri Ben-Ari will handle the music.
      VEHICLE- Segway
      MAKE UP- idk wtf
      RECEPTION/TABLE- I’m thinking an ancient Egyptian/Space Odyssey-esque decor
      FOOD/ DRINK- Catering to be done by the Colonel
      HONEYMOON- Our honeymoon will be on the international space station where we will be the first persons in recorded history to do the “snow plow” in mid air.
      SPEECHES- I of course, will be the only one making any speeches, aside from Phil Jackson and Rev Run.
      THE VOWS- She will swear on lives of her extended family never let herself go or annoy me in any way.

21. QUESTION:
    What do you think about how weddings have changed ?
    Just been thinking about it as planning a wedding .

    trying to keep cost down as much as possible and this means going without few things ….fancy hired cars , expensive photographers, professionally done cakes , 3 course wedding breakfasts and wine flowing from our pockets.

    But I am hoping that even tho we are having a cheaper wedding it wil still be fab day . Was thinking about my parents wedding they got married in church at 1.30 went back to local pub had cold buffet spread and then speeches and mingling than everyone started to leave and they met back up with their friends in local club for disco out of wedding attire. And they still had fab day and everyone looks so happy in their pics..now this was about 1968 but made me think.

    Don’t get me wrong I like some fo the churches we are marrying in local country house cheap! bit run down but like the conservatory and the grounds and we having party in barn. Having a hot buffet with speeches and photo’s done by friend who’s good with camera. Traveling up in decorated camper van …love the van anyways. We are having band tho and will be wearing a floaty white dress .
    And we writing own vows so glad we not in church as neither religious I think churches are special pretty buildings but just not for us .

    But it’s no where near as posh as some of my friends and am worried people won’t enjoy for this reason. But do weddings need all these big extra things ?

    What are your thoughts on weddings traditions ..what do you like ? what are you glad has changed? Or do you think we should revert back to old style weddings ?

    • ANSWER:

22. QUESTION:
    How many people feel weddings are now more for “show”? rather than a commitment?
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    How many people feel weddings are now more of a question of vanity rather than commitment?
    After reading the questions in the Engagements and Wedding section of Yahoo Answers, I am wonder why people stress over the smallest things: the right colours, picking the right themes, finding the proper wording of invitations, worring about speeches, dresses, hair & make-up, accessories, etc. It all seems so vain and i wonder if people are stressing over these things because they are just trying to show-off.

    Do these things really matter in the long scheme of things?

    I know this is an important day in the lives of the couple to be married but to me, it is the vows and the commitment that is important, not the gifts and the colors.

    Am i the only one who feels this way… a lot of the modern weddings just seem to focus on the insequential things.

    I guess i feel that the wedding is now more of a “show” trying to prove something to other people.

    I am not discriminating against getting married as i will be marrying in Nov. 2010… we are going away to avoid all the unneccesary parts of the wedding

    • ANSWER:
      I have been thinking of changing my ID here to “The Wedding Grinch.” What the merchants have done to destroy Christmas, they are busily doing to weddings. Instead of joyous celebration of families coming together, merchants hope to transform weddings into an endless round of gift exchanges and parties, followed an elaborately staged amateur theatrical. This is not a change for the better. We MUST stop this Christmasization of weddings and get back to tradition.

23. QUESTION:
    Does anyone else feel this way about weddings?
    I’ve decided that as a whole, weddings are really boring, and being in someone’s wedding just sucks, because as a girl you spend hours getting ready, and then helping the bride get ready, and then you have to take pictures, and then at the reception you have to do annoying entrances and bridal party dances with groomsmen you don’t know, and give speeches, and a lot of the time you have to stay afterward to help clean up. I have been in 3 weddings in the last year, including my own, and I hope that the next wedding I attend I will be able to go to the ceremony, and not feel guilty for not staying for the whole reception.

    Anyone else agree? I am always happy for my friends, but I am at that annoying age where everyone I know is getting married, and I have at least a couple more left to go that I am sure to be in.

    • ANSWER:
      I’ve only been to two weddings and had a great time at both. The first one was my sisters wedding and I was a bridesmaid. She had it at her house and I came over early that day to help her set everything up and to do the food. The only thing that sucked about it was it was in June in Texas and it was hot out. Other than that it was cool.

24. QUESTION:
    Adoptees and Wedding Speeches?
    Okay a girlfriend is sitting beside me (she’s an adoptee) and she wants to ask about her upcoming wedding speech.

