Unusual Wedding Gifts

Frequently Asked Questions

1. QUESTION:
   What was the most unusual, but practical wedding gift that you received?
   I’m just curious. We are getting married next Friday. When we went to get our license, we got a surprise. My fiance’s cousin is the Recorder of Deeds at the courthouse where we had to go. When she noticed that we were there in her office to apply for the license, she ended up paying for it () as a wedding gift to us. I thought that was really nice, and made an unusual, but practical gift.

   • ANSWER:
     For my bridal shower, one of my good friends gave me a laundry basket filled with really practical items for our home. Laundry detergent, dryer sheets, paper towels, toilet paper, tissues, tooth paste, shower cleaner, sponges, air freshener, scented candles, mouth wash, windex, towels, wash cloths, q-tips, cotton balls, bandaids, duct tape, etc.

     That gift was a lifesaver when we moved into our new place after the wedding!!

2. QUESTION:
   Can you suggest an unusual wedding gift?
   My best friends wedding is coming up and i want to get them something unusual, preferably something with their names & date of their wedding engraved on it, any suggestions?
   I am in the uk incase this helps

   • ANSWER:
     A GIANT RUBBER DUCK WITH THERE NAMES ON IT!!

3. QUESTION:
   Unusual Wedding Gift For My Best Friend?
   My best friend is getting married and I have a hard time trying to come up with a unique gift for their special day. They have been living together for years so they have everything they want / need…..anybody knows of any unique, special ideas?

   • ANSWER:
     I used this for one of my good friends’ wedding. I put together a pretty basket filled with 2 of each color candle listed in this poem, as well as a different types of candle holders. Include this poem and you have a very unique gift for your friend!

     A Basket of Candles For (Bride’s name)

     A basket of candles that come in a pair
     in all different colors, for you two to share.
     The white ones burn first;
     they are wrapped in white lace
     to celebrate your first married night
     in your new chosen place.
     The green pair is taller, and also much thinner;
     burn with the first company you have over for dinner.
     The dark blue candles are for after your first fight;
     use them to burn while making up all night.
     Pink candles set the mood and pave the way
     for your first married Valentine’s Day.
     Now, when your first year of marriage is through,
     the cream anniversary pair, will light for you two.
     Red candles aflame, both your futures are bright;
     celebrate promotions you’ve worked toward with all of your might.
     By this time we hope, maybe, just maybe
     you can light the purple ones, on the birth of your baby.
     And just when you thought you’d put these away,
     take the light blue ones out for your fifth anniversary day.
     Now just one more pair left – for the big “two five” -
     the anniversary pair that will keep your love alive.
     Congratulations (Bride and Groom)
     on the start of your forever.
     May the two of you always be happy together.
     And burn these candles just the way we said,
     but please don’t forget: blow them out before bed!

4. QUESTION:
   Looking for a unusual wedding gift, Garfield my friend is getting married, he is Garfiels mad. Thanks?
   Where can I find Garfield stuff? Thanks

   • ANSWER:
     www.giftapolis.com

     www.janicewise.com

     www.happymall.com

     www.garfieldcollectibles.com

     Good luck!

5. QUESTION:
   unusual wedding gift for my wife-to-be?
   i’ve been racking my brains trying to think of a nice but unusual wedding gift for my fiancee when we get married.
   the best one ive come up with is naming a star after us to celebrate our wedding.
   is this a good idea or do you know of any others?

   • ANSWER:
     We had a star named after my dad for his 60th birthday and he was really touched by it. He proudly displays his star chart. I think it’s a great idea. go for it.

6. QUESTION:
   unique/unusual wedding gift idea 10pts for best idea?
   i am looking for a nice wedding gift for this saturday 3rd may. i want something unusual so that no one else will get the same. i really dont know what to get shes not into ornaments and already has her own house so they dont need the usual dinner or duvet sets. and i dont really want to just give money.
   if anyone can give me any ideas that would be great. i live in dundee area incase anyone is selling products.

   • ANSWER:
     Get them really nice luxurious bath robes with their names embroidered on them. Make everyday a spa day in their new lives together.

7. QUESTION:
   What would be an unusual and personal wedding gift?
   My partner is going to get his good friend something off his wedding list but also wants to get something a bit special aswell because he’s been a very good friend.

   They’re going to Las Vegas for their honeymoon so we wondered if anyone knows of any sort of gift certificate type things that we could get so they can use them while they’re there?

   Thanks

   • ANSWER:
     A wine decanter carved from dried elephant droppings would be very unusual. Get their initials engraved on the bottom and there you go … unusual and personalised!
     (sorry, I couldn’t resist it)

8. QUESTION:
   What is the most… unusual… wedding gift you have given or received?
   For yourself or for others?

   My friend was given a very nice, very expensive knife set by his best man. The only problem? Neither him nor his wife cook much, so it hasn’t been opened in 3 years.
   Some truly… unusual… gifts here so far.

   But not necessarily terrible or useless, just gifts that I would not have thought of for a wedding.

   • ANSWER:
     As one gift in one box: Baby Oil, Twister, and an Ice Cream maker.

     Geo

9. QUESTION:
   Unusual Wedding Gift??
   My best friend is getting married next month and I can’t be there as hopefully I’ll be giving birth!

   They don’t have a gift list so I’d like to get them something unusual – any suggestions??

   (Budget about £50 – £75)

   Many thanks x

   • ANSWER:
     A wedding Goat couple from Oxfam. £50
     Your friends will receive a card from you telling them what you have bought (2 goats for a farm in Africa)

     An ethical present really is the way to go these days!

10. QUESTION:
    unusual 40th wedding anniversary gift?
    My parents arwn’t into tacky traditional gifts. They don’t drink champagne or wine. I was thinking more along the lines of a gift card for a restaurant.

    • ANSWER:
      40 red roses

11. QUESTION:
    what is an unusual gift idea for a 25th wedding annivertsary?

    • ANSWER:
      You can get her smth really original and sentimental that will remind her of you everytime she looks at it: a 100% hand-made painting from your favorite photo together. I’ve discovered this website that turns photos into beautiful hand-made paintings and the prices are really affordable too. Here’s the link: www.paintedsouvenirs.com ..Good luck on finding the right gift!

12. QUESTION:
    I want to but some unusual wedding favours, any ideas where I can get something different?
    I’m getting married abroad and want my guests to have a keep sake gift, without spending a fortune. All i keep finding is a load of old tat, like candles and bottle stoppers etc. Can anyone help me on something a little more unique, bearing in mind i’ll need to fly them over with me.

