Frequently Asked Questions

1. QUESTION:
   Why are there wedding garter sets?
   I’m shopping for my wedding and I see that many of them are sold in a set of 2. I thought you go wearing one, it gets taken off, thrown and that’s it. What is the purpose of the other one in the set?

   • ANSWER:
     It’s the same reason why many women get a tossing bouquet – you give a smaller, less elaborate one to your guests and you can keep the nicer one for yourself.

2. QUESTION:
   Where can I find Nebraska cornhusker wedding garter sets? I’ve looked all over online only found 3!?

   • ANSWER:
     Wow, I think you may have to have those babies custom made…..

3. QUESTION:
   Where can I find a Chicago CUBS garter belt wedding set?
   My fiance is a HUGE Chicago Cubs fan and I wanted to surprise him on our wedding day by wearing his favorite team. I think he will really appreciate it!!

   • ANSWER:
     (Edit)
     Do a search on ebay.
     I found Cubs garters at these links:

     http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?ref=vt_related_1&listing_id=14366090

     http://www.funweddingthings.com/category_18/3/-Sports-team-school-themed.htm

     http://thesportsfanatic.stores.yahoo.net/chcupiga.html

4. QUESTION:
   Which wedding garter do you keep and which do you toss when you by a set?
   In most sets, one garter is simple and the other is very frilly. Which one is the keepsake garter, and which one is for tossing?

   • ANSWER:
     I think you toss the simpler one, but why does the bride not get two fancier ones, plus one simple one for tossing? If she actually needed them to hold up her stockings, she’d be in trouble!

5. QUESTION:
   What’s the purpose of a wedding garter / band?
   I know you’re supposed to fling the garter at the men, like a bride does with the bouquet and the women or something like that, but what’s the other one for? Like this set for example:

   http://www.mydreamwedding.ca/uploads/Image/Kyla/7141.jpg

   • ANSWER:
     One is a toss garter which the groom throws the garter to the single men. And sometimes if the bride wants a keepsake garter to have a memento from her wedding she gets a second garter that is a bit nicer. go to http://www.garterboutique.com they sell all sorts of custom made garters.

6. QUESTION:
   are these good ideas for my wedding?
   http://www.disneybridal.com/collection/bridal/bridalindex.html?princess=cinderella my dress

   http://marysbridal.com/modernmaids/m1687.htm Bridesmaid Dress

   http://www.flowergirldressforless.com/mm5/merchant.mvc?Screen=PROD&Store_Code=Flower-Girl&Product_Code=5056L&Category_Code=100 Flower girls dress

   http://www.flickr.com/photos/uff/2617291006/ the venue

   http://www.weddingcollectibles.com/Fleur-de-Lis-Champagne-Toasting-Flutes-Set-p-2052.html toasting flutes

   http://www.ftd.com/wedding-ppr/bridal-bouquets-corsages-and-boutonnieres/the-ftd-glorious-rose-bouquet/occasion-wedding/occasion-wedding-bouquets/w13-4265/ My Flowers

   http://www.ftd.com/wedding-ppr/bridal-bouquets-corsages-and-boutonnieres/the-ftd-nottingham-bouquet/occasion-wedding/occasion-wedding-bouquets/w12-4263/ brides maid flowers

   http://www.haydelbakery.com/wedding/bullet_w33_white_fleur.html the cake

   http://www.haydelbakery.com/groom/bullet_g19_lsu_paw.html his cake

   http://www.funweddingthings.com/item_1784/Wedding-Garter-Set–Louisiana-St.-University-State-LSU-Tigers-Themed.htm My Garter

   *EDIT* his cake says LSU b/c we are both big LSU Fans

   • ANSWER:
     Totally PERFECT!!!

     Good luck and Congrats in advance…

7. QUESTION:
   these are my ideas for my wedding?
   just want an oppion

   http://www.haydelbakery.com/groom/bullet_g19_lsu_paw.html his cake

   http://www.haydelbakery.com/wedding/bullet_w33_white_fleur.html my cake

   http://www.myweddingflowerideas.co.uk/wedding-bouquet/white-rose-wedding-bouquet-vanillarose.html my flowers

   http://www.usa-flowers.com/cgi-bin/Web_store/web_store.cgi?keywords=w13-4267 brides maids flowers

   http://www.flickr.com/photos/24150334@N08/2447450338/ church

   http://www.marysbridal.com/flowergirls/f433.htm flower girl dress

   http://www.marysbridal.com/bridal/6317.htm my dress

   http://www.funweddingthings.com/item_1787/Wedding-Garter-Set–Louisiana-St.-State-LSU-Tigers-University-Themed.htm my garter

   http://www.theweddingoutlet.com/Wedding-Ceremony/Flower-Girl-Baskets/Satin-Flower-Girl-Basket flower girl basket

   http://www.weddingcollectibles.com/Fleur-de-Lis-Champagne-Toasting-Flutes-Set-p-2052.html toasting glasses
   his cake says LSU b/c we are both LSU tiger fans
   having an LSU themed reception
   my aunt owns the shop were ill be geting the flower girls dress she is letting me have it for 80$

   • ANSWER:
     everything is nice but there is a big contrast between yours and the bridesmaids bouquets and I would put some yellow and purple ribbons on the flower girls basket love the church

8. QUESTION:
   which garter do you wear/throw on the wedding day?
   ive noticed that garters are usually sold in sets. theres a fancy one and a more plain one. which one is worn on the wedding day and which one is usually kept??

   • ANSWER:
     I’ve worked in the wedding industry and been to over thirty weddings and I’ve very rarely seen someone not throw the garter.

     It’s tradition and if you do it, the rule is throw the plain one, keep the pretty one. You usually wear them both, however put the plain on on below the pretty ones so your fiance can find it, and let him know there are two, so he’s not confused when he gets up there!

     Just FYI the tradition stems from the belief that it was considered good luck to get a piece of the wedding gown, so as the happy couple was leaving the reception, people would try to rip her dress. The groom finally put a stop to this, by throwing the garter out so they could run away!!

9. QUESTION:
   tossing wedding garters?
   the garter set i bought came with 2 garters which one do i toss and which one do i keep for the wedding nite?

   • ANSWER:
     If they are a matching set, the ‘tossing’ garter is usually the thinner one.
     )

     PS You do wear both of them on the day, you just wear the ‘tossing’ garter below the ‘keepsake’ garter, closer to the knee so your new husband knows which one to remove.
     He can remove the ‘keepsake’ one later. )

10. QUESTION:
    Alternative idea to catching boquet/garter @ wedding reception?
    Ok, so my wedding is coming up, and I will have about 50 guests. There will be one or two single girls in attendance and so I need to forgo the whole “single ladies” catching the bouquet routine. I was thinking of tossing the bouquet to ALL the women in the room, and whomever catches it wins a nice gift. For example:

    http://www.tiffany.com/Shopping/Item.aspx?fromGrid=1&sku=26459036&mcat=148207&cid=563630&search_params=s+5-p+4-c+563630-r+-x+-n+6-ri+-ni+0-t+-k+

    And the same idea for the men catching the garter. I wanted to do a nice but relatively inexpensive gift for them too and they do have such things at Tiffany’s (tie bars, mugs, set of whiskey glasses, chrome pens,etc.)

    My questions are: but do you think its too “girly” for a man to receive a mens gift from Tiffany’s? And do you like my idea of giving a gift as an alternative to single men and women catching the garter/flowers?

    thanks
    I want to throw the bouquet because I believe it’s a nice tradition. Simple as that!

    • ANSWER:

11. QUESTION:
    Which garter do you throw at a wedding?
    They come in a set of 2, one wider than the other.

    • ANSWER:
      smaller one

12. QUESTION:
    Can you help me find an incredible hulk garter?
    I really need to find an incredible hulk garter for my upcoming wedding. I would like to find a set (one to keep and one to toss) but it doesn’t have to be a set. PLEASE HELP!!! I really need to find one!

    • ANSWER:
      You can commission it on Alchemy, a part of etsy’s site (alchemy.etsy.com). It’s where you ask people to make something unique and homemade and they bid on the opportunity to make it for you. Someone would be thrilled to make it for you. I got a lot of random wedding things there.

13. QUESTION:
    which garter do you throw?
    When purchasing wedding garters they usually come in a set of two. One is a little more elaborate than the other. Which do you throw?

    • ANSWER:
      Easy one, traditionally you keep the nicer one, for sentiment, pass it along to your daughter, niece, what ever you choose. the less expensive one you throw.

      Best wishes

14. QUESTION:
    What to wear under your wedding gown?
    What did you wear under your wedding gown as far as corsets, nylons, garter belts, etc.

    Any good websites for finding a great corset and garterbelt set? I want to look really sexy for my hubby, so something that will be semi-comfy under my gown, yet something that will make him be wowed!
    I tried my gown on with a corset and it wasn’t bulky looking…you couldn’t even see it.
    a garter and garter belt are 2 different things….

    • ANSWER:
      Fredericks of Hollywood has stunning corests (the Parisian is my favorite!!!) and they are decently priced. In fact, they are on sale right now… I also find their lingerie to fit well and comfortably. They also have matching panties usually included and tons of garterbelt sets, stockings, etc.

      www.fredericks.com

      I am glad you’re wearing sexy underwear, more power to you!!! I too will be sporting romantic undies since my groom will be helping me undress after the festivites are over, I want him to be pleasantly surprised! As for those who say “save it for later”, you can have other lingerie for later. What you wear under your dress will help you feel even more confident and beautiful!

      Good luck!

15. QUESTION:
    What are some wedding “traditions” that I could….?
    do away with to be more cost-efficient for my wedding.