    She is FINALLY getting married after 14 YEARS!!!

    After getting engaged 2 years ago, she decided to try and search for her first mom in the hopes that she would come to her wedding. She wants to make it known that her parents were very supportive and helpful during her search.

    Unfortunately she discovered that her first mom had passed away many years ago and the first family members she did meet, she is not eager to have them a part of her life.

    At weddings, her family has a tradition of remembering friends and family members that either can’t be there due to serious illness or death. The give a toast, stating their names, relationship.

    She would like to mention her first mom, however, she has a few concerns. Her family is supportive of her including her first mom in the speech and her adoption is not a secret, so most everyone, save a few guest’s dates, know about it, however, almost no one knows that she searched and found her first family.

    She doesn’t want her wedding to turn into a Q&A, meaning she doesn’t want her, her fiancee or her family to have to entertain any first mom questions.

    So she’s stuck on how to word the toast.

    This is what she plans to say: ” ______________, who I did not have the opportunity to know, but who I love and who I know loved me and hope to meet once again in heaven.”

    She just doesn’t know how to address it. Does she say her name and leave people wondering who that is. OR does she say her name, followed by “my birth mother.” I know that it not a preferred term for most on YA, but it is for her.

    We were going to put this in the wedding section, but as there is an adoptee angle, I suggested bringing it here and see if any adoptees have any insight or have included first parents in their speeches or even in the wedding itself.

    Thanks!!
    Mom – Good point!!

    • ANSWER:
      Kazi,

      That was a good, detailed explanation. I think what she’s planning to do (or, including “my birth mother”, too) is/would be a good idea. Clearly, it means a lot to her. I’m happy that her family is supportive.

      I was married just two months before my mother (natural) found my posting on a search/reunion website. It’s a minor regret that she missed my wedding — but we’re joyfully reunited, so it’s all good.

      I don’t think it would turn into too much of a Q&A at the wedding/reception, though I do understand the concern. Most wedding guests are really sincere in their desire to celebrate the day, for it’s special reason, and leave other things for another time. There will always be “those” wedding guests, though, and my suggestion would be to say something like, “You’re sweet to be interested. Let’s get together in ____ [some amount of time] and talk.” or “Thanks for asking. Let’s leave that for another day, shall we?”

      I did the above at my wedding as I did have questions come up. I had not found my mother (nor she, me) before my wedding but there were many, many people who knew I was searching. My DH and I had a table set up as a ‘display’ (can’t think of a better word) to represent our individual lives over the years and things we were interested in — lots of pictures and some other objects that represented each of us, and us together. On my ‘individual’ side, there was a picture frame with a computer-generated 3D ‘blue heart’ in it, that kind of glowed. I have the same (well, similar) thing as a tattoo. Lots of people asked what it was. It was what I called (when I was younger) my “secret sorrow”. It represented my mother. If I knew the person asking well, I said so. If not, I just said, “Oh, it’s something I think is pretty. I really like it.” At my wedding, everyone let it go at that.

      Side note: When I found my mom, I added “Mom” and her first name to my tattoo. below that, I put the date we were separated (my birth date) and the date we reunited.

      Best of luck and congratulations to your friend!

25. QUESTION:
    First time as maid of honor.. Clueless about weddings! Any advice?
    I’ve got the bachelorette party planned for next week. What are some good games/ activities to plan? The shower is already done (thanks goodness). I need to write my speeches for the rehearsal and reception. Am I supposed to make the rehearsal dinner toast short and cute and all about the bride and my reception toast sentimental and about both of them? Am I forgetting anything else? Sorry if these questions seem stupid, but I’ve only been to about 4 weddings (only been in two of them) and I’m 8 months pregnant and having a hard time keeping my own life in order, much less organizing a wedding.

    Thanks for the help!

    • ANSWER:
      “Am I supposed to make the rehearsal dinner toast short and cute and all about the bride and my reception toast sentimental and about both of them?”

      At the reception, yes. Rehearsal dinner is optional. I didn’t have a MOH but instead had both of my closest friends as bridesmaids (hubby had his brother and old friend as groomsman). What we did is that I had asked my BFF and my hubby’s friend to make a speech at the rehearsal dinner, and my other bridesmaid (who lived closer and did a LOT of work for my wedding) and hubby’s brother make speeches at the wedding. We asked my dad and hubby’s dad to speak, too. 4 speakers at my wedding was just enough. They each talked about 3-5 minutes and happen to all be gifted orators. More than that would have been too many.