    • ANSWER:

13. QUESTION:
    Interesting wedding presents?
    Looking for an interesting, unusual wedding gift..

    my cousin is marrying
    and im lookin for something not to expensive, but is very interesting! and useful! xz

    • ANSWER:
      Get in touch with other relatives and ask them to copy favorite recipes and send them to you (hand written is great!). Once you have the recipes mount them on paper and put the pages in page protectors then put them in an album. Your cousin will have a unique gift that will be treasured for years. It’s especially nice if the relatives can give little stories about the recipe -what makes it special, or how they got the recipe from great-great-Aunt Ruth etc……

14. QUESTION:
    How much money did you receive as gifts from your wedding? UK only please?
    I got married a few weeks ago and went on my honeymoon straight after, so I only got to open my cards/gifts last night.

    We had only had a small ceremony (30 people, 10children) and about 100 people came to the reception. Our entire wedding, including 2 weeks away cost less than £9k.

    Because we live together and own our own home, we asked people for money instead of a gift, if they wanted to get us one.

    I was hoping to get £1k to put towards getting our bathroom done.

    We got a few photo frames and bottles of champage and just short of £4k! I couldnt believe it!

    Gotta get writing those thank you cards asap!

    How much did you receive? (sorry for being so nosey, Im just curious.) Did you get any unusual gifts? What is the best and worst gift you received?

    What sort of things did you put in your memory box
    thanks to everyone who’s answered so far. Its just so nice. Obviously my wedding was really important to me, but i didnt realise how important it was to my friends and family and im so touched. x

    • ANSWER:
      AWW bless , glad you a great time, and wow you did well , good for you, many people on here think its in bad taste to ask for money but fair play you did right . Why do you want a load of stuff you already got ….anyway back to the question yeah both my brothers when they got married asked for money one got around 2k the other one got about 1.8k which they both put towards there spends for their honeymoon .They had token gifts as well but their memories of their honeymoon mean the world to them and they were really overwhelmed at peoples generosity x

15. QUESTION:
    wedding gift ideas?
    help – need an unusual wedding gift for the couple who has everything. 2nd marriage for both of them.

    • ANSWER:
      a musical fountain , beautiful chimes

16. QUESTION:
    What shall I give my wonderful sister as a wedding gift?
    I’m looking for an unusual, personal gift.

    I appreciate your help

    • ANSWER:

17. QUESTION:
    What is a good idea for a 1st wedding anniversary gift?
    My brother and sister-in-law are celebrating their 1st anniversary. Any good ideas for an unusual gift?

    • ANSWER:
      Go buy some cheap candles and flowers, make them dinner, and set it up for them, that is if you have keys to their home and they aren’t going out. Set up a romantic evening for them and then leave. Or make them up a cute picnic basket, that is if they live in an area that is nice during the middle of the summer. You could make a little photo album or scrapbook for them.

18. QUESTION:
    what is the most unusual gift you have ever been given?
    we got two truckloads of water as a wedding gift. it was really unusual and really appreciated

    • ANSWER:
      One of my friend persented me a “Bullock cart” on the occasion of my divorce.

19. QUESTION:
    Has anyone got an unusual idea for a first anniversary wedding gift for my husband? (our paper anniversary)?

    Sensible answers only please!

    • ANSWER:
      give him a certificate book
      good for
      a back rub
      a quite afternoon watching football
      a night of sex- his choice

20. QUESTION:
    Simple Gifts as bridal processional for wedding?
    I know it’s unusual, but what are your thoughts? I love the tune and I hate all the normal ones.

    • ANSWER:
      It’s a beautiful song, and is used in weddings–so it’s not “out there” or anything. I would say, you’re the bride, do it your way!

21. QUESTION:
    Simple Gifts by aaron Copland as bridal processional for wedding?
    I know it’s unusual, but what are your thoughts? I love the tune and I hate all the normal ones.

    • ANSWER:
      That is a really pretty song and I think it would be a great choice for the processional!

22. QUESTION:
    what is an unusual gift you have recieved?
    we were given 2 truckloads of water to fill our tank, it was a wedding gift, and it was very appreciated.

    • ANSWER:
      A radio station I listen to asked this question last Christmas season. I called in, then called my wife at work to turn her radio to that station (there’s a delay of several minutes when they have callers call in with answers to their questions).
      When I was stationed in Antarctica (1972 -73), my wife crocheted/knitted an anatomically correct jock starp out of my old school colors (maroon and gold). I still have it.
      My wife and her co-worker almost fell off the floor when they heard me on the radio, especially when the female DJ asked me if my wife “took into consideration the cold or did it still fit?”. My wife took my jock strap to work to show her co-worker. They both had a good laugh.

23. QUESTION:
    Most curious Wedding superstitions?
    I just read the question about knives as a wedding gift and I wondered…. What other unusual wedding superstitions have you heard of? We’ve all heard about seeing the bride before the wedding etc. but what else have you heard?

    10 points to the most or oddest (that are actually practiced)
    Here’es the knife question

    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AkIMaBV9u5PsTnJfsdCosHXE7BR.;_ylv=3?qid=20080125124534AA8wV7l

    • ANSWER:
      This is what I was able to find…pretty interesting. Looks like there are a lot of things I shouldn’t be doing:

      Bridal Shower – The first gift the bride opens should be the first gift she uses. Everything the bride says as she opens her gifts will be repeated on her wedding night. Somone should be assigned to write down these comments during the shower.

      The person who gives the third gift to be opened at a bridal shower will soon have a baby.

      Save the ribbons from the bridal shower gifts to make a mock bouquet to be used at the wedding rehearsal.

      Certain days of the week are better than others for a wedding: Monday for health, Tuesday for wealth, Wednesday best of all, Thursday for losses, Friday for crosses, Saturday for no luck at all.

      Certain months are better than others for a wedding: Married when the year is new, he’ll be loving, kind & true, When February birds do mate, You wed nor dread your fate. If you wed when March winds blow, joy and sorrow both you’ll know. Marry in April when you can, Joy for Maiden & for Man. Marry in the month of May, and you’ll surely rue the day. Marry when June roses grow, over land and sea you’ll go. Those who in July do wed, must labor for their daily bred. Whoever wed in August be, many a change is sure to see. Marry in September’s shrine, your living will be rich and fine. If in October you do marry, love will come but riches tarry. If you wed in bleak November, only joys will come, remember. When December snows fall fast, marry and true love will last.

      A Lucky Bride: Something old, Something new, Something borrowed, Something blue, And a lucky sixpence In her shoe.