    I mean things like the
    Wedding Gown
    Gown Preservation – Carrying Bag
    Bridal Tiara & Veil
    Bride’s Shoes
    Hair & Make Up
    Groom’s Tux
    Groom’s Shoes
    Best Man Attire
    Groomsmen Attire
    Maid of Honor Dress
    Bride’s Maids Dresses
    Flower Girl Dress
    Ring Bearer Suit
    Alterations
    Cleaning
    Pressing
    Religous Attire
    Jewelry Accessories

    Florals
    Bride’s Bouquet
    Maid of Honor Bouquet
    Flower Girl Basket
    Bride Maid’s Bouquets
    Corsages
    Boutonnieres
    Floral Arrangements
    Centerpieces
    Cake Table Decorations
    Memorial Table Flower

    Food/Beverages & Hospitality
    Engagement Pary
    Rehearsal Dinner
    Pre-Reception Snacks
    Bar
    Non-bar Beverages
    Wedding Cake
    Ceremony Site
    Reception Hall
    Guest Accomodations

    For The Ceremony
    Wedding Bands
    Wedding Vows
    Jewelry Gifts for Kids
    Unity Candles
    Unity Candles
    Other Ceremonial Candles
    Candle Holders
    Flower Girl Basket
    Ring Bearer Pillow
    Guest Books
    Pens
    Flowers
    Aisle Runner
    Pew Ribbons
    Religous Items
    Gifts for Officiant
    Honorarium for Officiant

    For the Reception
    Guest Book & Pen
    Champagne Goblets/Flutes
    Cake Tops
    Cake Server Set
    Garters
    Bridal Purses
    Heart Shaped Mirrors
    Table Covers
    Table Bouquet Centerpiece
    Gifts for attendants
    Wedding Favors
    Bells
    Ribbons & Balloons
    Decorations

    Gifts
    Engraveable Gifts
    Personalized Gifts
    Gifts to One Another
    Gifts for Parents
    Gifts for Grandparents
    Gifts for Kids
    Gifts for siblings
    Gifts for Best Man
    Gifts for Maid of Honor
    for Wedding Attendants
    for Out of Town Guests
    Gifts for Officiant
    Honorarium for Officiant
    Tips for Service Providers

    Music
    Musicians/Soloist/DJ
    Prelude
    Ceremony
    Reception
    Cutting Of The Cake
    First Dance
    Mother – Son Dance
    Father – Daughter Dance
    Father – Daughter Dance

    Personal Assistants & Contact Information
    Officiant
    Wedding Coordinator
    Best Man
    Maid/matron of honor
    Flower Girl
    Ring Bearer
    Wedding Attendants
    Dress maker
    Florist
    Decorator
    Caterer
    Photographer
    Videographer
    Baker
    Ceremony Location
    Reception Hall
    Rental Agent
    Travel Agent
    Accommodations
    Limo Driver
    Bar Tender
    Musicians/Soloist/DJ
    Calligrapher
    Other

    Personal Wedding Accessories
    A Wedding Theme
    Wedding Accessories Collection
    Something Old
    Something New
    Something Borrowed
    Something Blue
    Sixpence for the bride’s Shoe
    Garter
    Tossing Garter
    Hankie
    Bridal Purse
    Emergency Kit

    Photo & Media
    Newspaper Announcement
    Wedding Web Site
    Videographer
    Photographer
    Personal Guest Cameras
    Film & Developing
    Photo Framing
    Photo Albums

    Stationery
    Save the Day
    Invitations
    Reply Cards
    Location Map
    Program
    Place Cards
    Menu
    Thank You Cards
    Envelope Seals
    Printed Napkins
    Stamps
    I would also like to add that this is not a list that I thought up, I got this list off of one of those wedding guide sites. Sorry about the confusion. I am so confused with this whole wedding thing, I dont even know where to start

    • ANSWER:

      http://signaturegrandweddings.com/index.php/about-signaturegrand/35-wedding-tips/49-save-big-without-sacrificing-style

      Here is an article by Signature Grand. It’s called “Save Big without sacrificing style” It might help!

16. QUESTION:
    Opinons on Wedding night lingerie??
    Which one do you like best??? Thanks!

    http://www.henryandjune.com/hj/stprod.asp?pf_id=6477

    http://www.henryandjune.com/hj/stprod.asp?pf_id=7192&pi=11993

    http://www.loverslane.com/Lace+Bra+And+Garter+Set/cid=4/page_no=1/edp_no=24478/shop.axd/ProductDetails

    http://www.loverslane.com/Musical+Heart+Babydoll/cid=4/page_no=2/edp_no=24625/shop.axd/ProductDetails

    http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=3H-159222&page=1&cgname=OSSLPWEDHON&rfnbr=977

    http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=3H-152462&page=2&cgname=OSSLPWEDHON&rfnbr=977

    http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=3H-198786&page=3&cgname=OSSLPWEDHON&rfnbr=977

    • ANSWER:
      we like the first and sixth one for a wedding night… they were all pretty but those are the most romantical of all of them…

17. QUESTION:
    Which garter do you throw??
    Ok, well I’m getting this set of garters (my colors are fuschia & orange) http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=n18d29&s=3

    do I throw the big one & keep the little one or throw the little one & keep the big one… Also, at my friends wedding she had 2 that were the same size, just different colors & her hubby threw the one he took off her leg, but IDK if she had both on her leg or not… do you wear both on the leg and throw the one on the bottom or what?? lol. This is probably stupid, but IDK how that works, lol! Thanks! =)

    • ANSWER:
      you’re supposed to wear both on one leg and throw the one thats worn lower, the smaller one. the othe ris supposed to be a keepsake. But you can do it however you like.

18. QUESTION:
    How do I get a refund from a company/website that is not responding to calls or e-mails?
    I ordered some wedding products (guest book, pen, toasting glasses, serving set, ring bearer’s pillow, garter, etc.) from www.allweddingproducts.com. I placed this order on July 17th. I have tried to contact the site many times, both by phone (always have to leave messages) and e-mail to tell them to cancel my order and that I would like to be refunded for the amount I they took from my checking account (paid by debit Mastercard). They took the funds (over 0) out on July 21st. My order is currently “processing.” I know that these items will never be shipped to me because WeddingStar discontinued the line (Butterfly Wishes in Pure White). I was able to contact WeddingStar and get a response. What do I do now? Should I send a certified letter to the address listed on the website? I want my money back! I do not think they should have charged me before ever shipping the items (or checking to see if they were in stock!) I’ve left 3 messages and e-mailed them 5 times.

    • ANSWER:
      First, call your bank and see what you can do about disputing the charge there because you cancelled the order.

      Second, try to contact the Better Business Bureau in the state they are located in.

      Third, I would not stop calling and emailing them until I got an answer.

      Good luck to you.

19. QUESTION:
    What type of lingerie should I wear under my dress?
    Under my Wedding Dress? Should I wear a corset or a bustier? should I wear a garter belt? What about my wedding night? whould I wear a teddy? a mini dress? a costume(sexy)? A skirt set a cami and panties? A baby doll or a gown? help! I know that it is just going to com off anyway but I still want to feel sexy!

    • ANSWER:
      Under your wedding dress, you’ll need to wear shapewear or underwear that suits the way your dress is made. Some gowns have corsetry built in. Others need a strapless bra and seamless, no-show panties. Whatever you wear under your gown, pick something that makes the dress look great on you, NOT something that is super-cute and sexy. Wedding gowns are hard to wear, so you need good foundation garments.

      For your wedding night, wear whatever makes you feel sexy – that might be a full French maid’s costume, or it might be nothing but your wedding ring. Since we know nothing about you, there’s no way for us to advise you.

20. QUESTION:
    what was the funniest thing that happened at your wedding?
    At mine, we did the garter toss and my husband flung the garter towards the group of single men and there was this one guy who REALLY wanted to get married and is obsessed with getting married (he hit on every single girl at the wedding). So my husband throws the garter and my friend’s bf was reaching out to catch it and this guy comes barrelling through the crowd of men and dive-bombs for the garter, snatching it out of the other guy’s hand. And we did that about 45 minutes before the people started leaving the reception, and so 45 minutes later he came to shake our hands and congratulate us and he was STILL clinging to the garter. It had been in his hand the WHOLE time, and it was still in his hand as he shook our hands, and then he went and got himself another drink and he still didn’t put the garter down, he was holding it in a death grip as they left.

    My MIL works with his mom (and he still lives at home) and she said that he keeps my garter on his nightstand so that he will get married soon.

    I thought that was funny. He was basically obsessed with my garter (a little creepy maybe, but he’s a nice guy). We were pondering setting him up with my friend who caught the bouquet (since that IS custom, and they are both same age and faith and such and both obsessed with getting married). But I just thought it was funny.

    What’s your story?
    or it could be something that happened at a wedding you were attending as a guest.

    • ANSWER:
      There was so many funny incidents:

      1) We cut the cake, the photographer told us to look at him for more pictures, then he asked us to feed eachother cake we turned around the waiters took the cake to the other side of the restaurant area and they started cutting it to serve ppl cake LOL that was really funny.

      2) We had a DJ at the wedding, we were all dancing and then BOOM his music thingies went BOOM. First I panicked then the guests started singing we danced on to the sound of their voices.

      3) My husband disappeared just before he took my garter off my leg, he came back in a construction worker uniform It was hilarious.

      and many many more.

21. QUESTION:
    Does anyone know of any good and inexpensive wedding websites or stores?
    I am getting married soon and I find it unnecessary to spend a shit ton of money on accessories like a ring pillow and flower girl basket. I found one website that had a whole set with the pillow, basket, guest book, garter, pen, cake knife and server, and toasting glasses for only which is great! but the website got bad reviews for being unreliable. So i was wondering if anyone knows of any other websites that sell sets like this or any stores that might for a good price! thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      Honestly, that’s still pretty overpriced. There are cheaper ways to get these things if you do your research.

      Do you really WANT all of these things? None of these items are mandatory. If you really want to save money, I would just skip them entirely. None would be missed if you didn’t have them.

      Still, if you want them, let me suggest other ways to get them:

      Visit some thrift shops and see what you can find. I’ve seen tons of baskets in thrift shops.

      Look on Craigslist and eBay. Lots of brides buy these things for their weddings – and when the wedding’s over and they discover that they have no further use, they try to get rid of them for deep discounts.

      Craft stores and Walmart usually have all these items. Many dollar stores have them as well.

      You don’t need a special pen for the guestbook. You can wrap a regular pen in ribbon if you want something “pretty,” although nobody will notice or care what kind of pen you use. A simple blank scrapbook can serve as a nice guestbook. Or have guests sign something interesting like a platter, coffee table book, etc.

      A ring bearer pillow can be made quite cheaply if you have some spare fabric and a sewing machine. Do you know someone who sews?