      For the rehearsal you could do a couple of things… either have one toast, or a couple by key people, or you could do something I’ve seen more recently and just pass the mike around, letting anyone say what they want. It’s very special and intimate. It’s only a good idea if you’re in a private dining room, though.

      The last thing I can recommend is that you just actively try to think of EVERYTHING that needs to be done the day of so that no one misses anything. Ask the other girls to do the same for the bride. Be there for her, all of you. Also make sure to ask certain people if they can be “on call” the day off to run last-minute errands. Groomsmen, extended family members, and spouses/partners of people in the wedding party are perfect for this. I promise that *someone* will forget something, or spill something, or tear something, or lose something, and you’ve just got to be prepared!

26. QUESTION:
    Maid of Honor Speeches?
    I have to give my first ever Maid of Honor Speech in a couple of months and I would like some suggestions on what I should include or focus on. I have only ever been to three weddings, and the Maid of Honor didn’t give a speech at any of them, so I have no point of reference to go by. I would like my speech to be light hearted and funny, but also sincere and sentimental. Although my friend is very liberal, she has family members attending the wedding who are very conservative and religious and it is important to me that I not say anything that might offend them or be inappropriate for the setting. Can anyone offer some pointers? Also, it would be great if you have a Maid of Honor speech that you prepared and could post as an example. I am a pretty good public speaker, so I am not worried about nerves or delivery… I just need to figure out what the heck I am going to say.

    Thank you in advance.
    Actually, I was told it would be great if I could steer something towards the direction of funny and although weddings focus on the bride and groom, every wedding I have been to (albiet, I’ve only been to 3) the best man speech was a much anticipated and talked about event.

    • ANSWER:
      Check out this website I bet it will give you some ideas. Good Luck!

27. QUESTION:
    How do you write a Maid of Honor speech at a gay wedding?
    My best friend who is gay is having a ceremony and I am the MOH. While the Internet is a good resource for hetero weddings, it offers me no help for a gay one. If anyone has any ideas I would appreciate it!

    • ANSWER:
      Write it the same exact way! One of them is probably the female in the relationship so just put there name in for the “bride”, then you all can have a laugh haha

28. QUESTION:
    Moon Palace, Cancun – weddings
    We are planning on having our wedding here in 2010 (I know quite a while away) but could anybody tell me what happens afterwards – do you have a reception/party. I Know that you have a meal for you and guests but are speeches made etc during this meal. Thanks

    • ANSWER:
      You can do whatever you want – just like any other wedding.

      We were wed in mazatlan and invited our friends for dinner in the hotel restaurant. We pre-ordered the dinners and cake. We kept it informal as the people there were our best friends who vacation there and some locals – no speeches.

      We were at another wedding where the ceremony was on the beach in front of a hotel. Drinks were available (for purchase) on the patio and later a supper (pot-luck) was held in a rented room of the hotel. Pot-luck was held because most of the guests, if not all, lived in houses or apartments with kitchen facilities.

29. QUESTION:
    Do you think Weddings……?
    ……Go on a bit to long, the ones where you go to the service/ceremony…then theres pictures and that, then you have a meal, speeches, cake wait loads longer for the party at night which doesnt finish till the morning…whole thing ends up being about 12 hours, Its alright if its a hotel and youve got a room so you can bunk off but otherwise its well long.
    actually the religoius ones Ive been too seem shorter, not the service but throughout the day.

    • ANSWER:
      Its probably all that sex before marriage that holds up the ceremony. I should think?

30. QUESTION:
    How do those wedding vows go that the priest says at the weddings?
    They start something like this…

    “We are gathered here today…”

    and it ends with

    “Then by the power invested in me and the state of New York I now pronounce you man and wife”

    I want the entire speech. I am writing a wedding in my book and I was to inculde that ENITRE speech. If the guys says something tell me that the guys says that, same for the girl. If speeches from the people are to be said, just put “speech here” and if there is a part where a name is used put “Boy” for the boy name and “Girl” for the girl name.