      Married in White, you have chosen right. Married in Grey, you will go far away, Married in Black, you will wish yourself back, Married in Red, you will wish yourself dead, Married in Green, ashamed to be seen, Married in Blue, you will always be true, Married in Pearl, you will live in a whirl, Married in Yellow, ashamed of your fellow, Married in Brown, you will live in the town, Married in Pink, you spirit will sink.

      Good omens on your wedding day: Seeing a rainbow , having the sunshine, meeting a black cat, meeting a chimney sweep,

      Bad omens on your wedding day: a pig, hare, or lizard running across the road, seeing an open grave, meeting a nun or a monk foretell barrenness.

      If the groom drops the wedding band during the ceremony, the marriage is doomed.

      The new bride must enter her home by the main door, and must not trip or fall. This is origin of the custom of carrying the bride over the threshold.

      The spouse who goes to sleep first on the wedding day will be the first to die.

      If a single woman sleeps with a piece of wedding cake under her pillow, she will dream of her future husband.

      Take a pea-pod which has 9 peas and suspend it over the doorway using a white thread. If the next person who enters by the same door is not a member of the family and is a bachelor or spinster, then your wedding will take place in not more than a year’s time.

      The Cuckoo.-When you hear a cuckoo for the first time in the year, quote aloud: Cuckoo, Cuckoo, answer me true This question that I’m asking you; I beg that truly you’ll tell me In how many years I’ll married be. The number of times which the cuckoo replies is declared to represent the number of years that will elapse before you marry.

      Take a photograph of the one you love and hold before it a ring on the end of a thread. Be careful to keep your hand still. If the ring moves in a circle, you win marry the person in the picture soon and will lead a life of bliss; if the ring moves to and fro, it is unlikely you will marry him. Should the ring not move at all, you are likely to remain single.

      On the Eve of St. Agnes (on the night before January 21) take a row of pins and pull them out, one after the other. Then stick a pin in your sleeve and you will dream of the one you will marry.

      If you find a four-leaf clover, put it in your right shoe and the next bachelor you meet will become your husband.

      The New Moon.-This ceremony must be practiced on the first night of the new moon. Open wide the windows of your bedroom and sit down on the windowsill, gazing with unblinking eyes at the moon, and at the same time repeating softly and slowly the following incantation: “All hail, Selene, all hail to thee! I prithee, good moon, reveal to me this night to whom I’ll wedded be.” During the night you will dream of your future husband.

      Wedding-cake.-Take a small piece of wedding-cake, pass it three times through a wedding-ring and then lay the cake under your pillow. In your dreams that night your future husband will appear to you. Place a small piece of wedding-cake under your pillow and put a borrowed wedding ring on the third finger of your left hand. Before you retire to bed arrange the shoes, which you have worn that day in the shape of a T. Then, it is said, your future husband will appear to you in your dreams.

      If a woman should eat a salted herring just before she goes to bed, her future husband will appear to her in a dream, carrying a cup of water with which to quench her thirst.

      June is the best month to get married. Romans believed that Juno, their goddess of woman, blessed marriages that took place in her month.

      In the olden days, when a wife was considered a possession, a wedding ring was a sign that the woman had been purchased by the groom.

      Marry on the upswing of the clock, basically on the half-hour, like 2:30 instead of 2, or 3, because that way the hands of the clock are on their way up, not down

      The Dress

      Good Luck: White has been the lucky color for the formal weddings in the States for more than a century. For informal weddings, you can wear any color except red or black.

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      Bad Luck: The colors of red and black are considered bad luck because black is the color of widows – it symbolizes death. Red on the other hand is the color of the devil and for obvious reasons, it is considered unlucky in Christian ceremonies. It is said that if a bride chooses to wear a red wedding dress she and her husband will fight before their first anniversary or her husband will die soon.

      The Wedding Day

      Good Luck: To maximize your good luck on the wedding day, you want to pick a date when the moon is waxing and an n hour when the ride is rising. It’s also a good plan to make sure the wedding is ending in the second half of an hour when the minute hand is rising. It’ a good plan to make sure everything is growing bigger or climbing higher in order to ensure rising fortunes.

      Bad Luck: Your wedding should not be scheduled for early in the morning. The idea is that it will bring about bad luck and is associated with the idea that both bride and groom would need to clean up after a morning of farm chores and they wouldn’t want to show up smelling like the farm animals. Current thinking is that the bride and groom would need to recover from their respective parties the night before.

      Note: It’s better to schedule any bachelor or bachelorette parties at least two days ahead of the wedding – there’s enough stress on the wedding day without showing up exhausted or recovering from a binge of some sort.

      The Bride’s Veil

      Good Luck: When the bride is getting ready for the ceremony, her veil should be placed on her by a happily married woman. It’s also good luck to wear the veil of one’s grandmother to ensure that she will always have the wealth of love, support and bounty of the generations that came previously.

      Bad Luck: It’s bad luck for anyone other than the bride’s family to see her without the veil or to place the veil on her. She should also avoid looking in a mirror after the veil is in place.

24. QUESTION:
    What do you think abouit giving my lover a “wedding ring” for Christmas?
    I met the love of my life last May. Two days after we met, he gave me an engagement/commitment ring. It is a single perfect princess diamond in a Tiffany setting. We fell in love immediately and have been living together and going strong without so much as even a difference in opionion (let alone an argument) all this time. We are both divorced and have decided to wait at least a full year before marrying, as neither one of us EVER wants to go through a divorce again.

    I would like very much to get him a “wedding” band for Christmas, along with some other gifts. I know that he is traditional and that he kept the wedding bands that he got from his previous wives. It would make me very proud if he would accept a ring from me. We often refer to ourselves as husband and wife when we are introduced – either that or we don’t correct people who assume that.

    Would that be an unusual gift or just lovely and romantic as I intend it?

    I would love some opinions from men on this.

    • ANSWER:
      Don’t be foolish….if it goes bad…Christmas will suck for many years to come…better to screw up another holiday!

25. QUESTION:
    What is the worst wedding gift you have ever received?
    Or most useless/unusual?

    • ANSWER:
      I received two that probably tie as worst. One was that Willow Tree figurines. I know some people love them and collect them but I think they are the ugliest things ever. And who wants a wedding gift from Cracker Barrel? The second was handmade so I feel guilty for hating it. It’s a ceramic angel, about a foot tall, painted in these tacky metallic/icy pink and pale blue. I guess its a Christmas decoration. We aren’t Christian but she is–so she wanted to share. But I feel too guilty to give it away since it’s handmade.