      Do you have any recently married friends who can loan you these items? Or do your family members still have these things? It would be a lovely sentiment to borrow something from a happily married couple, plus it’s absolutely free.

      You can find or request handmade items on Etsy.com, like the pillow and garter.

      Have you had a bridal shower yet? Is your wedding after your birthday or Christmas/Hanukkah? If not, wait and see what you might get. I received the toasting flutes and cake cutting set as shower and Christmas gifts.

      Does the reception hall have any of these items? Our reception hall had flutes and a cake set we could borrow if we didn’t bring our own. Also a birdcage for cards.

      Orientaltrading.com has these things.

22. QUESTION:
    Is there tradition regarding from whom the bride gets her garter?
    I’m the maid of honor in an upcoming wedding (July) and I know that the bride does not currently have a garter that is being passed down by the family. I found a great set (one to wear and one to throw, I’m assuming) that I know she would appreciate as it is of her favourite hockey team and the bride and groom met and got close because of their mutual appreciation of hockey (though he likes a different team).

    Would it be appropriate for me to get this for her as a shower gift, or is it typically something that the bride buys herself (at which time I would send her the link…)? Also, how does it work to have two — does the groom take off the ‘real’ one and then throw the ‘replacement’?

    • ANSWER:
      That’s a totally appropriate gift from a MOH, just make sure she didn’t get one already. She would generally wear both and he removes the one to throw.

23. QUESTION:
    Which wedding photography package should I choose?
    How long does it take to do all the pictures for ceremony and between at a location, then reception? Also, do these prices seem reasonable? Tell me your thoughts and any advice!

    00 Wedding Package Includes
    - Meeting and planning with the couple
    - 5 hours of photography
    - Unlimited Images & Locations
    - Digital Negatives on a CD or DVD supplied as .jpeg or .tiff files
    - Engagement Photo Session
    - 10 images with special Photoshop black & white with colour effects
    - Full rights to print your own images anywhere you want

    00 Wedding Package Includes:
    - Meeting and planning with the couple
    - 2 Photographers – 1 with bride & 1 with groom
    - Photography of the bride/groom getting ready
    - Photography of the Wedding Ceremony
    - Unlimited Formal Pictures
    - Photography of Dinner/ First Dances/ Cake Cutting/Garter & Bouquet Toss
    - Unlimited Images & Locations
    - Digital Negatives on a CD or DVD supplied as .jpeg or .tiff files
    - DVD slideshow Set to Music (additional copies )
    - 10 images with special Photoshop black & white with colour effects
    - Engagement Photo Session
    - 24 Page Wedding Book that includes your favorite images
    - 0 print credit
    - Full rights to print your own images anywhere you want

    • ANSWER:
      Hi. I’m a professional photographer in New York City. Maybe more important, my daughter got married about a year and a half ago, and she and I “shopped” for her wedding photographer together, so I got a “Bride’s Eye View” of what’s important.

      There are at least three big differences between the packages you are considering.

      Number of hours. The smaller package specifies 5 hours of coverage. The second sounds like it is unlimited, from the time you are getting ready until you cut the cake at the reception. That could be 8, 10 or even 12 hours. So choose the package that really corresponds to your wedding day timetable. If you hire a photographer for 5 hours and keep him for 12 hours, you may wind up with huge overtime charges.

      Number of photographers. Two photographers doesn’t just mean more pictures, it means BETTER pictures. Both photographers can be shooting the same moment, but with different lenses, and from different places. That means that you will have great photographs of special moments – you walking down the aisle with your dad AND your husband seeing you coming AND your mom drying a tear as she reacts to this beautiful scene! One photographer, no matter how good he or she is, would have to choose which of those images to capture. Two photographers can get them all.

      An album. You may have rights to print from a CD, but a professionally designed, printed, and bound album will be a treasure which will grow in value over the years. Unless you are a skilled professional graphic artist with excellent retouching and design skills, you probably won’t be able to come close to the quality album that a professional can provide. Many brides who forego the album wind up years later with just a shoebox full of unretouched 4×6 drugstore prints to show people one of the most important days of her life. That’s sad.

      In addition to these three major differences, there are lots of “extras” with the upgraded package, such as the DVD set to music. This is a great way to enjoy and share your wedding pictures.

      When my daughter and I chose a wedding photography package we went for the option that is close to the ,800 package you are considering. Yes, it hurt a little to spend the extra. But we are both very pleased that we invested the additional money.

      If you can afford it, go for the quality.

      Regards,
      George Delgado
      Certified Professional Photographer

      http://www.NYPortraits.com

24. QUESTION:
    Question about bridal lingerie: how to where the garter in relation to the thigh-high stockings and garterbelt
    I’m not really a girlie-girl: I typically wear sports bras and chick-boxers so this whole lingerie thing just makes my head spin
    BUT I wanted to feel (& look) sexy for my wedding night so I went out and got something that makes me feel (& look) great…
    now my only problem is I’m unsure of how to wear it, lolz
    I hope someone on here can help me…
    I got this bustier and thong set (in white) from Victoria Secret,

    http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=8P-224325&cgname=OSKEYBRPZZZ&rfnbr=1096

    the bustier has garter straps that hang down to attach to the stockings (I bought white thigh-high nylons to put on once we get to the hotel).
    Now my only question is…where do I wear my garter? (not the garter that gets thrown at the reception, but the one my husband gets to keep). Do I wear it around the band of my thigh-highs just below where the garter straps attach? Or no, somewhere else? TY

    • ANSWER:
      Here’s a picture to illustrate where you should wear it:

      http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1383/633037675_37d465843d_o.jpg

      Put your bustier, thong, and stocking set on, then put the garter on like it is in this picture. It should be just a bit above your knee.

      Either way, have a great wedding night!!!
      EDIT: Definitely don’t put it above your stockings or garter straps. Most men like to take the garter off with their teeth (the wedding tradition), and it might be hard for him to do it that way. It could easily get stuck on the garter straps! That would be awkward!

25. QUESTION:
    During the reception after my wedding, I plan on jumping in a pool while still wearing my wedding dress.?
    My dress is a slightly above knee all white chiffon, lace and organza creation. I will also have on a poufy crinoline white slip under it for fullness along with my favorite white satin bra and g-string panty set as well as beige silk nylons with white and red trimmed garter belt and white satin pump high heels. Any ideas on this?

    • ANSWER:
      if u do this, make sure u take lots of pictures before, for your hair and make up will be ruined

      www.elmerandcorina.com

26. QUESTION:
    How can I make my Wedding and Reception even more fun?!?
    Okay everyone, so here’s the deal: We are having a wedding in about a month. Hawaii is a large part in our lives as that’s where he proposed when I visited him there when he was in the Navy. I also have been doing Polynesian dancing since I was 7 and I am 25 now.

    So what we are doing is a mostly casual thing. Everyone is asked to be casual and comfortable. No gifts either. There will be approx 200 guests including kids. It will all take place in the evening, starting at 5:00pm and it will be dark around 8:00pm that night. It’s all at his parents house in the country on acres and acres.

    As guests arrive, the dancers will be greeting them with a lei and kiss on the cheek! The ceremony is by a fountain and pond. Very pretty. I am wearing a beach wedding dress and he is wearing khaki short and a white button up shirt. The wedding party is in matching fabric dresses for the ladies and shirts for the men. We are all going to wear flip flops. We also decided on no bouquets or anything, instead the ladies are going to hold a glass of champagne and the guys a beer.

    After the ceremony, we will start the BBQ buffet immediately since we are taking photos before the event. There will be LOTS of awesome home made food prepared by our awesome families! During this time, there will be Hawaiian/beach themed music playing in the background. About 45min later we will do the speeches and then we will cut the cake. Once that is over, the live band will play for about 15min or so as they cake is passed out before an Authentic Luau is performed! They will be doing dances from Hawaii to Tahiti, including a fire dancer! So it will be very exciting! They also pull some of the guests up for audience participation in the end. That is about a 45min show all together.

    We will also have a Tiki Bar. Basically, we are taking care of most the expenses for the bar, all but each. So we are still forking out -3 each drink that people buy… There will be things like Jungle Juice, Beer, Mai-Tais, Hurricanes & Coke w/ Rum. Which the Tiki Bar will be open before the ceremony.

    After the Luau, we will do the garter and bouquet. This will be around 8pm. I figure most will leave at this time. The band will play during this “transition” time for about an hour as people say bye and all and then we are having an “after party”. Just a few hours with no schedule, program or anything. Just so we can actually enjoy the evening, it not go by so fast and really get to visit with some guests. We have quite a few flying in or driving a long ways, and a wedding is not the greatest place for catch up and hang out. I don’t care if only 15 people are there for the “after party” We will have a DJ, the bar and all as well during this time.

    Anyway, so I think that’s it. So what I am looking for is some ideas to make sure this is a blast for everyone! I want people to want to stay!

    I am getting a piñata for the kids as well as something for them to do, not too sure yet. And someone also mentioned having a volley ball net set up or something…?

    We already got all the tiki torches to put everywhere, as well as party lights to hang and there is already a built in fire pit that they have there too! So I was thinking maybe get some stuff to make Smores!

    I basically just want a really fun, comfortable and memorable evening! I don’t care about tradition, being fancy or impressing anyone. This is a time to live it up for us before my fiancé gets deployed in a few months.

    Thank you all in advance for any ideas!!!

    P.S. Please don’t respond with lectures of spending money and all that matters is marrying the one I love and all that. Just so you know, not a lot is being spent. We have a very large family and everyone is pitching in a little to help with the food & drink. I have a very close friend who owns a party rental store, so those are nearly free except for the people to set things up. The band and dancers, I am part of the group and we are all like family… they wouldn’t let me pay a dime if I tried! Again, lots of people are traveling to get there, I want it to be worth it and fun! So please, spare the rudeness and just leave my question alone if that’s all you have to say. That is not what I am asking for. I am asking for ideas to make it more fun, unique or more pleasant!
    Awww you all are so sweet. Yeah, sorry it was kinda long, lol. And great advice for the time taken to get through a line. It will be a double sided line of food. And 45min may be enough before speeches start. If not, no biggie. We will also have siblings (there are 14 total) pass out the cake during the Luau. If people arent ready for it, they can just wait. But still, I may add 15 min to each area of time. Thanks again!!!

