Frequently Asked Questions

1. QUESTION:
   Wedding present?
   I never had to buy a wedding present before.
   So I was wondering what to get my good (internet) friends for thier wedding.
   I know the bride and groom pretty good.
   And I was planning to show up at the wedding.
   What I don’t know is what to get them.
   Something nice they both can injoy.
   Not a gift certificate or prepaid gift card, something real.

   • ANSWER:
     They’ve probably registered at a store. The favorites seem to be Target, Bed Bath and Beyond and WalMart. Those stores all have online registries, so you can just plug their names in, and their registry will pop up (if they have one). You can shop directly from the registry, and the company will even have their shipping address on file–so all you have to do is pick something out, put it on the credit card, fill out the online message, and you’re done.

2. QUESTION:
   wedding present?
   hi. i gt to go to wedding tomorrow and i havent gt a present yet. any ideas? thinking of getting vouchers frm debenham or next or? any ideas. she 22. what will she like and how much worth in vouchers for wedding present.thanx
   im only student. cant afford that much to £50 worth. pls bear that in mind thanx

   • ANSWER:
     what about a set of nice plain photo frames for the wedding pics – and you can usually pick them up quite cheap , wrapped up nicely look good and look like you made an effort and would be personal

     enjoy the wedding

3. QUESTION:
   What wedding present do you want most OR what present did you like the most?
   If you’re getting married, what presents do you really want (and not something boring, like silverware)?
   If you’re already married, which presents that you received for your wedding did you really like?
   Just trying to get some ideas on what to give to my brother and sister in law for their wedding present. Registry items are the fallback option, but I’d like to get something a little more unique and thoughtful.

   • ANSWER:
     Just a thought for a gift to your brother and SIL – I did this for my niece who recently got married. Got them a gift card to a greenhouse/nursery with a note that we wanted them to buy a fruit tree for their yard, to commemorate their wedding.

     As for gifts from our wedding, we didn’t have a registry, and got SO many beautiful and meaningful gifts.
     Most used gift – a handmade quilt! Next, was an electric frying pan – we’ve used it steady for many years.
     Other special gifts we enjoyed were pottery and handmade pieces – bowls, servingware, teapot and cups, soup tureen, etc. that people got from local crafters.

4. QUESTION:
   How much to spend on a wedding present?
   My husband and I are flying to a friend’s wedding to Milan.
   He is a top manager of a big company, as well as my husband is.
   The wedding is day formal.
   I have no idea how much we have to spend on the wedding present.
   They have a wedding registry, and I found a nice stockpot with a lid for a total of 195 dollars (145 euro)
   Do you think that is enough? Is it enough for both of us (me and husband) or should we pay more since we come to the wedding together?

   22 minutes ago
   My husband says that 120-150 euro is enough, but I feel it’s not…
   Need ur advice!

   • ANSWER:
     Yahoo! Questions answered that today, actually. There’s a link at the bottom of this. Here’s the summary:

     No less than
     Coworkers / distant relatives: -75
     Friend / relative: -100
     Close friend / relative: 0-150+

     Most importantly, get something either a) memorable, or b) useful (or both!). As far as money, you’ve spent at least enough, if not more. You’ll make the other guests jealous.

5. QUESTION:
   How much do you spend on a wedding present?
   Just heard a suggestion that you should spend as much on a wedding gift as the couple spent on entertaining you. Has anyone ever heard that before? (As in, a formal, sit down dinner reception requires a nicer gift than a more casual, buffet style reception.)

   Also, if you have to fly to the wedding (halfway across the country) then is it acceptable to spend less on the present because you already spent a lot to be able to attend?

   Thoughts? Thanks!

   • ANSWER:
     I have heard it before, but I usually follow the ” give what you can” rule. I’m not getting married till 2010 but I don’t expect my guests to go out and spend 0 on us.

     When I go to a wedding I give what I can. If money is tight I give or at the shower then either money or a gift of –

     If I can afford it I give between -0 sometimes more if I can and depending how close I am to the person.

     While gifts are nice, I don’t want to put any pressure on people to give a large gift or anything at all. Some of the people on my potential gust list are struggling to get by, if they can make it at all that means more to me than anything.

6. QUESTION:
   Wedding Present!!?
   I am in a wedding this weekend and wanted some really neat ideas for the bride and groom to give to them at the rehersal dinner. I know the bridal party gets their gifts during this time. No gift certificates or anything like that, some cool, unique, creative. Help!
   Like I said I know people usually don’t give something to the bride and groom that night. I’ve been in a lot of weddings, I just want an original gift to give them.

   • ANSWER:
     i think it would be pretty cool if you got something personalized for them that says their names, date of the wedding and place.
     something like jewelry, pillow, blanket, or serving dish

7. QUESTION:
   What would be an appropriate wedding present when your funds don’t allow it?
   I am attending a wedding this weekend of a friend of mine, and she knows we don’t have a lot of money. Can I get away with just a card? Any suggestions for a small present? Help!