      Though I did also receive some hideous plastic picture frames that I regifted to children. And a groomsmen who didn’t get me anything for the wedding. Though he kept telling me for months that he did but he left it at his house. I thought–why lie about it? Why not just go grab an ice cream scoop, lemon zester and a garlic press for about and be done with it Though he felt guilty b/c the year before my groom and I had spent a fortune for his wedding gift.

26. QUESTION:
    what items can be given as door gifts ?? poll ?
    on special occassions and gatherings , what gifts can be given as door gifts .

    (for those who dont know door gifts are small gifts that people give to their guests on special occassions )

    poll :
    1 wedding gift or
    2 birthday gift or
    3 baby shower gift or
    4 some gift at unusual occassion

    • ANSWER:
      On all 4 of the occasions a door gift can be given..=)

      wedding = napkin rings with the wedding couples names on them,
      baby beanie stuffed animal

      birthday = noisemakers, balloons,key chains, happy birthday pencils

      baby shower = buttermints;pastel baby colors, large safety pin key chains, plastic baby shoe filled with small candies

      other occasions = flower;1 rose, heart shaped box with candy, stuffed animal, hair grooming items, gift baskets, gift cards

27. QUESTION:
    How can we find a match to a set of crystal goblets (late 90s, probably inexpensive, but a bit unusual)?
    These were a wedding gift (set of 4). They’re not likely to be very expensive, and yet we’ve never seen them anywhere, and we get many compliments. No name etched on them or anything. What’s different about them is the “neck” of the stem is very thick, i.e. the base, which is heavy, doesn’t curve in-&-out too sharply as it rises toward the cup. It would be *very* cool if I could get these and surprise my wife.

    • ANSWER:
      Check the Replacements Unlimited website, if any company would have them it would be them and they would be at the most reasonable price.

28. QUESTION:
    Bridal Shower Family Feud Survey – Need 100 Responses?
    1 Name a popular place the bride and groom register for gifts
    2 What part of the wedding does the groom most look forward to?
    3 What part of the wedding does the bride most look forward to?
    4 What is the most popular appliance given as a bridal shower/wedding gift?
    5 What is the most popular color for a bridesmaids dress?
    6 Besides the rose, what is the most popular wedding flower?
    7 Name a popular honeymoon destination
    8 Name a popular wedding song
    9 How many bridesmaids are typically in a wedding?
    10 Besides a church, name a popular place to get married.
    11 Name something the couple does at the wedding ceremony
    12 How long is the average engagement?
    13 Name a household chore men like to do the least
    14 What part of pre-married life do couples miss the most?
    15 What is the most useless/unusual wedding gift you ever received?
    16 What do married couples fight about the most?
    17 Name a phrase that begins with the word “Wedding”
    More to follow.
    18 How many weeks before the wedding should invitations be sent out?
    19 Name the most popular wedding cake flavor.
    20 Most popular meal served at the reception.
    21 Most popular month for a wedding.
    22 How long should you know someone before getting married?
    23 What should a bride have with her for luck on her wedding day?
    24 How much does the average wedding cost?
    25 How long after getting married should a couple wait before starting a family?

    Please post your response below. Please don’t read other people’s responses before posting yours. I am doing this for a bridal shower, but need to survey 100 people first. Thanks for your help!

    • ANSWER:
      1-Linens & Things
      2-Honeymoon
      3-Walking down the ailse
      4-Toaster
      5-Pink
      6-Tulip
      7-Aruba
      8-Can I have this dance
      9-6
      10-Park
      11-Kiss
      12-1 year
      13-clean bath
      14-Privacy
      15-Fondue pot
      16-Money
      17-Wedding day jitters
      18-12 weeks
      19-Lemon with Raspberry filling
      20-Prime rib
      21-June
      22-3 years
      23-something old, new, borrowed, and blue
      24-10,000.
      25-5 years

29. QUESTION:
    PLEEEEASE…..HELP!!!? i received this REALLY unusual gift!!???
    i DO NOT know what it is…….OK it’s (really expensive) now i realize why i can’t understand this thing!!! it’s WOOD, and it’s hand painted…..it’s a picture frame/ vase…………so this is RALLY artsy….trendy…eccentric…. (I think it’s AWESOME)….but i kinda wanted to know if ANYONE has ever seen something like this?????? you put a photo in…..and there is a BUD VASE behind where you put the pic….so you can’t see the FLOWER/CUTTING…from the front …..this is so odd…awesome but odd!!! it’s been about 4yrs. now i did’nt know about it then…..and i don’t know now! anyone game???! it was a house warming / wedding gift …we have VERY unusal friends….but we can’t figure out who it came from!!!!! THANX…..L
    OK……………..it came from FRANK ZAPPA!!!!

    • ANSWER:
      try posting a picture and i’d attempt to help, but the explanation loses me

30. QUESTION:
    What should I get for gifts for the ring bearer and flowergirl?
    I actually need gifts for three kids. The ring bearing is three and I also need a gift for his older bother (so they don’t fight over it) who is thirteen but is severely mentally and physically handicapped. The flower girl is six. I am not very good with children so I do not know what they would enjoy. The wedding is next week so I do not have time to purchase something offline so it cannot be anything to unusual.

    • ANSWER:
      I got my children attendants personalized picture frames with their names and a cute poem and then engraved on the bottom was “thank you” love, us. They all loved it. We got separate pics with each of them so they can frame them and remember the day.

31. QUESTION:
    How much should I tip the vendors at my “unusual” wedding?
    See I have a sort of a”different” wedding. All of my vendors donated their services to us. We don’t have a lot of money “hints why they donated” I still want to do something special for them. We are planning on making a really nice frame for the baker, and florist with pictures of their work and a nice letter. what should we do for the DJ, Photographer and Videographer? These people are actually working and I would like to do something special without spending a lot. Is a gift card a bad idea? Please help the wedding is coming up
    Thanks, I am feeding them thats for sure. They are working a long day and I dont want to starve them. LOL I think a very well written letter is a nice idea, what about is that not enough as a tip?

    • ANSWER:
      well you should feed them for one thing cause they are working and some weddings they do they dont get to eat so make sure they know they can have a plate of food, a gift card would be nice but make it one of those types where they can spend the money on it wherever they want or give them what you can in cash.

      Edit: Glad to hear you plan on feeding them, and i think 50 dollars would indeed be a reasonable tip if thats all you are able to pay some people even go as high as 100 but since your feeding them as well 50 would be just fine.

32. QUESTION:
    what to buy the best man and father of the bride for my wedding?
    Hi im looking to spend about 10-20 pounds each on a gift for them the best man is a police man and the father of the bride is a mechanic owns his own buisness please give me good unusual gift ideas many thanks in advance ppl

    • ANSWER:
      Nice photograph frame with a photo of them with you & your future
      wife.