    • ANSWER:
      Have the table cloth on the children’s table be white paper where the kids can color on it. If the kids are having a good time the parents won’t want to leave. Get them bubbles to blow while you are doing your dances, and sparklers for everyone.

      You might be surprised, people might stay longer than you think! Most importantly have FUN!

27. QUESTION:
    Different wedding ideas?
    I’m sure not all of these are super different, but at a wedding I went to a couple had a texas holdem table & black jack table set up. You got like 0 worth of chips for or something like that, and the money went to the couple. This is what they did instead of the money dance or honeymoon dance. I thought it was pretty neat. They also did a teddy bear toss, with about 10 different dollar store teddy bears so that the kids had something fun to catch that was more for them instead of the garter or bouquet.

    Does anyone know of any other neat ideas like this? Or something else to do instead of a money dance?
    Didn’t anyone tell you if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all?

    • ANSWER:
      That is so trashy. Any money-grubbing schemes at weddings are in the poorest taste.

      Ugh.

28. QUESTION:
    What is your schedule for your wedding day?
    We’re hoping to have the venue set up the day before, lucky us the day before is the 13th so I’m crossing my fingers that no one will get married and we can be done that night.

    I want to get up, eat and shave/shower, get my nails done, and hair and makeup…

    Does hair or makeup come first?

    I suppose then off to the venue (if the mua and stylist didn’t meet me there) and into my dress 30 minutes prior.

    Sounds painless right?

    Of course I have to make sure everyone is doing their thing because we’ll have flowers to put into place that day.

    I’m excited! Kinda sad I have 8 months to go, and I’m pretty much DONE with the big stuff. Just got little things. Get favors, find wedding party gifts, send invitations. I already bought those haha, and the garter, and pillow and my dress, and yeah EXCITED!
    Nice with the time! I am still working on mine LOL

    Mine is Sunday as well, phew!

    • ANSWER:
      Congrats! It’s nice to see you are so well prepared.

      I am going to have to make sure things are set up that morning, but I appointed a couple friends I trust to make sure things go as planned, so i will only have to stop by before going to the church.

      My schedule;
      6:30 am Wake up, breakfast with mother and bridal party
      9am mani, pedi and hair
      11:00 am do my own make up
      12 noon stop at reception site
      1 pm get into gown, prepare the offering (its a catholic thing to the virgin marry), calm myself down because I will be a wreck
      2:30pm meet my groom in the vestibule then walk down the isle
      Ceremony will take about an hour
      3:30 groom and I and bridal party escape for photos; guests meet their transportation
      4:00 guests arrive at reception site for cocktail hour
      4:45 we arrive at reception site, tidy up before entering
      5 pm we enter, do our first dance at entrance
      5 course dinner with breaks in each course for toasts (allows a flow to the reception)
      6:30 Father/daughter, son/mother, bridal party dances
      7pm bustling my dress
      7:30 everyone dancing
      8:30 cake cutting, garter toss, back to dancing
      9:00 announcing open bar closes in 30 minutes (knowing our families this will result in a mad dash)
      9:30 open bar closes, dancing wraps up we leave
      10pm clean up.

      By the way, this is a Sunday wedding. And looking at all that, its gonna be a LONG day

      @Leah I would bustle it before any of the dances, but I want these to be photo so I want my train down. My father/daughter dance is actually with my brother, knowing him he will pick me up and swing me around lol

29. QUESTION:
    What order do these events go in a wedding? Please Help! Thanks!?
    Okay, I’m getting married in 14 days!!! = ) Yeah, I know! Exciting! Well, I still don’t have the order for the events and the songs I want to be played during each event. So, is this a good order? And are the songs okay for each event?

    Intro of Bridal Party-first song: Chapel Of Love, by Dixie Cups
    Intro of Bridal Couple-second Song: Continuing chapel of love
    First Dance-third song: It’s Your Love by Faith and Tim McGraw
    Father/Bride dance-Fourth song: Ready, Set, Don’t Go by Billy Ray and Miley Cyrus
    Groom/Mother Dance-Fifth song: Do I make you Proud by taylor hicks
    Bridal Party Dance-sixth song: That’s What Friends Are For by Dionne Warwick
    Meal Time seventh song: Celebration by Kool and the Gang
    Cake Cutting eighth song: Your Still The One by Shanie Twain
    Bouquet Toss ninth song: Single Ladies by Beyonce
    Garter Off tenth song: Let’s Get It On by Marvin Gaye
    Garter Toss elleventh song: You Shook Me All Night Long by ACDC
    Garter On twelfth song: Sexual Healing by Marvin Gaye
    And then I figured I’d tell the dj to play random party/dance songs

    Does that all sound okay for a wedding? I’ve only been to one wedding, so I don’t know how they go usually. Thanks Bunches!

    • ANSWER:
      Order of events

      1. Intro of the wedding party
      In this order – Groomsmen & bridesmaids, flower girl & ring bearer, the parents.
      2. Intro of the bridal couple
      3. First dance
      4. Father/daughter dance
      5. Mother/son dance
      6. Bridal party dance
      7. Toasts – best man, maid of honor, father of the groom, father of the bride & if you choose, the bridal couple can also make a speech thanking the guests for coming etc etc.
      8. Meal time
      9. Cake cutting
      10. Bouquet toss
      11. Garter off
      12. Garter toss
      13. Garter on

      And then just enjoy the rest of your night

      I hope this helped & congrats !

30. QUESTION:
    (Warning: This is LONG!) Does this QUESTIONNAIRE from a Wedding DJ cover all the bases?
    Date and time of reception?

    Name and location of reception?

    Time of arrival of the newlywed couple?

    You’d like me dressed how? (I HAVE a Tux if required)

    At what time do you expect the guests to be seated before the entrance of the bridal party?

    For the wedding traditions:

    Do you wish to have formal introductions of the Wedding Party?
    In what order?

    List names of those in wedding party to be introduced, please, (Including YOURSELVES, please!) and help with any unusual pronunciations of names :

    Are the bridal couple to be announced as Mr. & Mrs. James Smith, e.g. or Mr. James Smith and Mrs. Jane Smith (OR a hyphenated bride name)? OTHER?

    In what order will following take place? (I’ve pre-set these in the most common order, but please have these occur in the order you wish)…

    Toasts / Speeches
    Dinner
    Cake cutting
    Bride & Groom’s 1st dance (Name of song(s)/artist(s) for THIS dance_______ )
    Father of Bride / Bride dance (Name of song, etc. ___)
    Mother of Groom / Groom dance (Name of song, etc. ____ )
    “Dollar Dance(s)” (Name of song(s) ____ )
    Garter toss
    Bouquet toss

    Are there OTHER formalities or traditions you’d like added?

    Will we pause before dinner to say Grace?
    Who will do so?

    Do you have preferred genres of music? (Classic rock, new rock, new country, older country, etc. etc.)
    Any strong DISLIKES, musically ?
    *Note : Often I’m asked to play Hip-Hop or Rap that I KNOW to have ***strong adult language.***

    Do NOT play that kind of thing. YES or NO, please
    You MAY, but seek permission first.

    While my catalog of songs is great (including all the “standard” dance songs like “Electric Slide, Cha-Cha Slide, Baby Got Back – you get the idea…)
    Are there any songs you want to be SURE I have (“I can’t BELIEVE he didn’t have **BLANK** in his library!!!”) ?____________________

    ***Have I made you aware that you and your guests will be welcome to bring your OWN CDs ?***

    Would you like to create a play list that includes songs you feel are special to you (I’ll compile UP TO 2 discs – roughly 30 songs – if you wish) ?

    Is there anything else I might do to help make your reception a success?

    May I place a tip jar?
    I will not mention its presence.

    List any OTHER details I may have overlooked, please?

    I have a complete set of back-up equipment to insure against any possible failure, save for a power outage.

    Have I made you aware? The 5.00 fee is BASED on 4+ hours playing time BUT if the party continues beyond that I will CONTINUE to play until (x x) P.M.

    ANY and ALL special services from above (within reason) ARE included in my fee, so feel welcome to request what you’d like!!!
    I had indeed fumbled for proper wording of that, “Take me away.”
    Further suggestions welcomed!

    • ANSWER:
      That’s great. The only part that I had to read over and over a few times because it didn’t make sense to me was this part..

      *Note : Often I’m asked to play Hip-Hop or Rap that I KNOW to have ***strong adult language.***

      This may be what you meant to say, I don’t know, but for me I wouldn’t want bad language in my wedding songs, but the way it is stated it sounds… like you play songs with adult language in it because you are often asked to. I thought it was supposed to say you are often asked not to play those songs, but again I don’t know lol. Just observing. Anyways that sounds great. :]

31. QUESTION:
    What do you think of this wedding idea?
    Hi, so we found a wedding venue that is really beautiful for both the ceremony and reception. It’s outdoors in a beautiful garden setting. There’s one garden area for the ceremony, then a terrace with a view for cocktails, then a courtyard for dinner. The only drawback is that you must end your wedding by 8pm. We were thinking of 20 minute ceremony starting at 2pm, then one hour wine tasting with small bites (my fiance is in the wine industry), followed by buffet dinner. We are doing the cake cutting, but no bouquet/garter toss. We will have dancing but we aren’t huge dancers ourselves. We’ll do a couples dance and a father/daughter (mother/son too if he wants). Like I said, all that must end by 8pm.

    Our crowd isn’t a huge dancing crowd either but most of the younger guests went to college together and so they are all friends. What do you think if we encouraged all those people to taxi to the wedding, and then we provided transportation to those who are interested to a different venue for drinks after 8pm?

    So I guess I have a few questions:
    1 – Do you think that 2pm to 8pm is enough — seems like 6 hours is a lot!
    2 – Does the idea of transporting particularly the younger guests (just because I think our parents friends will want to go home) to a different venue afterwards is fun, or just way too long a day and no one will come, or what?
    3 – Any creative suggestions for what type of place to look for afterwards? We are in Los Angeles so lots of options.

    Thank you all you creative party people out there!!