   • ANSWER:
     Give them a card. At the very least, you want to acknowledge their wedding even if you can’t afford a gift.

     Do you have a digital camera? Take a camera with you to the wedding. Take snapshots during all the festivities. Print out 50 photos when Walgreens has their 10 cents sale. Make a small scrapbook and include these photos. Mail to the bride after the wedding.

     I did this shortly before I become disabled as money was SO tight. It turned out to be a thrill for the groom because I got a shot of his aunt and uncle. They both passed away not long afterwards. The bride loved seeing candid photos. All told my scrapbook and photos cost me with tax.

     For another couple, I waited until they got home and gave them a couple of loaves of homemade cranberry bread since it freezes well (seems I don’t know anybody who bakes anymore except me).

8. QUESTION:
   How much should you spend on a wedding present?
   I am attending my co-workers wedding and am unsure how much I should spend on the wedding present.

   • ANSWER:
     It depends on how well you know them. For a co-worker you don’t know very well or outside of work, I would say -. For close friends, I’ve been known to spend 0-0. 0+ for family members. That doesn’t mean you have to be the same way. Your wedding present should be based on how well you know the person+ how much you can afford. Remember, you can be tasteful and not spend an arm and a leg too.

9. QUESTION:
   What do you think of receiving a tivo as a wedding present?
   I’m thinking of buying my sister and her fiance a Tivo for their wedding present. The philosophy behind the purchase is that they should spend time together, and not let the TV dictate certain evenings, except on some evenings where they decide to watch something on Tivo together!

   What do you think? A great wedding present?

   • ANSWER:
     I think that’s a great idea! It allows them to make the most of their time together and still watch their tv shows! Anyway, the best wedding presents are the ones you’ll use.

10. QUESTION:
    How much should a person give in a gift card for a wedding present?
    I need to buy a present for my friend’s wedding and I don’t want to buy something from her registry because I am too late to do so. I would like to buy her and fiancee a gift card instead. How much should I buy the gift card for? My sister says is too little, I don’t have a big budget though and I will not be attending my friends wedding either due to work related problems. Help!!!

    • ANSWER:
      If you can stretch to you could have a print onto canvas of one of their wedding pictures:

      http://www.printyourcanvas.com

11. QUESTION:
    What is the difference between a bridal shower gift and a wedding present?
    My friend is getting married soon, and today I just got an invite to her bridal shower. It’s an afternoon event in a park. (so nothing wild)

    The invite says they are registered at Target and a local bridal shop (unfortunately I’m out of state till the event).

    But do people use the same registry for both? Because it was like all household items on the registry…

    So is there a difference between the gift for the bridal shower and the wedding present, or should I just buy things for both off the one registry?

    • ANSWER:
      There is no difference between a bridal shower gift and a wedding present except that a shower gift is given at a shower and a wedding present is sent to the person’s house or given at the wedding. The shower gifts are typically bought off of the same registry as the wedding presents. For the shower gift, you could buy something that you know that the bride specifically would like/use (for example, if they registered for any movies, you’d buy the one you know the bride likes….or if she likes to go camping, you’d buy the tent or sleeping bag that is on the registry, etc).

      As always (with a wedding or a shower) you can always buy a gift that isn’t on the registry — at my shower I got a lot of picture frames and other items that weren’t on my registry, but that I still liked.

      I think that maybe you might be confusing showers with bachelorette parties. (Showers aren’t typically “wild” so that shouldn’t surprise you….in fact, showers are typically held by elderly relatives….and people usually DO give household items for the shower, so that shouldn’t be surprising either…..that’s why I’m wondering whether you’re confusing the shower with the bachelorette party.)

      I’d buy something off of the Target registry and have it sent to the host’s house so that it’s there for the bride to open when you go to the shower.

      Good luck!

12. QUESTION:
    What to buy your new daughter in-law for a wedding present?
    My son is getting married and I want to buy something for his new wife. What is a nice present to give to her to welcome her into the family as a wedding present?

    • ANSWER:
      whatever you do do not be like my mother in law and buy her a set of wal-mart towels!!!! what would be nice is a gold locket with a picture of her and her husband to be. or if she has any children put a picture of them into it. It is a piece that she can pass down if one of her own children decide to get married as well
      congratulations

13. QUESTION:
    What is a good wedding present to buy?
    My cousin is getting married soon and I would like to buy her a really nice wedding present. She lives in Croatia (which is where the wedding will be) so most things like crockery and wine glasses are not appropriate as they will probably get broken on the trip. There is no gift list so haven’t got a clue what they would like. I don’t know what size their bed will be so that rules out bedding. Budget is £100-£150. Any ideas will be much appreciated!

    • ANSWER:
      Why dont you get them a painting in oil? Or if she likes it more modern maybe a Pop Art Print. If you have a nice picture of the couple that would be ideal. You can also send it to someone in Croatia so it would not get damaged on the plane.

      http://www.paintyourlife.com

      http://www.printyourcanvas.com

14. QUESTION:
    What’s the best wedding present you received and why?
    A former co-worker friend just got married. I need to get a wedding present, but don’t want to get something useless or expected. I am wondering what others have received that was unique that they really liked.