33. QUESTION:
    I’m attending a wedding shower that has an unusual theme…?
    Each guest was given a time of day in the shower invitation (mine was 8AM) and we’re supposed to buy a gift based on what the bride can use during that time! So what are some unique gift ideas besides a robe, bath sets, coffee maker and other obvious things? Thanks sooooo much!
    Great suggestions!!!! Thanks, all! You’ve definitely helped out a ton!

    • ANSWER:
      Here is a great site with wonderful muffins, breads and jams.
      It’s easy to order one.
      I hope that helps.

34. QUESTION:
    Unusual Dream’s last night ? Asian Wedding & Clairvoyant !?
    Last night i had 2 dreams, the first one, i visited a Clairvoyant and she read my cards, she mentioned Butterflies ? and that my mum was always with me . I then felt like she had Hypnotised me and i was in bed, asleep, but i could feel my mum’s presence leaning over me, i woke up with a start !
    My 2nd dream, i was wearing an Asian Sari, i was cooking, and was going to be married, and i wasnt sure wether to go through with it, and kept recieving Gifts from his parents, lots and lots of expensive gifts ?
    I was speaking to his Grandmother, and she kept saying, the Wedding invitations are Mr & Mrs ? but didnt hear the surname, and she said are your parents coming ? and i wasnt sure, really strange !
    I’m not Asian , which is more strange !
    Can anyone please interpret either of my dreams please ?

    • ANSWER:
      Yep that is wierd lol

35. QUESTION:
    unusual anniversary gift for my husband?
    its my second wedding anniversary soon and i would like to get my wonderfull husband something great any ideas

    • ANSWER:
      If you can afford it, take him somewhere he has always wanted to go.

      If you are on a budget, make a romantic night at home with a small but meaningful gift, candles, dinner… etc

      Good luck!

36. QUESTION:
    How much money should I send my best friend for a wedding gift?
    I can’t attend my best friend’s wedding due to unusual circumstances. They’re registered at a few stores, but they also mentioned they welcome money to be used for a down payment on a house. How much is appropriate to send?

    If it matters, this guy has been my best friend since childhood, and we’ve maintained that friendship even though we now live far apart. Also, he asked me to be his best man, which I had to turn down.

    Thanks!
    Also, in case it’s relevant, neither my friend nor myself have high-paying jobs. (We each make about ,000/year.)

    • ANSWER:

37. QUESTION:
    Perfect wedding gift…?
    My friend is getting married the latter part of this year. she’s still in the process of planning her wedding. i want a gift that is really romantic, and her husband can appreciate it too. i have no idea what to get her, and i don’t want to do conventional things like money or appliances. i want something that is unusual and can last forever. when they see it, they will remember their wedding day and the happiness. and i don’t want a wedding album because someone will buy that for them. so what is a good gift for her? they are both in their early twenties. and her favourite colour is pink, and his is black or blue. any ideas or suggestions?
    she doesn’t have a wedding registry. and she said she wanted a surprise. she doesn’t want to know what she is getting, because i asked her what she wanted.
    the price doesn’t really matter.

    • ANSWER:
      For something different that they can keep forever and that will always remind them of their romance and their big day you could get them a rose dipped in gold!

      http://ihatestevensingeronline.com/detail.aspx?ID=43

      http://store.24kfloral.com/merchant2/merchant.mvc?Screen=CTGY&Store_Code=GI&Category_Code=F03-GR

38. QUESTION:
    Please help! I need wedding gift ideas?
    I’m not near any major stores. I ordered from registry, but shipping had so many issues they canceled my order, and it’s all out of stock. I now don’t have time to order anything else! I have one thing though, so I need something else that’s about worth. Any ideas? I have some unique shops around, antique shops, etc. Can you give me ideas of what would be appropriate as a wedding gift not from a chain store, and still safe and hopefully well received as a wedding gift?
    Otherwise I’m completely lost!
    I don’t want to give them money. I’m thinking it’ll have to be unique/unusual given my options for shopping. I just want to know what would be appropriate.

    • ANSWER:
      Please shop locally. Merchants need the business! Things every couple needs & loves that can cost around : a very nice bath towel set. 6-8 crystal glasses (not wine glasses). Think luxury – paying a lot to get a nice thing. You can’t get a fine sheet set for unless you hit the discount store on a lucky day.
      A very small table or bookcase from an antique shop if you find a nice one for . Everybody needs another small table & bookcase.
      Praise you for thinking individualized!

39. QUESTION:
    Can someone please name an unusual gift you might give to your lover?
    By unusual gift I mean like an onion. So, if you give that to your lover you say ‘ Here. This is like your heart, if this ever gets cut apart,(but a heart doesn’t get cut, it breaks! An onion gets cut apart.) I will cry for you.(when you cut an an onion, you cry).

    Another explanation for an onion:
    The rings in the onion will shrink to our wedding ring.

    Guys, please help I need an answer in 2 hours! Even if it isn’t in two hours, just give an idea and turn it into a poem. For how to write the poem, google ‘Valentin by Carol Ann Duffy’ and read it. Please! It’s homework for tomorrow ( Thursday).
    By unusual gift I mean like an onion. So, if you give that to your lover you say ‘ Here. This is like your heart, if this ever gets cut apart,(but a heart doesn’t get cut, it breaks! An onion gets cut apart.) I will cry for you.(when you cut an an onion, you cry).

    Another explanation for an onion:
    The rings in the onion will shrink to our wedding ring.

    Guys, please help I need an answer in 2 hours! Even if it isn’t in two hours, just give an idea and turn it into a poem. For how to write the poem, google ‘Valentin by Carol Ann Duffy’ and read it. Please! It’s homework for tomorrow ( Thursday).

    Thanx brown eyed girl but it’s not exactly what im looking for. A rose is normally something you give to your lover but I need something unusual like like an orange and say’ as the layers peel away so will my days but I will always leave behind something for you to enjoy(fruit). See? I’m not very good,am I? You guys out there help me!
    it’s not it joseph
    gizmo! why a mango, how does it relate to love?
    what does an ‘F’ mean by the way?
    lol joseph I’m in a grammar school and I didn’t really like this but I got A grade.
    I said coals so I will say ‘ These are some coals. Burn them. Look at the fire, that’s me. You are these coals. You give me the fuel for life. You are the reason I’m even burning like the fire. Without you I’d die.’ My teacher read it out to the class. Oh yeah! Now I just need to make it into a poem….anyone have any ideas? lol please…

    • ANSWER:
      I sense an F in your future.