    • ANSWER:
      I love that idea. Anything that sets you apart form the regular sit down affair is always fun. As for finishing at 8pm, I don’t think it it to much of a problem. All the weddings I have been to the older people look bored once dinner is finished and the younger people just want to dance and drink. 2pm until 8pm is enough, infact I think it is a good amount. I am currently trying to find a venue that I can have a six hour reception at instead of a five or four and a half, because I have alot of friends going, and they will want to keep drinking and dancing.

      Maybe you should cut out the buffet dinner and just have lots and lots of small bites, or maybe only offer a small buffet dinner. 8pm is quite early to have eaten dinner and left. So just keep the food light and have it coming out all day. That way people will not go home hungry but they will also not have to eat a full dinner at 6pm.

      I think transporting the younger guest (or just those that want to keep going) is a great idea, that way those that are bored or tired can go home and those that are still having fun can keep having fun. It suits everyone. There is nothing worse that when your grandparents etc. are dying to go home but feel rude leaving early.

      Sorry can’t help you out with a place to go afterwards, only been to LA once, and wasn’t older enough to go out. (From Australia)

32. QUESTION:
    Cocktail Party Wedding?
    My fiance and I are getting married on a Friday night in September and are having the ceremony and reception at the same venue. We are a low key couple so we will only have about 50-60 guests and will not have a bridal party. I will still be in a gown and we are getting married at a private golf club so it is still a nice place and formal setting.
    My question is…will our guests like the cocktail party reception? We will get married outside in the garden at about 4:30pm…this should take us up to 5pm…from 5 – 6pm we will have photos….we will stay at the venue to have photos b/c we do not have a bridal party and we want lot of our photos with family and friends. Between 5-6pm we will have hors d’oeuvres for our guests outside (the sun will set at 6.20pm)and then the ‘coctail party’ reception will start at 6pm in the room set up for our cocktail party and go til 11pm.
    I know we will need plenty of seats and tables but if the room is set up appropriately….ie…tables, chairs and the cocktail food will be served on platters all the time…will this be ok? Also, to break it up…and at what point of a cocktail party function…are the formalities….

    eg. 6pm – Welcome to the new Mr & Mrs…..

    8pm – Speeches

    8.30pm – Cutting of the cake – photo oppurtunity

    8-45pm – first dance

    You see, i really do not know how it will work. Any guidance will be much appreciated. we will not do the garter or the throwing of the bouquet but will prob have a good bye circle at the end of the night.

    Thank you!!
    The hors d’oeuvre’s would b a light snack from 5-6pm only while we are having photos and then there will be so much cocktail food coming around throughout the night between 6-9pm that people will be stuffed!! Then there is the cake and coffee. So there will be plenty of food…it will just not be a sit down formal thing.
    No, it’s not a buffet. It is a function where platters of food will be brought around by waitresses and you grab something to eat. No buffet table.

    • ANSWER:
      I love the idea of a hors d’oeuvres and dessert wedding reception. You should note on the invite that it will be a cocktail reception. As long as there is plenty of food your guests should be fine. A pasta and meat carving station would be welcome additions.

      You may want to rethink your timing of events. Doing the “mandatory” events sooner will help with the flow of the party. The first dance should be done as soon as possible. Tradition is that no one dances until after the first dance. You don’t want to hold up your guests from having a good time.

      6pm – Welcome the new Mr and Mrs

      from there go right into your first dance.

      do the father /daughter and mother/son dances

      toasts

      Now you can party freely until about 845p when you cut the cake.

33. QUESTION:
    I found my mother’s wedding dress in the attic…?
    It’s packaged and preserved in the original JL Hudson’s box,
    it was handmade by The JL Hudson Company, in 1948…

    I’m afraid to take it out of the box, there’s a veil, and a garter in a separate smaller box, also…

    It’s all white silk, eyelets, and lace, gorgeous…

    My mom was 5 foot, two, 110lbs, 24 inch waist (she was saving it for me, ha ha ha! yeah, right!)

    

    What shall I do with this beautiful memory? The JL Hudson Company no longer exists….

    I’m 46, divorced, I have 5 sons, two daughter-in-laws with “baby got back”…(and rack!)
    julius c awwww, you can’t pawn a wedding dress, low brow! but, I guess that’s the only way you know how to solve your monetary issues! Thanks, though, that’s cute!
    Shanti MT, thank you. That guy,(or girl) with his/her level 1, fakeass, pseudo identity account,
    is a prime example of an ill-mannered, shallow gene pool, unmitigated audacity to even attempt to answer a question, prevaricated hater troll, dear…they’ll soon get tired of being identified and go away, no big deal!
    All these answers are beautiful and heartfelt, thank you all so much!

    I f anyone wants to know what a Troll looks like, go to the site of the little idiot thing that’s following me!
    Early detection is the best prevention and protection from ANY vermin, germ, or disease!♥
    Kattdance, “L’enfant essaie d’attraper le
    papillon”♥
    You know very well I will not ever part avec la belle robe de la Maman, Mon Dieu!♥

    • ANSWER:
      What a beautiful memory and a lovely thing your mom did for you. My dress is hanging in my closet champagne stain and all. It is the most precious thing I own. Sometimes on rainy days I get it out and just look at it and enjoy all my memories and wonders of being in love and that special day in my life.I even have the shoes with the good luck penny inside.It means nothing to any one else and is of no value to any one and its just a dress. But,to me its magic. Cherish this lovely memory your Mom gave you. Who knows someday maybe you daughter can wear it,and the magic lives on.

34. QUESTION:
    Translate to Spanish, simple words?
    My friend needs these words translated for her dress website.. can anyone help out. thanks

    words:
    wedding gowns
    prom dress
    mother of the bride
    tiaras
    veil
    bras
    accessories
    toasting glass
    flower girl baskets
    accessories sets
    cake serving set
    garters
    ring bear pillows
    guest books
    cake tops
    slips
    gloves
    boys tuxes
    flower girls
    fur wrap
    fur stole

    • ANSWER:
      palabras:
      vestidos de boda
      vestido de baile
      madre de la novia
      tiaras
      velo
      bras
      accesorios
      tostado de vidrio
      cestas de flores chica
      accesorios juegos
      pastel de conjunto que actúa
      ligas
      anillo llevar almohadas
      libros de visitas
      pastel de tapas
      se desliza
      guantes
      niños tuxes
      flor de las niñas
      pieles de recapitulación
      pieles robó

35. QUESTION:
    Do you think this is weird?
    I am a 18 year old boy and for at least 5 years now, I have enjoyed wearing women’s clothing. I have a girlfriend and I am definitely not gay and I adore women. I dress up whenever I get the chance but nobody else knows about it (except my girlfriend).

    Both of us really enjoy it when my girlfriend chooses what I wear and we always try to make it as feminine as possible. She even has a set of drawers at her house where all of my feminine clothes stay (although we both share each others clothes most of the time)

    Both of our families are away for a few weeks at the moment so I have been living at her house. Because there is nobody to catch us, I have been living my life as a woman while everybody is away. It has been some of the best days of my life.

    To make breasts, I have been using some fake breast moulds which I have worn since everyone left. Every night, I have been sleeping in one of our nighties with some lingerie on underneath. I always wear matching bra and panty sets, normally with either tights or stockings and a garter belt. I just love waking up in the morning wearing these clothes (especially because it feels so nice).

    During the day, I have worn lots of different feminine clothes, but especially dresses and skirts (with my lingerie). My girlfriend has bought me a french maids outfit to wear (and to clean in) and tomorrow, I will try on my girlfriends mums wedding dress (complete with all the wedding lingerie). I cant wait.

    I also love to wear long ball gowns and princess style dresses (especially pink ones). I keep on having dreams where I am at a ball with my girlfriend, but I am dressed as a woman in it.

    I have never been outside dressed as a woman, but within the next few days, I hope to go shopping with my girlfriend dressed as a girl.

    Do you think this is wrong or weird? Have you ever done anything like it?Do you think I should tell anybody?

    • ANSWER:
      No you are not weird I got on a pair of girls low rise skinny jeans on now with a pair of bikini underwear and a sport bra with socks stuff in them.Have fun and enjoy.Have a Merry Christmas and a happy nude year.

36. QUESTION:
    What would you call this?
    I am a 18 year old boy and for at least 5 years now, I have enjoyed wearing women’s clothing. I have a girlfriend and I am definitely not gay and I adore women. I dress up whenever I get the chance but nobody else knows about it (except my girlfriend).

    Both of us really enjoy it when my girlfriend chooses what I wear and we always try to make it as feminine as possible. She even has a set of drawers at her house where all of my feminine clothes stay (although we both share each others clothes most of the time)

    Both of our families are away for a few weeks at the moment so I have been living at her house. Because there is nobody to catch us, I have been living my life as a woman while everybody is away. It has been some of the best days of my life.

    To make breasts, I have been using some fake breast moulds which I have worn since everyone left. Every night, I have been sleeping in one of our nighties with some lingerie on underneath. I always wear matching bra and panty sets, normally with either tights or stockings and a garter belt. I just love waking up in the morning wearing these clothes (especially because it feels so nice).

    During the day, I have worn lots of different feminine clothes, but especially dresses and skirts (with my lingerie). My girlfriend has bought me a french maids outfit to wear (and to clean in) and tomorrow, I will try on my girlfriends mums wedding dress (complete with all the wedding lingerie). I cant wait.

    I also love to wear long ball gowns and princess style dresses (especially pink ones). I keep on having dreams where I am at a ball with my girlfriend, but I am dressed as a woman in it.

    I have never been outside dressed as a woman, but within the next few days, I hope to go shopping with my girlfriend dressed as a girl.

    Do you think this is wrong or weird? Have you ever done anything like it?Do you think I should tell anybody?

    • ANSWER:
      The dressing up part would make you a cross dresser, but you really seem like you want to be female, so I would say that you should probably do the switch and get turned into a female.
      It’s not weird at all, it’s just how you’d prefer to be.

      He he, I love wearing tomboyish clothes, and I would never even think of wearing what you have … no, NEVER.
      As for telling anyone, just tell those who you know will exept you, like your gf.

37. QUESTION:
    What do you think of this?
    I am a 18 year old boy and for at least 5 years now, I have enjoyed wearing women’s clothing. I have a girlfriend and I am definitely not gay and I adore women. I dress up whenever I get the chance but nobody else knows about it (except my girlfriend).