    Thank you very much to those who answered..or atleast tried to answer! =D

    • ANSWER:
      I’m not sure if there is a standard “speech” – it seems to vary by couple. See links below for different scripts for different type of couples:

      http://www.vangestel.com/wedding/announcements/ceremony.html

      http://www.colantonio.net/wedding/ceremony.html

      http://www.guyslikedolls.com/write-your-own-wedding-script

      http://mysite.verizon.net/nosnoraevad/per/esther/ceremony.html

      http://lowimpactwedding.blogspot.com/2007/04/ceremony-script.html

      http://ask.metafilter.com/101690/MatrimonyFilter-Sample-wedding-ceremony-scripts-for-officiating-my-best-friends-wedding

      http://zimmer.csufresno.edu/~kimberll/wedding/cerscript.htm

      http://www.weddingbee.com/2007/11/29/ceremony-script-rough-cut-2/

      http://www.ofafeather.us/wp-content/uploads/2008/07/ceremony-agenda1.doc

      And so on. Do you have additional information on the couple?

      And it will vary greatly by religion. It sounds like you wanted a script to a Christian ceremony. Do you have a denomination in mind? You mentioned priest (and not minister or pastor or vicar) Do you mean a Catholic nuptial mass like the one described below:

      http://www.weddingchannel.com/ui/buildArticle.action?assetUID=3811

31. QUESTION:
    need help writting a speech for a civil ceromony female/female?
    hi,
    really stuck on writting a speech……
    my sister is getting married to another women and they have asked me to be the best man, i’ve looked everywhere for examples on best man speeches but they are all for straight weddings and dont really help.
    any help would be muchly appriceited

    Paul

    • ANSWER:

32. QUESTION:
    This is about weddings and Bridesmaids?
    My older sister will be married on the 08/08/08 and was wondering since i’m her well one of her bridesmaids and sister would it be aight if I wrote up a speech for the bride and groom? That’s my question anyone can answer?

    Thanks,
    Jackie
    I asked my sister and she said that it can’t be a long @ss one lol but I just wnated to show her some love coming her way from her only true sister we got eachother but we fight all the time LOL

    • ANSWER:
      Writing a speech isn’t a bad idea – especially since it is your sister getting married!! A few suggestions would be to not include any “inside jokes” because it won’t be funny to the guests. You should also try to keep it under a minute or so because the guests really don’t want to hear you talk for hours on end. Keep it short and to the point and your sister will appreciate it!!!

33. QUESTION:
    Anyone know where i can find a best man speech for my husband?
    Our best friend is getting married in two weeks and my husband is freaking out over a best man speech. He needs my help but I’ve only been to a few weddings and not sure how to help, every web site i’ve been on you have to subscribe to somthing. PLEASE HELP!!!!!

    • ANSWER:
      My brother-in-law did the speech at our wedding and he just told a few funny stories about him and my husband and one thing he said that was funny “i’ve been married 2 years and i’ve learned there’s 2 ways to argueing…………………………and neither one works”….haha…..and then he welcomed me to the family and we all did a toast.

34. QUESTION:
    Presentation handout for a speech on gay marriage?
    I am doing a speech on why gay marriage should be addressed and I’m arguing that it is a civil rights issue.
    I also have to make handouts and I was. Thinking of making tulip cookies because tulips are a symbol of love and since I’m talking about marriages that led me to weddings and flowers are at weddings.

    Any other ideas or opinions?
    Please and thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      Step one is identifying HOW it’s a civil-rights issue and evidently you haven’t done that yet.

35. QUESTION:
    Help me on HINDU WEDDINGS in INDIA!!!!?
    I am doing a speech video for my college class and need help so if you have either been in one or seen one in person – email me because I have a favor to ask!

    You will get credited in the speech also!

    • ANSWER:
      you’ll be lucky if you find the right size if not you will be trapped forever.

36. QUESTION:
    Weddings for Atheists?
    If your getting married, how do they like say that whole speech thing for the bride and groom? Isn’t that from the bible? I know you don’t have to have a wedding in a church, but ya know. I’m an Atheist, and I was just curious.

    • ANSWER:
      When my husband and I got married, we eloped and got married by the Justice of the Peace. Before hand, the judge sent us a booklet of all kinds of vows. You could pick and choose your opening, closing etc. Since we are Atheist, we chose vows that didn’t pertain to God or anything like that but more or less vows that had to do with each other and the love that we shared.