      UPDATE: “F” is the grade you will be getting on this assignment.

40. QUESTION:
    I need some Wedding Gift Ideas?
    My sister is getting married soon. She stays with her fiance and two sons. They pretty much have everything they need and i dont want to buy them nick nacks or ‘something to remember the occassion by’ that will just spend the years in a cupboard collecting dust. I also dont want to give them money because they are quite well off as it is. I just want to get something useful, even unusual or unique. Help lol

    • ANSWER:
      Here is a unique gift and memorable gift we were given as a wedding present.

      We were given a crate of 12 wines, each different, and each marked with the name of a month like “August- 2nd Month Anniversary”, “September- 3rd Month Anniversary” etc.

      On the one year anniversary, the bottle was champagne.

      We looked forward to celebrating each little milestone with wine at dinner.

      It’s been 23 happy years, and this is still a gift that is a warm memory making me smile.

      ***If they don’t drink, consider another monthly gift. Could be a subscription to “cake of the month”,
      ***How about a free baby-sitting night certificate, courtesy “uncle/aunt” on the 1st Friday etc. of each month?

41. QUESTION:
    Can anyone suggest something special that I do for my soon-to-be daughter-in-law?
    I am NOT one of THOSE Mother-in-Laws!
    So, no juvenile answers.
    My son and his fiance have decided to put a nice wedding together in 5 months [ no she is not- he is joining the marines] My ‘ex’, father of the groom, will be providing the rehearsal dinner.
    What can I do for this dear girl to help or show my appreciation.
    I am seeking suggestions of some favors for the wedding or rehearsal dinner or any small gift.
    Are there any brides who received something that was unforgettable?
    A special treat from their families/ mother-in-law that shows care and support?
    I am known for my unusual gifts.
    But,I am at loss.
    Help!
    Lots of wonderful ideas so far.Thanks.
    I forgot to add that I live 450 miles away.
    I will begin to look at those suggestions.
    I like the spa day.
    Perhaps I can make a date for the spa ,with her, the week before and present the “gift”.
    PSS: Mothers-in-Law do not give shower.
    Bad form.
    Her good friend is a Hairstylist- she will be doing the wedding party’s hair and make-up.
    I still like the Spa suggestions.
    I am thinking of taking a peice of my deceased mothers’jewelry and having the stones made into nice earrings.
    Does this sound like a good gift?

    • ANSWER:
      how about a piece of jewelry that’s been in the family for a while?
      it could be something old, or borrowed if you want it back

42. QUESTION:
    Is it tacky to buy my own wedding ring? How to break the news of engagement to parents who are anti-marriage?
    Long, complicated story short I am in a situation that I must spend up to 0 on jewelery (most people would beg to have this issue). It must be spent on me, and it must be on jewelery. It can be several pieces or one and cannot exceed 0. I’m a unusual woman because I don’t really wear or like a lot of jewelery. I hate bracelets, have a few necklaces I like, ok with earrings, etc. So I was thinking of putting the 0 towards my wedding ring (it probably would be somewhat less than my limit), since I will probably get married within the next 2 years and I am engaged. I figure the money that would have been spent on my ring could go towards other wedding expenses. Plus it doesn’t seem fair the groom buys an expensive engagement ring, a wedding band, and a wedding gift and I buy a wedding gift and a man’s ring which is far less expensive than women’s. Will it be weird or tacky if I buy my own ring? Any other suggestions? If anyone has advice to breaking engagement news to parents I’d like that too! My parents have a negative attitude towards marriage (yet they have been married 35 years+) since my sister got divorced, and they are also less than fond of my fiance for ridiculous reasons (he hasn’t gone to college yet, they don’t like my mother-in-law, and smokes-except he quit). I should add I’ve been engaged awhile (let’s just say over a year) and in the relationship for 7 years so breaking off get married is not very likely.

    • ANSWER:
      I’m not sure how I would get tacky from this – I mean, no one is ever going to know so why would anyone think it’s tacky?

      If I could’ve gotten my wedding band for free I sure as shooting would’ve done it. It’s just a symbol. Just a ring. Doesn’t have magic powers. Doesn’t have to be the greatest purchase of your life. Besides, chances are you’ll lose it at some point anyway. I say go for it! I mean, if you MUST spend it on jewelry, why spend it on something you’ll never wear? that just doesn’t make any logical sense at all.

      As for your parents – if you’re grown enough to commit your life to someone, you’re grown enough to bite the bullet and tell your folks about it. Suck it, make the phone call, deal with the fall out and emerge a stronger person. The truth is, their opinion doesn’t matter anymore. We all want to make our parents happy, but at some point you just have to accept the fact that as an adult you’re going to do things they disagree with.

43. QUESTION:
    Please help me with this wedding drama?
    I am between a rock and a hard place, and desperately need some advice.

    A good friend of mine, has a brother getting married in September and asked me to go with her. I shall refer to her as C.

    The reason she asked me to go, is because she has problems with anxiety and being in large crowds. While her mum and family will be there, she is afraid of getting overstimulated and taking her mum or dad away from the celebration, because she needs to escape to calm down, thus why she asked me to go. I was uncomfortable with it at first, but told her, as long as she asked the bride and groom, if they were okay with it, and agreed, I would go.

    To give you an idea of why C would ask me specifically, I will give a bit of background. She is disabled and has a lot of behavioral issues, as well as being diabetic. She lives with and is almost fully dependent on her family, especially her mum. Very few people can calm her down when she is upset and I am one of them. Sometimes, I go over, or take her out so her parents can have some free time. We go to the movies, or the zoo, or something just order pizza and have a movie marathon. The reason C asked me specifically to go with her is because we are close, and I will not question her need to go, I will take her away when she is ready, or help her calm down if she is feeling overwhelmed, and no one who is really apart of the celebration will have to be disturbed.

    It is out of town, so I knew I would have to pay for airfares and accommodation when I agreed to go. I also go an email from C’s brother thanking me and telling me it means a lot to him that I am willing to go to a stranger’s wedding for C’s sake. So I was feeling really good about my decision, until today.

    First, C called me crying because the grooms birthday was this weekend and she couldn’t afford to send him a gift, because she is a pensioner and he flipped out. I know he can be a little snobby and this really upset me, but I decided it is family business, and not my place to intervene.

    Then, I got the following email, sent to everyone on the guest list which is close to 500 people.

    Hello everyone,

    I would just like to say thank you to everyone for all of your love and support as we plan our wedding. Also, I want to say thank you, for being so accommodating with the invitations. I know I sent them out far earlier than I was supposed to, but I have such a large guest list, I wanted to leave time for any last minute changes. Thank you to everyone who replied promptly.