    Both of us really enjoy it when my girlfriend chooses what I wear and we always try to make it as feminine as possible. She even has a set of drawers at her house where all of my feminine clothes stay (although we both share each others clothes most of the time)

    Both of our families are away for a few weeks at the moment so I have been living at her house. Because there is nobody to catch us, I have been living my life as a woman while everybody is away. It has been some of the best days of my life.

    To make breasts, I have been using some fake breast moulds which I have worn since everyone left. Every night, I have been sleeping in one of our nighties with some lingerie on underneath. I always wear matching bra and panty sets, normally with either tights or stockings and a garter belt. I just love waking up in the morning wearing these clothes (especially because it feels so nice).

    During the day, I have worn lots of different feminine clothes, but especially dresses and skirts (with my lingerie). My girlfriend has bought me a french maids outfit to wear (and to clean in) and tomorrow, I will try on my girlfriends mums wedding dress (complete with all the wedding lingerie). I cant wait.

    I also love to wear long ball gowns and princess style dresses (especially pink ones). I keep on having dreams where I am at a ball with my girlfriend, but I am dressed as a woman in it.

    I have never been outside dressed as a woman, but within the next few days, I hope to go shopping with my girlfriend dressed as a girl.

    Do you think this is wrong or weird? Have you ever done anything like it?Do you think I should tell anybody?

    • ANSWER:
      Go ahead and continue what you are doing–in private. I’ve had acquaintances who are men and they still dress up in women’s clothing. I’ve seen them online, chatted with them, and I’m not ashamed of what they do, nor are they. But, we all kept it private. If you decide to continue on into adulthood doing what you are doing now, then I will respect you for it and not put you down. Since you enjoy it so much, I don’t feel it’s my place to say anything against you. Enjoy.

38. QUESTION:
    What do you think? Need your help please!!?
    I am a 18 year old boy and for at least 5 years now, I have enjoyed wearing women’s clothing. I have a girlfriend and I am definitely not gay and I adore women. I dress up whenever I get the chance but nobody else knows about it (except my girlfriend).

    Both of us really enjoy it when my girlfriend chooses what I wear and we always try to make it as feminine as possible. She even has a set of drawers at her house where all of my feminine clothes stay (although we both share each others clothes most of the time)

    Both of our families are away for a few weeks at the moment so I have been living at her house. Because there is nobody to catch us, I have been living my life as a woman while everybody is away. It has been some of the best days of my life.

    To make breasts, I have been using some fake breast moulds which I have worn since everyone left. Every night, I have been sleeping in one of our nighties with some lingerie on underneath. I always wear matching bra and panty sets, normally with either tights or stockings and a garter belt. I just love waking up in the morning wearing these clothes (especially because it feels so nice).

    During the day, I have worn lots of different feminine clothes, but especially dresses and skirts (with my lingerie). My girlfriend has bought me a french maids outfit to wear (and to clean in) and tomorrow, I will try on my girlfriends mums wedding dress (complete with all the wedding lingerie). I cant wait.

    I also love to wear long ball gowns and princess style dresses (especially pink ones). I keep on having dreams where I am at a ball with my girlfriend, but I am dressed as a woman in it.

    I have never been outside dressed as a woman, but within the next few days, I hope to go shopping with my girlfriend dressed as a girl.

    Do you think this is wrong or weird? Have you ever done anything like it?Do you think I should tell anybody?

    • ANSWER:
      Aww… that is so adorable. I have dated guys who were interested in being more feminine like you before. One of them got pretty serious about dressing like a girl and I encouraged it. Our relationship fell apart because he could not decide if he wanted to be a man or woman. I would have loved him however he wanted to be, but I wanted him to choose. I got sick of him switching around all the time. I either wanted him to be a feminine man or a woman with a surprise between her legs, but not someone who changed back and forth.

39. QUESTION:
    Need your help please!!?
    I am a 18 year old boy and for at least 5 years now, I have enjoyed wearing women’s clothing. I have a girlfriend and I am definitely not gay and I adore women. I dress up whenever I get the chance but nobody else knows about it (except my girlfriend).

    Both of us really enjoy it when my girlfriend chooses what I wear and we always try to make it as feminine as possible. She even has a set of drawers at her house where all of my feminine clothes stay (although we both share each others clothes most of the time)

    Both of our families are away for a few weeks at the moment so I have been living at her house. Because there is nobody to catch us, I have been living my life as a woman while everybody is away. It has been some of the best days of my life.

    To make breasts, I have been using some fake breast moulds which I have worn since everyone left. Every night, I have been sleeping in one of our nighties with some lingerie on underneath. I always wear matching bra and panty sets, normally with either tights or stockings and a garter belt. I just love waking up in the morning wearing these clothes (especially because it feels so nice).

    During the day, I have worn lots of different feminine clothes, but especially dresses and skirts (with my lingerie). My girlfriend has bought me a french maids outfit to wear (and to clean in) and tomorrow, I will try on my girlfriends mums wedding dress (complete with all the wedding lingerie). I cant wait.

    I also love to wear long ball gowns and princess style dresses (especially pink ones). I keep on having dreams where I am at a ball with my girlfriend, but I am dressed as a woman in it.

    I have never been outside dressed as a woman, but within the next few days, I hope to go shopping with my girlfriend dressed as a girl.

    Do you think this is wrong or weird? Have you ever done anything like it?Do you think I should tell anybody?

    • ANSWER:
      I don’t think it is wrong or weird. I personally haven’t done anything like it, but that’s just not my thing. As for telling others about it, I would do so cautiously. By that I mean I would only tell people that I was sure would be open and accepting about it. Unfortunately, there are some judgmental people out there who will chastise you for doing this.

      Take care and good luck.

40. QUESTION:
    Is this strange in your opinion?
    I am a 18 year old boy and for at least 5 years now, I have enjoyed wearing women’s clothing. I have a girlfriend and I am definitely not gay and I adore women. I dress up whenever I get the chance but nobody else knows about it (except my girlfriend).

    Both of us really enjoy it when my girlfriend chooses what I wear and we always try to make it as feminine as possible. She even has a set of drawers at her house where all of my feminine clothes stay (although we both share each others clothes most of the time)

    Both of our families are away for a few weeks at the moment so I have been living at her house. Because there is nobody to catch us, I have been living my life as a woman while everybody is away. It has been some of the best days of my life.

    To make breasts, I have been using some fake breast moulds which I have worn since everyone left. Every night, I have been sleeping in one of our nighties with some lingerie on underneath. I always wear matching bra and panty sets, normally with either tights or stockings and a garter belt. I just love waking up in the morning wearing these clothes (especially because it feels so nice).

    During the day, I have worn lots of different feminine clothes, but especially dresses and skirts (with my lingerie). My girlfriend has bought me a french maids outfit to wear (and to clean in) and tomorrow, I will try on my girlfriends mums wedding dress (complete with all the wedding lingerie). I cant wait.

    I also love to wear long ball gowns and princess style dresses (especially pink ones). I keep on having dreams where I am at a ball with my girlfriend, but I am dressed as a woman in it.

    I have never been outside dressed as a woman, but within the next few days, I hope to go shopping with my girlfriend dressed as a girl.

    Do you think this is wrong or weird? Have you ever done anything like it?Do you think I should tell anybody?

    • ANSWER:
      No, it’s a special thing you and your girlfriend share

41. QUESTION:
    do you think this is weird?
    I am a 18 year old boy and for at least 5 years now, I have enjoyed wearing women’s clothing. I have a girlfriend and I am definitely not gay and I adore women. I dress up whenever I get the chance but nobody else knows about it (except my girlfriend).

    Both of us really enjoy it when my girlfriend chooses what I wear and we always try to make it as feminine as possible. She even has a set of drawers at her house where all of my feminine clothes stay (although we both share each others clothes most of the time)

    Both of our families are away for a few weeks at the moment so I have been living at her house. Because there is nobody to catch us, I have been living my life as a woman while everybody is away. It has been some of the best days of my life.

    To make breasts, I have been using some fake breast moulds which I have worn since everyone left. Every night, I have been sleeping in one of our nighties with some lingerie on underneath. I always wear matching bra and panty sets, normally with either tights or stockings and a garter belt. I just love waking up in the morning wearing these clothes (especially because it feels so nice).

    During the day, I have worn lots of different feminine clothes, but especially dresses and skirts (with my lingerie). My girlfriend has bought me a french maids outfit to wear (and to clean in) and tomorrow, I will try on my girlfriends mums wedding dress (complete with all the wedding lingerie). I cant wait.

    I also love to wear long ball gowns and princess style dresses (especially pink ones). I keep on having dreams where I am at a ball with my girlfriend, but I am dressed as a woman in it.

    I have never been outside dressed as a woman, but within the next few days, I hope to go shopping with my girlfriend dressed as a girl.

    Do you think this is wrong or weird? Have you ever done anything like it?Do you think I should tell anybody?

    • ANSWER:
      Yes I find it weird, but its not wrong; we are brought up to believe that men should be like other men and women like other women.

      In your case, you’re not hurting anyone, your girlfriend is aware and there are many people who do this.You do not need to tell anyone if it would make life uncomfortable, be aware that some people will judge you for it but do not let that hold you back.

      Sometimes, we can not explain why we love what we love

42. QUESTION:
    pets and weddings?
    this is for all the pet lovers out there. My fiance and I are not a traditional couple. ( The guy wants to throw my artificial leg when he throws my garter if that give you an indication about us) Even though we will have lots of elements of a traditional wedding we want to make it our own.

    Our pets are very dear to us. But we don’t have you’re usual pets. currently we have newts and land hermit crabs. I’ve had the land hermit crabs since we started dating. And the Newts we got soon after so they are kind of like our children like a dog or cat might be for another couple.
    for our wedding I wanted to set up a small set up by the guest book with two of the more friendlier crabs in it. ( currently there are 8 in all but we’re adopting more as soon as we have the space)

    I was wondering what other people might have done or plan to do to include their pets or love of animals into the service? even if you didn’t how would you have liked to do it?
    there wasn’t enough space. but this is what I would like to do with the tank.
    Get a ten gallon with a glass lid. some how I’m going to get a lock for the lid so nobody can open it up.