37. QUESTION:
    German speakers: Please check my German. I include the original English. Danke!?
    Macht es mich nervös, eine Rede zu halten?
    Vielleicht würde es heute. Ich weiß nicht, denn ich habe keine langweilige Rede seit meine Collegezeit gehalten. Ich finde, dass viele Reden sehr langweilig sind. Die Reden, die bei Hochzeiten gehalten werden, sind beinahe untragbar. Es ist immer: “…love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous…” blabla, blabla, blabla. Dies ist typisch die einzige Gelegenheit für die meisten Amerikaner, Shakespeares Sonette absolut zerfleischte anhören.
    Bring mich nicht auf die Palme auf Dollar 125,– Smokingverleihe!

    auf Englisch:
    Does giving a speech make me nervous?
    Perhaps it would today. I don’t know because I haven’t given a boring speech since my college days. I find that many speeches are very boring. The speeches that are given at weddings are nearly unbearable. It’s always: “…” blah, blah, blah. This is typically the only opportunity for most Americans to hear Shakespeare’s sonnets utterly mangled.
    And don’t get me started on 5 tuxedo rentals!

    • ANSWER:
      Macht es mich nervös, eine Rede zu halten?
      Vielleicht wird es das heute. Ich weiß nicht, denn ich habe seit meiner Collegezeit keine langweilige Rede mehr gehalten. Ich finde, dass viele Reden sehr langweilig sind. Die Reden, die bei Hochzeiten gehalten werden, sind beinahe unerträglich. Es geht immer: “…love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous…” blabla, blabla, blabla. Dies ist normalerweise die einzige Gelegenheit, bei der die meisten Amerikaner Shakespeares Sonette absolut verstümmelt zu hören bekommen.
      Und erst die 125 Dollar Smokingleihgebühren!

      edit: Oh, is the wedding speech quote supposed to be in English?

38. QUESTION:
    Why do most women make such a big deal about weddings?
    My sister is getting married this summer and every word out of her mouth is about the wedding, it’s annoying and her “day” is going to cost my father a fortune. I feel bad for my future brother in law if he has to deal with this seemingly materialistic woman. Who cares about a wedding, it’s just an over hyped and unnecessarily expensive party.

    Why do you need a photo album of a day of drinking in tuxedos and dresses to prove you are in love? I know I know some of these girls want to be like a princess in some fairy tale but that’s not real life and it’s irresponsible and delusional in my opinion. I’m supposed to be a groomsman in the wedding, I’m going to give a ridiculous speech at the wedding just to get her back for annoying me at dinner for the past six months. I’m 16 and even though she’s 23 and finished with college she still lives at home, so this guy is doing me a huge favor getting her out of my life for the next two years till i get to leave home myself.

    I think I will mention in my speech how grateful I am that he is taking her out of my life so I don’t have to deal with her boring wedding talk anymore.

    • ANSWER:
      You’re gonna have plenty of opportunity to crap on her in the years to come. Instead of acting like an immature little prick, why don’t you show her some love just this once. It would probably mean the world to her.

39. QUESTION:
    Will Proposition 8 be overturned in time for people to plan their June weddings?
    In 4 days, the Court will hear arguments on whether or not it was Constitutional

    http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2009/02/03/BAMB15MMOH.DTL

    Will that give them enough time to plan their wedding? I’m disappointed that Conservatives, who normally follow the Constitution to the letter, would support such an unconstitutional bill.

    The very purpose of a Bill of Rights was to withdraw certain subjects from the vicissitudes of political controversy, to place them beyond the reach of majorities and officials and to establish them as legal principles to be applied by the courts.

    One’s right to life, liberty, and property, to free speech, a free press, freedom of worship and assembly, and other fundamental rights may not be submitted to vote; they depend on the outcome of no elections.

    US Supreme Court, West Virginia State Board of Education v. Barnette, 1943

    • ANSWER:
      Unfortunately the ruling will not come out until sometime in July.

      The hate posted by Laura is unbelievable. If she wants to stay out of California, then good riddance, to her and her ilk.

      Contrary to popular belief Civil Unions do not supply the same protection as marriage, on so many levels.

      Marriage is a contact between two consenting adults, not an adult and a child, not a man and his dog, not a lady and her cat.

      If the US is going to sanction it for one class of people, then they have no right to bar another class of people for taking part in the same union.

      The US was founded and run by the rule of law, not the vote of a mob.

      The California Supreme Court already said that gay marriage was legal, to think they would rule otherwise at this point is ignorant.