    As for the catering, we will be serving a delicious 3 course meal. The cost for the meal is 5 per person and that includes alcohol, there will also be a full bar.

    Also, we are asking for a donation per person to donate to the church. The wedding starts at 3:00pm sharp, so we ask that everyone arrives by 2:00pm for pictures.

    Thank you everyone! We look forward to seeing everyone there.

    Love,
    The couple.

    I obviously left out names, but how tacky is that? Asking for people to pay for their dinners via email?!
    They have also circulated an “unofficial” acceptable gifts list, by word of mouth, because it is rude to ask for gifts outright. I was going to do what I usually do in these situations, give them a “Congratulations” card with 0 in it, but now I am not sure. They want me to pay 5 for a meal, and I don’t even know what it is!

    I am livid, and frankly, my husband wants me to back out, and I am considering it. The only thing stopping me is C, I do not want to upset her. I am just not sure what to do.

    What is the better option here. I mean, it is obvious gifts are expected, which isn’t unusual for a wedding, but ontop of my flight, accommodation, a new dress, as there is a dress code, I am also expected to pay for my dinner, AND the priest.

    Which is the better option? Irritating my husband or disappointing my friend who is counting on me?

    Sorry it is so long, but any advice you can offer would be so very appreciated.

    Thank you, to everyone.
    I wish I were kidding. I thought it was a joke at first, I also did the math.

    I suspect that 00 donation has something to do with their 6-week-world-wide-honeymoon-extravaganza.

    I am absolutely disgusted.
    Sorry, I should have specified.

    No, and extra 0 isn’t going to make a difference. Its not the financial side that is the issue. It is that they’re asking everyone to pay for a meal, through email, without even having the courtesy to tell us what it is. Asking for a donation for the priest, AND circulating an “acceptable” gift list.

    All while making a huge deal about their 6 week-world-wide-honeymoon, AND they have a 500 person guest list.

    It is just excruciatingly rude. They didn’t even call and ask, they sent out a mass email!
    @Diamond, you’re making me laugh! I love to cook so perhaps I shall turn up with my own 3 course meal!

    I am a little worried though, as they didn’t ask about any food allergies. I am deathly allergic to coconut, and I live in Australia where it is used in A LOT of things. I swear every other day, I find it in some food I am attempting to eat.
    @Tiger.

    Frankly, I find you and your answer offensive. I find it quite tactless for you to refer to C as “my wheelchair bound friend” when she is not. She has severe spina bifida, but she can walk. It does cause her a lot of pain and issues though. Thank you very much.
    Also, why should I take ONE FAMILY MEMBER’s douchebaggery out on C’s entire family, when they’ve only ever been nice to me?

    Also, yes I did call and confirm with the family, they do expect for each guest to pay 5. Thankfully they are not enforcing the donation. The reason they sent an email, is apparently, making 500 phone calls is much too time consuming.
    I want to say thank you to everyone who answered, and gave advice.

    I called C’s parents today, to back out because this entire situation is a fiasco. Apparently, not only are the guests paying for their meals, but the bridal party are also required to pay for their meals, and we all found out at the same time. I suspect there will be fewer guests, and a smaller bridal party then the bride and groom want. They are holding firm in their decision though.

    On the upside, C’s mum said if I cover all of the expenses I knew of, when I agreed to go, that they would cover the cost of my meal, because it is really important to C that I am there.

    Thanks again,

    • ANSWER:
      holy mazoly.

      back out now. i hope you haven’t yet bought your airline tickets.

      or go, wait at the hotel, buy your own dinner and pick her up, like you were her private nurse/good friend. McDonalds is sounding really good right now.. arbys?

      edit: 500 x for the church is 00. are you kidding?

      edit2: honestly this is one of the rudest scenarios i have ever seen on yahoo answers. (not you, of course) . and i know you’re not a troll. speechless.

      edit 3: i would show up at the venue with my “wendy’s” in a bag.

      edit4: or a bucket of KFC and sides for the whole table.. or pointedly tailgating with the KFC in the parking lot. card table, chairs… now I’m being a smart azz…

      edit 5: i went and took my morning shower and i was fantasizing about all 500 people having tailgate party in the the parking lot with kegs of beer. but really, what will happen is that all but about 50 people will decline, how sad. and… c cannot afford to go either.

      edit 6: 175 dollars is my budget for food for the month. if you go, i do think the family should pay your way.

44. QUESTION:
    How to thank my uncle for his wedding gift (really weird)?
    My uncle is one of those people who cannot express his emotions, and shows his “love” in unusual ways (like every time he visits, he leaves hidden beer cans with “love you” written on them everywhere so your still finding them years later). He sent me a box of condoms and 0 for my high school graduation. And when his marriage of almost 40 years failed, he was forever turned off the whole concept of it. He’s kind of a bitter person in general and hardly ever has anything nice to say.

    Anyways, he did not attend my husband and my wedding (he was invited), but he did send a card and 0 cash. The card was literally a sympathy card, like one you’d send when someone has died. In it, he wrote to my husband quote “beat your wife every morning, you may not know why but she does” and told me he expresses “his most sincere condolences on my choice to get married. I know he did it just to be honery, and if he didn’t care, he wouldn’t have sent a card at all. How should we go about wording a thank you note since he did give a generous amount of money, but also sent us a sympathy card because we got married?
    Just to be clear, I find his card pretty hilarious. This is how my uncle is, he simply must be as offensive as possible to show he cares. I’m really looking for the funniest way to get him back. Not some generic “thank you for the thankful gift” type thing, but something equally as offensive as what he’s sent us (just crazy family love).

    • ANSWER:
      wow! what an uncle. If I were you, I’d send him an “un-thank you card”….just get a “Thank you” card at your local card shop and then write “un” in front of the “thank”….then inside, write a strange message to let him know you appreciate his unusual personality and gift…such as: We so appreciate your condolences and your cash. How unthoughtful of you. I’m so glad we can count on you to cheer us up during this tragic time. We know we’ll get through this together–for better or for worse. Your card cheered us up and made our bank account a little happier! Sorry you missed the funeral.

45. QUESTION:
    Does anyone know of a good comedy script for one male to perform – I need some suggestions.?
    Comedy play for a single person, male. I don’t want it to be too long, as I will be perfomring something for my sister as a wedding gift to her. Shen will expect me to do something unusual and funny, so I figured a humorous theatre performance would be great. I have some experience acting, if this helps.
    I am not looking to do a standup routine – I am certainly not going to steal someone else’s stand up comedy stuff. That doesn’t work. I am looking for an actual script that has been published, or available online.