    Depending on what flowers we use and if they are treated with pesticide I may include some of those in the tank. The tank would be set up with things you might expect gages, water dishes, and food. We’ll also have a hiding spot incase they feel shy although the two I have in mind love watching people. I wanted to make a little heart out of sea shells in the tank and try to find things that match the wedding colours. Out side the tank there will be a note with the crabs names on it and warning people not to bug them or the bride will be MAD. we’re thinking about going to the Caribbean for our honey moon so it may say something cute like. ” Mommy and Daddy are going to visit our family for their honey moon.” We would have tied in the newts but they’re harder to transport.
    We haven’t decided for sure if the wedding will be at a hotel or not. If it is at a hotel we will be having the tank moved up to our room before the dinner starts. If it is in another setting we will be having them moved to a locked room before the dinner starts. My family and friends know how important they are to me. His family not so much but they are not the type to do anything stupid. we’re going to make sure the tank is secure so that nothing can be broken or opened.
    i don’t want them to be around when the music gets going because even though they don’t have ears they’ve never been around loud music before so I don’t know how they will react.
    Someone is going to be assigned hermy duty.

    • ANSWER:
      I think that’s a very cute idea. My only concern would be for your pet’s safety. Will the table be monitored? I’d worry that a child would try to play with the crab and end up hurting it in the long run. Or stealing it.

      If someone is keeping an eye on your pets, then go for it! )

43. QUESTION:
    Photo pairings! It’s enough to drive me insane.?
    So..the photographer needs me to:

    make an itinerary of the wedding day

    and:

    make a list of photo pairings with the family. He says this way he can give me times of how long it will take. Seeing as how he has a large family and we will most likely be unable to take many photos of me and him together at the reception (except for the special events like cake cutting garter toss first dance etc.), we would like to have a lot of photos of me and him together. (WE WILL NOT be seeing eachother before the ceremony.)

    So…we have both sets of my grandparents, my parents. My mom is also a bridesmaid.

    He has his parents, no living grandparents, his two brothers (both in the bridal party) and the flower girl and ring boy are his niece and nephew.

    I want to get the family photos to where there’s more of them in there at the same time so we aren’t taking 50 photos of 100 different combinations.

    Any help or suggestions, please? Thank you
    Trolled again…this guy is annoying me, all I see on every question is…”If I told you how easy it was…” I mean come on dude can’t you even troll in the right section for what you are talking about!?

    • ANSWER:
      Here are possibilities…

      Your side of the family:
      - you alone
      - you and mom
      - you and dad
      - you and both parents
      - you and 1st set of grandparents
      - you and second set of grandparents

      His side of the family:
      - him and mom
      - him and dad
      - him and both parents
      - him and brothers

      Wedding Party:
      - you and bridal party
      - you and groomsmen
      - him and bridal party
      - him and groomsmen
      - you and flower girl and ring bearer
      - him and flower girl and ring bearer
      - you both and flower girl and ring bearer
      - you both with bridesmaids and groomsmen
      - you both and the entire wedding party
      - you both and both sets of parents togethere

      And then whatever pictures you want for you and your groom.

      Of course, now it comes down to what’s important to you and your groom. I would do one or two pictures of you alone just to get your dress…a picture head on and then of one of you looking over your shoulder (to get the back of your dress) but to some, this isn’t necessary. Just the same, you might not want a picture with the groomsmen alone and he might not want a picture with the bridesmaids alone. You both might not feel it necessary to get pictures taken of you with your parents separately as well as taken together.

      And you each might feel close enough to your in-laws for you to want pictures with his parents and him to want pictures with yours. Or you each might have friends/relatives that aren’t in the wedding party that you might want pictures with and those you would want to add.

      I’ve just given you a general list…you have to customize it, but i hope it helps some.

44. QUESTION:
    I am getting married in 17 days so last night I sent an itinerary to each of my bridesmaids!?
    this is to my matron of honor
    Ok so here is what’s going on for the wedding weekend.
    and what I would like some help with please
    . there will be a rehearsal dinner at linda’s on the 22nd at 4:30then to the hall to decorate,once we are done we will go to the rooms and do our own thing Photographer shows up: 10:00
    Hair & make up: 10:30
    (ALL BRIDESMAIDS PLEASE BE AT THE MIDTOWN FOR 11:00) Cake get’s picked up and brought to hall: 1:00
    Girls dress: 2:00
    Dress: 2:30
    Arrive at ceremony site 3:15
    Ceremony starts 3:30
    Ceremony Ends 4:0Receivingving line 4:00
    Go to photo site 4:15
    Go to photo site 4:15
    Pictures: 4:15- 5:45
    DJ Arrives and sets up: 4:30-5
    Cocktails start 5:00
    Bridal Party is introduced 5:45
    Cocktails end 6:00
    Supper starts 6:00
    Toasts start while people are eating 6:15- 6:45
    Supper end 7:15
    DJ starts 7:15
    Bar opens 7:15
    First dance 7:1
    5father daughter dance 7:20
    Bridal party dance 7:25
    Games and more pictures?
    Cake cutting 8:45
    Bouquet toss 9:00
    Garter Toss 9:05
    Dance continues
    last dance for us like 10:30
    Leave 11:00 – 11:30
    Midnight lunch: 11:30
    DJ leaves: 1
    next day gift opening will be at 10:00 I would like help with loading the car after gifts are opened I would also like you to be in charge of the flowers. I will give you a list of which flowers go where and to who, you will be in charge of handing them out.

    I changed the end for each bridesmaid 1 in charge of the dresses and accessories.
    and 1 in charge of transportation.

    also my little sister (not in bridal party) I sent one too cause she will be doing makeup and hair as well as photographers helper.

    My questions are what do you think of the itinerary? and does this make me sound bridezilla?
    I am not the kind that would freak if something was going on late. this is just kinda what is expected to go on.
    Every wedding I have been to has had a gift opening.
    I was in a wedding party and was expected to do all this running around and help with gifts.

    • ANSWER:
      You forgot to plan in the part where you have to go to the bathroom and it takes ten minutes because you are in a big ol dress and someone has to help you lift it over your head. That SURELY is going to screw up your meticulous scheduling…

      My advice? RELAX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If you try planning things down to the letter like that, you are just setting yourself up for disappointment.

45. QUESTION:
    Getting Married…clueless about basic rituals?????
    Hi! thank you fortaking the time to help me out!….well me and my fiancee have been together for 5 years we have 2 beautiful children together ages 2 1/2 and 4 months and we are FINALLY getting married on june the 2nd of 2007 (his birthday 31st b-day also)and i am clueless when it comes to the basics… we have already purchased our rings and he wants to propose to me but we don’t know how it goes….like for example does he propose with the wedding band and then puts the other ring on behind the band when we are at the ceremony? and do i leave my viel down until i get up to the gazebo and he lifts it at the end and kisses me??? we are not having any bridesmaids or groomsmen just us and a our family and friends…and i bought a set of two garters and i would also like to know which gets tossed at the ceremony and which one i keep? one has a pretty bow and lace and the other is kinda of plan in detail?i will take on his last name when can i sign my name on papers as his last name?

    • ANSWER:
      first he proposes with the engagement ring not the band. most of the time you will wear you engagement ring on the right hand on the day of the wedding and after the ceremony you can put it in front of your wedding band. as for the viel, if you are wearing one that goes over your face, you cover your face as you are walking down the aisle and the person walking you down or your future husband can raise it once you get to the end or just before he kisses you. for the garters you keep the pretty one and throw the plain one, unless you like the plain one better then throw the lacy one. it usually takes about a month until the marriage license is filed with the city/town where you live (that’s how long it took for mine) once you receive that piece of paper then you can go and change you name, officially). don’t stress about all of these details. you can do whatever you want. it is your day. have fun, you guys certainly love each other, have a beautiful family and will have a long, loving life together. enjoy the day and do what ever your heart desires. the day goes buy so fast it will be over before you know it. good luck to you and i hope you have a beautiful wedding. cheers!

46. QUESTION:
    Warning! Very long, but I need to know where I stand in all this? Am I behind, ahead, what do you think?
    My wedding is in February of next year and this is what I have done.

    -Got all the vendors selected, except for the musician, which will be used through the church once we meet with the pastor next month.

    -I bought all the accessories for my dress, including garter. I got the guest pen, (and extra pen for the guest book if the other one goes out), all the centerpieces for all the tables including decorations and lights for the head table.

    -I got the flower girl petals and basket, and ring bearer pillow.

    -BM’s selected their dresses and they are ordered. I already have my dress (in my parent’s closet so Fiance can’t sneak and look at it at our home.)

    -I got the cake cutting set, bubbles, engraved flutes, pew clips, white pew bows (that I don’t like so I ordered purple ones online and I’m expecting them in the mail.)

    -I got the usher gifts, the BM gifts, and the parent’s gifts. They are almost all wrapped, but I’m still trying to find small purple bows (our colors are violet and silver.)

    -We already selected the style of cake and bought all the cake decorations and finalized with the baker.

    -I got the favor boxes all picked and bought, I just gotta buy the hersheys kisses and have them done by me and the BM’s (closer to the wedding date for freshness)

    -We already got our engagement photos done.

    -We did our tasting for the reception and selected our meal choice and signed the catering contract.

    -I got the aisle runner and I’m ordering white small umbrellas online for each person in the bridal party in case of rain/snow.

    -We looked at invitations at the place we know we are going to get them, and I kind of have an idea of what I want, we whittle the choices down to 10 designs we will browse through later.

    WHAT I DON’T HAVE DONE:

    -I got a head start on my emergency bridal kit, but I still need to buy more stuff.

    -I still don’t know the time of the ceremony/reception since I still have to meet with the pastor next month.

    -I don’t know what songs I want for the DJ…or what songs I want at the ceremony.

    -I want outdoor photos in the snow, but I haven’t sent photos to the photographer yet that I want.

    -I am not clear on where we want the Rehearsal Dinner, or what we are going to get. I have some ideas though

    -We still haven’t got tuxes, or the flower girl/ring bearer stuff, bc my fiance is dragging his feet not wanting to call his older bro to ask him to have the niece and nephew as flowergirl/ringbearer bc he doesn’t know what to say, they haven’t talked much in years and he lives super far away so it’s awkward for him, they get along but they are kinda like strangers in a way.