40. QUESTION:
    What are the rules concerning bringing a date to a wedding?
    My friend asked me to be best man at his wedding, but I am trying to get out of it because I would just like to enjoy the party like everyone else. Another thing is, I don’t want to bring a date or dance with anyone. I am not into any of that stuff and I hate when people try to pressure me to do something I don’t want to. I never budge and then they try to make me feel guilty. Why can’t it just be acceptable for me to make the speech and sit at my table for the rest of the evening like I do at other weddings?

    • ANSWER:
      If you bring a date, you have cleared it when you returned the RSVP.

      No last-minute surprises.

      Tell them that you prefer to be a member and not a participant. I fhe presses, then I would accept

41. QUESTION:
    for all in 4-h what good to do for presentions ??
    i been in 4-h for 7 years Hosre and beef and i use do speeches but this year I’m trying domos and me and my partner don’t now what to do. were thinking some thing with weddings. but not convinced. i need more topices.
    well if your in a 4-h culb you now that you have to do a speech or a presation and that is what i am trying to get suggesten for.

    • ANSWER:
      demos???

      like wedding related with horse/ carriage??

      Your question is VERY difficult to read and understand, you need to do some additions to help.

42. QUESTION:
    At the wedding reception, when does the best man give his speech?
    My boyfriend is his brother’s best man in the wedding and he is completely clueless to all of it. I’ve been to numerous weddings so I’ve been able to help him out w/ just about everything else but I can’t quite remember when the best man gives his speech, is there a certain time or a cue that’ll help him out? thanks for the help!!

    • ANSWER:
      Ask the bride and groom when they plan on having the speeches. I was under the impression that they are done right before dinner. At most of the weddings I have been to, the DJ has announced that it is time for the speeches to be given and for people to settle down to listen.

43. QUESTION:
    Do wedding guests expect a full blown reception?
    All the weddings I’ve been consist of the whole ceremony bit, pictures that seem to take for ever, meal and reception, and a dance. Is this what most people expect? I’d really like to just encorporate a speech or two into the ceremony, and have something more casual, maybe just with snacks and music for a reception. . . will guests be okay with this?

    • ANSWER:
      Yes this is your wedding. However I would incorporate the wedding and reception along the same guidelines so the guest won’t expect too much. I wouldn’t have a million dollar wedding with chips and punch for the reception. I suggest you have an elegant but simply short wedding with a minimal wedding party. Sometimes short is sweet…just remember keep it classy!!!

44. QUESTION:
    Why do women bring screaming babies to works functions???
    Once again works presenations completely ruined by women who turn up with screaming babies.

    The boss makes very personalised speeches to thank retiring colleagues, who all make equally good, well thought out speeches in return.

    Only those at the very front can hear because women on maternity leave turn up and bring these screaming kids with them.

    This is not a one off or out of the ordinary. It has happened before at retirals.

    They also turn up at weddings so no one can hear the service, nor the reception speeches.

    It’s pure selfishness to allow screaming kids to spoil it for others, why don’t they take them outside?

    On public transport I can avoid them by going business or first calss, but at social functions your trapped.

    Why do they do it?

    .

    • ANSWER:
      I am a Mother but I never take babies into formal affairs unless specifically asked to…babies yell at this type of thing because they are unhappy in that sort of environment..some Mothers and Fathers believe that their kid is so wonderous that no one will mind the noise…I was at a hairdressers and a girl had her yelling child in there while she had her hair done…the baby scraemed because it had no attention, it was under one and miserable…as were all the customers! Eventually, the manager told the woman to leave and she was livid! The thing is, no one cares that you cant get a babysitter…you cant bring a child into a salon its selfish! I didn’t visit the hairdresser for a year because no one could babysit for me…I wouldn’t have dreamed of taking my baby in there…why don’t you ask management to stipulate that these things are baby free?

45. QUESTION:
    Enlistment Oath Speech in the Military?
    I know I go to MEPS, do the speech but what I don’t know is if I speak in front of everyone else and we all take turns, or if we all say it at once. And if we have to remember the whole thing, or if they say it five words at a time for us to remember it like how weddings vows are, you know? Please help & thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      depends. normally its en masse but arrangements can be made ahead of time to swear in alone.

      DH, for instance, got permission to be the Officer who took his son’s Oath.

      the Officer will say the first few lines, and you repeat back. as a group.