    • ANSWER:

      http://www.cafetheatrescripts.com/html/plays.htm

      I found this site but not to sure about the scripts just do what I did search for one man scripts .
      If you can get a few friends or even other family members to join you I think the best you could do is a few Monty python sketches my family did them at xmas the parrot one and the i was so poor we lived in a puddle everyone should know them and u should be guaranteed a laugh.
      (they can be found online as thats where my dad got them )
      I’m a nosey person lol so please tell us what you pick so i can read it I’ll let you know if its funny

46. QUESTION:
    Really wicked and unusual anniversary gift ideas!!!?
    Hi, its our 3rd wedding anniversary in September and I am really stuck for ideas for what to get him! He can’t really think of anything he would particularly like either, which makes it harder (why are men so difficult lol).
    We are going away for a romantic weekend and I would really like to treat him to a special gift, something a bit more unusual then a CD or some gift vouchers, something that he will love and remember. He works so hard and deserves something great.

    To narrow it down;
    he is 25,
    loves rock and metal music like me,
    likes days out but doesn’t like crowds,
    is not fussed about designer aftershave or clothes!

    Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
    Hi sorry forgot to mention he doesn’t drink much if at all…you go and do your own washing up lol

    • ANSWER:
      If your any good at making things you could make him a little something i.e. a bracelette with your fave band logo on.

      Thats a hard thing to decide, so sorry if its no help.

      I tries, Martin

47. QUESTION:
    Wedding gift ideas? Young couple just starting out, I don’t necessarily want to go down the glassware route?
    Hi!

    A dear friend of mine is getting married in November – and I’m really needing inspiration for ideas what to give her. They’re almost mid-20′s, both just starting out, however that being the case they’re apt to get 75 sets of crystal glassware and 100 vases and sets of dinnerware.

    Anyone got any ideas for something tasteful and useful but a little unusual? And where I could find it? She’s big-time into horses, and is a down-to-earth sort of person who I think would appreciate anything beautiful – but I just want something more interesting than sheets or a set of Waterford tumblers…

    Thank you!

    • ANSWER:
      As “dull” as it may sound, you should start with their registry, especially if they are just starting out. Couples register for the things that they need. While it may not sound interesting to get glassware, if they asked for it, they need it, and it’s expensive for them buy on their own, they need your help.

      But if you want to do something different or interesting, you could start with the registry and then supplement it with something related that is more personal and interesting.

      For instance, did they register for wine glasses? Get 2 of them, not the whole set, and add a wine saver pump or wine aerator to it. They registered for highball glasses? Get them a martini shaker, drink recipe book and personalized coasters along with a couple of their glasses. Registered for pots and pans? Get one, plus your favorite cook book, spices/sauces, a personalized apron and kitchen sign for them.

      Seriously, start with what they asked for because they need it, but have fun by adding your own personal touch along the same theme. Makes it useful and personal.

48. QUESTION:
    For Ladies…….What would you buy for your hubby for a 10th wedding anniversary?
    I’ve got the best fella in the whole universe. I would like to buy a nice anniversary gift for him. Were going on a 10th wedding annivesary trip. He’s really into reading Sci Fi, Comic Books, Legos, Professional TV wrestling, Military Stuff, and a few other things. He doesn’t wear alot of jewelry,and he’s not a
    “pretty boy”. Heck he wears his clothes until they are literally falling apart. He’s sacrificed more then 12 years to our country. I want him to be surprised. I need recommendations for something unique, unusual, and FUN! any suggestions would be helpful.

    • ANSWER:
      the 10th year anniversary is your “aluminum” gift…so maybe look for something with that in mind. Good Luck!

49. QUESTION:
    Advice on soldering wedding rings/engagement rings together?
    Ok, I have a few questions regarding my rings. My fiance bought me two enhancers to go with my engagement ring after the wedding, one for each side of the ring. One is technically the “wedding band” and the other is just a wedding “gift” but because they are curved bands, it looks better to have both. When I tried them on, they seem to move around a bit and don’t match up all the time with where the curved part should sit. Is it unusual to have the three soldered together and what are the pros and cons? I would never wear the band by itself because it’s a curved band and would look strange. The rings came from Kay’s…has anyone had any experience from there with soldering rings together–did they do a good job, and how long did it take? I hate the idea of being without my ring for two weeks leading up to the wedding. I had considered taking it to another jeweler to get it done same-day; would this ruin my warranty at Kay’s? Any advice or comments on this topic would be greatly appreciated! Thanks.

    • ANSWER:
      Kay is probably going to do a good job, and probably going to void your warranty if anyone else works on the rings. I can’t promise that though.

      I had mine soldered together because of the curvy thing that was moving around and making me crazy. I hated being without it, but am glad I did because it’s all one piece and I love it.

50. QUESTION:
    Polish In Laws? Serious question?
    My mother in law is of Polish back-round. Honestly, she seems a little strange. First of all her and her mother seem to really not like “people” in general. They have weird ways. At our wedding that side of the family gave an unusual gift “savings bonds”. We are in our 30′s besides that is an unusual gift for a wedding. Then, this is odd, they said we shouldn’t put underwear on our kids when they wear their pajamas. When they come to a picnic or even a holiday and bring a food contribution, they have no issues with taking their contributions back home with them. Oh, and when they make ham on Easter, the last two times they cooked it the night before and carved into it either that evening or morning and ate pieces of ham before it is actually served at the dining table. To me that is serving used food!! Oh and they eat the ham cold. Not to mention, my mother in law is totally spoiled and 70!!! Her mother who is 90 does everything for her. I come from Italian-American back-round and they are Polish American. Both sides of the families were born here in the USA. Give me some info on these odd people…is this a Polish thing or is it just them???

    • ANSWER:
      I know a few of them that take food contributions home with them, because they come from a culture that has known hunger during the various occupations over the years, so they tend to have the inbuilt attitude of ‘we’ll share, but it’s still ours’, which I’m fine with.

      This is perhaps where the savings bond thing has come from. Proper investment, and having money, is something that for a lot of Polish people, even now, was an unobtainable dream. But, as you said that the mother in law is spoiled, I’m not too sure what to say, especially as they were born in the USA.

      As for the Easter Ham, I can’t comment, as my family are Polish Jews! I do know that most European cultures love cold meats, and cured meats though.

      My mother is Italian, and my father is a Polish Jew (and an atheist!), so I understand how these to cultures can clash vividly. My Italian family often disagrees with my Polish family over almost everything. They’re very different cultures.