    -I still don’t have all the addresses/phone numbers for the guest list…waiting on fiance’s mom to get all that stuff together. She said she would get it done a week ago but I realize it’s 40 people she’s gotta look up so I will be nice and give her time.

    -I don’t have a spa picked out yet for my hair/makeup/nails.

    -I don’t know when or how the ushers will roll out the aisle runner.

    -I still need to show the florist all my decorations, tuxes, flowergirl/ringbearer outfits so she knows what to do to match the flowers…this for sure has to be done by October.

    -I haven’t done any weightloss/tanning stuff yet.

    -Haven’t paid off all the vendors yet, but we are making payments.

    -I also still need to buy stuff to set up the icicle lights at the head table.

    -Still don’t know what to do for an outline of the reception, as in, how to do the order of things, I’m thinking meal, then dance, then cake cutting. IDK?

    OKAY! SO what do you think? Am I behind, ahead, what do you think? I have 10 more months until the wedding. Thanks!
    HAHA messykat I forgot about that!!

    • ANSWER:
      You are way ahead of schedule. That is good thing to be because there is usually something that go wrong. Example is my wife got sick a couple days before and I was left with everything to do. It was nerves that got her and me.

      Transportation should be add. The bridal party has to get on place to another.

      I say the shorter the better between the ceremony and reception. If it is more traditional, ceremony at 2 and dinner at 6. This cuts down the amount people that are going to drunk by the time music starts.

47. QUESTION:
    Suggestions for sexy underwear?
    My boyfriend and I are fighting, and I need to win him over again in the next few weeks. I know he LOVES when I wear sexy underwear, and I want to give him a nice surprise in the near future.

    We will be attending a friend’s wedding soon, and I’d love to surprise him with a sexy surprise when we get back to the hotel later that evening. However, I am a bridesmaid in the wedding, so I will be wearing a required dress, which is strapless. As I’ve been looking, all the strapless bras I can find are very plain and boring looking.

    Any suggestions on a sexy underwear set that incorporates a strapless bra? I’m thinking bra, underwear, and possibly a garter belt. I look forward to seeing what you find!

    • ANSWER:
      Bustier! this isnt the best example, as it has ties in the front and would appear lumpy in a dress, but they are strapless, sexy, and supportive. Always a good option!

48. QUESTION:
    I need to know if I’m doing okay on this?
    My wedding is in February of next year and this is what I have done.

    -Got all the vendors selected, except for the musician, which will be used through the church once we meet with the pastor next month.

    -I bought all the accessories for my dress, including garter. I got the guest pen, (and extra pen for the guest book if the other one goes out), all the centerpieces for all the tables including decorations and lights for the head table.

    -I got the flower girl petals and basket, and ring bearer pillow.

    -BM’s selected their dresses and they are ordered. I already have my dress (in my parent’s closet so Fiance can’t sneak and look at it at our home.)

    -I got the cake cutting set, bubbles, engraved flutes, pew clips, white pew bows (that I don’t like so I ordered purple ones online and I’m expecting them in the mail.)

    -I got the usher gifts, the BM gifts, and the parent’s gifts. They are almost all wrapped, but I’m still trying to find small purple bows (our colors are violet and silver.)

    -We already selected the style of cake and bought all the cake decorations and finalized with the baker.

    -We already got our engagement photos done.

    -We did our tasting for the reception and selected our meal choice and signed the catering contract.

    -I got the aisle runner and I’m ordering white small umbrellas online for each person in the bridal party in case of rain/snow.

    -We looked at invitations at the place we know we are going to get them, and I kind of have an idea of what I want, we whittle the choices down to 10 designs we will browse through later.

    WHAT I DON’T HAVE DONE:

    -I got a head start on my emergency bridal kit, but I still need to buy more stuff.

    -I still don’t know the time of the ceremony/reception since I still have to meet with the pastor next month.

    -I don’t know what songs I want for the DJ…or what songs I want at the ceremony.

    -I want outdoor photos in the snow, but I haven’t sent photos to the photographer yet that I want.

    -I am not clear on where we want the Rehearsal Dinner, or what we are going to get. I have some ideas though

    -We still haven’t got tuxes, or the flower girl/ring bearer stuff, bc my fiance is dragging his feet not wanting to call his older bro to ask him to have the niece and nephew as flowergirl/ringbearer bc he doesn’t know what to say, they haven’t talked much in years and he lives super far away so it’s awkward for him, they get along but they are kinda like strangers in a way.

    -I still don’t have all the addresses/phone numbers for the guest list…waiting on fiance’s mom to get all that stuff together. She said she would get it done a week ago but I realize it’s 40 people she’s gotta look up so I will be nice and give her time.

    -I don’t have a spa picked out yet for my hair/makeup/nails.

    -I don’t know when or how the ushers will roll out the aisle runner.

    -I still need to show the florist all my decorations, tuxes, flowergirl/ringbearer outfits so she knows what to do to match the flowers…this for sure has to be done by October.

    -I kind of have an idea on what I want my hair and makeup to look like, but I’m still not sure.

    -I haven’t done any weightloss/tanning stuff yet.

    -Haven’t paid off all the vendors yet, but we are making payments.

    -Still don’t know what to do for an outline of the reception, as in, how to do the order of things, I’m thinking meal, then dance, then cake cutting. IDK?

    OKAY! SO what do you think? Am I behind, ahead, what do you think? I have 10 more months until the wedding. Thanks!
    I also still need to buy stuff to set up the icicle lights at the head table.
    Oh yeah, I got the favor boxes all picked and bought, I just gotta buy the hersheys kisses and have them done by me and the BM’s (closer to the wedding date for freshness)

    • ANSWER:
      you in the middle thats great some of the stuff like the ushers and stuff will probably be talked by with the pastor, play around with some makeup and hair stuff, tell your fiancee that he should just make the call if not then you’ll have to find someone else to be the flower girl and ring bearer…you’re very good 10 months so far is great

49. QUESTION:
    Worst Traditions, agree or disagree?
    This was posted on Yahoo today. Just curious about your feelings, do you agree or disagree with what is being said? Thanks!

    The Worst Wedding Traditions
    Posted Mon, May 11, 2009, 11:47 am PDT

    When it comes to weddings, who says you have to follow all the rules? Sure, if you want to stick with some classic traditions, go for it. But we believe that less is more, so it’s time to reevaluate the old-school ways of saying “I do.” The more you simplify, the more you’ll be able to focus on the really important stuff for your big day…

    Matching Bridesmaids – Chances are the friends, sisters and cousins you’ve selected to be in your bridal party aren’t all of identical make-and-model. One’s a tall lanky brunette, another is a short curvy blonde. So outfitting them all in the exact same dress means there’s a good chance someone is going to look awkward (at best) and awful (at worst). Instead, try doing different dresses in one color or a colorful array of complementary shades.

    Big Bridal Parties – Since there can be lots of posturing and jockeying for these prime positions with the bride and groom, keep the bridal party small to avoid potential quibbles (and even all-out wars!). Plus, with a more intimate group you’ll save money on gifts for the bridesmaids and groomsmen.

    Long Vows – Be kind to your guests by keeping your vows on the shorter side. This is especially important if your ceremony is under the blazing sun without umbrellas or fans. Say what you want to say, but don’t bore your guests!

    Throwing Rice – Does a blushing bride really want to be doused by a storm of hard little pellets that end up getting stuck in her hair, veil, gown, and worse, inside her shoes? Not the most comfortable situation when she’s whooping it up to “Brick House” on the dance floor.

    Assigned Seating – Guests get miserable if they’re stuck at a table away from the people they really want to hang with. Cocktail-style settings with open seating and lots of grazing are more inviting and lively. And you’ll save money and migraines by ditching elaborate seating charts and place cards.

    Expensive Wedding Favors – Weddings aren’t about giving showy gifts; they’re about celebrating your love with your loved ones. None of your guests expect pricey parting gifts. If you want to show your appreciation, leave a short, sincere note on each place setting thanking them for being there. Or let them know that a donation to a meaningful charity has been made in their name.

    Throwing the Bouquet – Nothing in life — not the SAT’s, not parallel parking during our drivers’ test, not meeting our boyfriend’s parents for the first time — can compare to the pressure of being a single gal expected to push, pull, and pummel to catch that doggone bridal bouquet. Enough already.

    Removing the Garter – Kind of cheesy, right? Kind of grope-y? Kind of I-don’t-want-to-have-to-holler-like-a-frat-boy-as-he-runs-his-hands-up-her-thigh?

    Drunken Toasts – Oh, the joy, the tenderness, the humiliation of an old-fashioned toast given by someone who has had a few too many sips of bubbly. Talk to your talkers ahead of time and let them know you’d like them to keep it sweet…and sober.

    Leaving For the Honeymoon the Morning After – After all the planning and partying, it’s nice to take a pause before heading off to paradise. There’s so much to think about when leaving town. Give yourselves a day or two or even longer to get organized. You need an extra breath before jetting off and finally melting into relaxation mode.

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      I think it’s just common sense what you do with your wedding. Most people by the time they get to that point have been to atleast a couple weddings by then and can pick out what they most enjoyed, and what was wrong with each.
      Some traditions are important to different people. Personally, I’d like a more laid back wedding, but I wouldn’t say that anyone who doesn’t is out of style. A wedding is something important and most people hope they are not going to have another one soon. It should be whatever you want it to be. No article on Yahoo should affect that.

50. QUESTION:
    At what point is it selfish for a bride to demand things go her way?
    I think saying “I do” in a courthouse is romantic.

    But the ball’s already rolling in another direction. My family sat down this thanksgiving and discussed the wedding plans, locations, etc and put together a rough-draft guest list. We talked about our budget, and specifically how we’re going to decorate, centerpieces, invitiations, RSVPs, showers, garters, some of the vendors we are going to use, how we’ll word the invitations, etc. I set a date and put a dress on layaway and my MOH has as well. No invitations have been sent out yet but I’m already up to my ears in checklists and to-dos.

    I’m ready to put on the breaks and say “Hey wait! I don’t WANT to do all this! This is not me!” I’ve run the couthouse-wedding/bbq idea past my fiance and he didn’t seem too enthused… it just feels like stopping everything midstream and asking everyone to accept my courhouse-wedding-idea would be selfish.

    What do you think?

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