46. QUESTION:
    Help on Maid of Honor speech?
    I have to write a speech for both of my sisters’ weddings and I have no clue what I’m suppose to say in either of them. If someone wants to give me some ideas of what I’m suppose to say I would be forever thankful. Their weddings are a week apart and I’m not allowed to repeat anything

    • ANSWER:
      A week apart
      That is very close

      Talk about your sister in the toast

      List five things you like/miss about your sister and her husband
      You do this for each sister

      You should be able to get a speech out of that
      If no, you could post a question with the list, and see what other people come up with

      Each sister should be special to you in one way

      Maid of honor speech, I was lucky, I did not have to
      Just the best man

47. QUESTION:
    What is a fantastic website (that is free!) that will help me with my Best Man’s speech?
    Ok its not for me–its for my husband!
    I don’t really want to subscribe to anything or pay for anyone to write it for me because we don’t go to that many weddings! It would be a waste. Was there something at your wedding that you thought was great in your Best Man’s speech? Any help appreciated. Don’t want anything crude as the grandparents will be there! *L*

    • ANSWER:
      GREAT site

      http://freetoastlibrary.com/

48. QUESTION:
    HELP!!!, What’s a best man supposed to say and for how long…???
    Anyone been to a wedding that had a decent best man’s speech??? Anyone offer some advice (ladies you know what you’d like to hear at your weddings!) or suggest some ideas… i need to get it sorted soon but don’t know what to say or how to go about it………………

    • ANSWER:
      Keep it under 3 minutes or people will stop listening.

49. QUESTION:
    Speech suggestions for someone whos friends with both the bride and the groom?
    The groom is my husband good friend (who is also in the wedding party) I met his bride to be when they were first dating and we really hit it off and are now good friends….I promised a speech (as I always seem to give one at weddings), but I am wondering if it would be appropriate to mention both the bride and the groom (other then the general congrats and the honor to be in the wedding party) in my speech.

    What is more appealing to guests hearing speeches? (of course the lenght not being more then about 3 minutes)

    -A humorous sentimental mix about them both
    -just some general sentimental words
    -or just a small speech honouring the bride and acknowledging how lucky hubby to be is?

    • ANSWER:
      It seems like you’re already a pro with wedding speeches. I would definitely mention my relationship to both the bride and groom and how you came to met them. Relate any funny or unusual incidents.

      Recipe for the perfect wedding speech = right blend between humor and sentiment

      Too sentimental really stretch it to the limit – too humorous don’t cut it – try to maintain a fine balance between the 2.

      More Savvy Tips on How To Write a Wedding Speech

      - Open your speech with a funny joke or one-liner.
      - Give some light-hearted advice on marriage.
      - Mention the hobbies and passions the couple share.
      - Close with a happy toast to the couple.
      - Avoid any unpleasant stories like previous wives, boyfriends or girlfriends.
      - Keep your jokes clean and above board.
      - All jokes should be in good taste and enhance your speech

      That’s it – because you are friends with both of them give them equal attention in your speech – best of luck. I really got some excellent tips and advice from http://www.weddingspeechesandtoasts.net

      I know your speech will be a big hit!

50. QUESTION:
    i’m curious, do wedding registries work?
    do guests that decide to bring a gift usually choose things from the registry, or do they pick out their own gift for the most part? im asking because i’m a week and a half away from my wedding and you know how when its close to time you’re supposed to check the registry to make sure there is still enough variety left? (please no speeches because yes i know bringing a gift isn’t mandatory, so please no speeches about how i shouldnt think about the gift, thats not the point in my question) well when i checked mine, only the 3 gifts that already came to my house (no i didnt open them) have been purchased. im NOT saying i expect gifts. all i want to know is, do the majority of guest that DO give gifts pick from the registry? or do they pick out their own thing? is wedding gift shopping a very last minute thing for most people? i havent been to many weddings, let alone been married, so im just curious.

    • ANSWER:
      Wow…I know I am a last-minute shopper. As in, the day before the wedding. I will say, usually by the time I go the registry is useless, everything is gone. But for the few weddings that I went shopping for early, it was still more than 3 items gone.

      Most often, I give a gift for the shower and money for the wedding. The way I figure it, the shower is for gifts, so the couple can get what they need. The wedding they can use the money on their honeymoon, or if they want to get something they need…it’s up to them.

      Most places you register will hold the registry open after the wedding, or you and your new husband can go and buy everything on your list at a discount.

      As far as speeches go about checking your registry….everything I’ve read and done as far as registering (at three different stores) says you MUST check it at least two weeks before the date, to make sure there is still a selection to choose from, so you’re doing the right thing!