    • ANSWER:
      The best presents we received wee a Kitchen Aid standing mixer, love and use it all the time and 0 check, you can always use 0 hehhe

      Good luck.

15. QUESTION:
    Why didnt the Queen give Catharine a tiara as a wedding present?
    When Diana, Fergie and Sophie married, the Queen gave them all tiaras as a wedding present.
    I know that Catharine will only be her Grand-daughter-in-law, however, she will someday become the Queen of England. Would that not warrant a tiara? If she didn’t give her one, what did the Queen give them as a present?

    • ANSWER:
      Whoever turns out to be Queen already has access to the main box of “goodies” that are the private jewelry collection of Queen Elizabeth. In the meantime, Catherine will be able to borrow from the Queen…..just as the Queen allowed Diana to borrow whatever she needed.

      Camilla is very lucky in that Charles is rich ….and he loves to buy her jewelry.

      I suspect that Camilla could also borrow things from the Queen….I noticed that when all of them were in the Abbey waiting to be seated….that the Queen greeted Camilla quite warmly….and that Prince Philip gave Camilla a hug and kiss.

      I thought that it was announced that the tiara that Catherine was wearing was a gift from the Queen.

16. QUESTION:
    What should we give our nephew as a wedding present and we were not present at the wedding?
    We knew that they were engaged and were planning on having a quiet wedding but were not sure as to when. He was married by a justice of the peace with only his parents present over Easter weekend. My sister (his mother) called me the following day to let me know that they were married. So far we have no details of a planned wedding celebration for the newlyweds.

    • ANSWER:
      Talk to your sister and see if there is anything they particularly need or want. Otherwise, sending a nice card and a check would be appropriate. Even if they do have a wedding celebration, you’ve already given them their gift, you would not have to give another. I think it’s very thoughtful of you to honor their marriage, especially since it was such a small affair and you were unable to attend. Kudos to you.

17. QUESTION:
    What can I buy my Dad for a wedding present?
    I don’t know what to buy my Dad for his wedding present. The problem is that he’s one of these people who doesn’t like stuff. Well, he likes motorbikes and likes world war 2 documentaries kind of.

    Please can I have some suggestions.

    Thanks in advance.

    • ANSWER:
      my dad is the same way, so i got him a couple of nights stays at a golf resort with a spa. He loves to golf and his wife could pamper herself as well. It was nice because they could redeem the coupons whenever as long as the place had rooms available

18. QUESTION:
    Do I need to get wedding present if I’m not attending the wedding?
    My co-worker knew we will not be able to attend, but she invited us to her wedding anyway. We are in Canada and wedding is in Las Vegas. We never socialize outside work, but do get along during work. Also, she clearly expressed that they prefer cash.

    Girls at the office are already organizing bachelorette party that I am attending and paying for group gift and dinner.

    Do I need to give her a wedding present and if I do – how much?
    “It is proper etiquette to get someone a gift if they invite you to their wedding” – Why would she invite me when she knew I can’t come?

    “Since you are a part of the bachelorette party” – it’s not real party. She will have real bachelorette party @ LV. We are just doing girls night out.

    • ANSWER:
      All that etiquette requires is a handwritten letter or note of congratulations. Contributing to a group gift should be adequate.

      You didn’t ask, but technical etiquette tells us that weddings are for family and social acquaintances, not for our professional connections. To invite people who are not a part of your family or social circle is known as “fishing for gifts” and is not very nice. Let’s assume that the lady is innocent of this point of etiquette and invited her co-workers in a spirit of joy rather than in a spirit of greed.

19. QUESTION:
    Would you wrap a wedding present with black paper?
    Would you wrap a wedding present with black (with a damask faded pattern on it, quite ‘chic’) and a white ribbon? Or would you prefer plain purple/pink wrapping paper with a white ribbon?

    • ANSWER:
      the black would be just fine

20. QUESTION:
    Do you have to give a wedding present in this situation?
    I received invitations to two weddings. I went to the bridal showers and brought presents for those, but since I didn’t go to the receptions, I don’t feel the need to give another present for the wedding, but someone thinks I have to. Well, do I have to?

    • ANSWER:
      If one was a greedy sort of person, then one would delight in a world where one could require that others send one gifts by the simple expedient of sending them an invitation! Happily, etiquette is here to make the world go round smoothly and not to accommodate the demands of the greedy. One is required to bring a gift when on attends a shower. One is required to bring a gift when one attends a child’s birthday party.

      When one receives a invitation, one is required to immediately acknowledge the invitation and express thanks for being invited. If the invitation is to celebrate a milestone in someone’s life, like graduation, marriage, or retirement, then one is required to send a letter or note of congratulations and good wishes. If one accepts an invitation and attends a party, dinner, or whatever, then one is required to send a prompt note or letter thanking the host for the wonderful party, dinner, or whatever. When one is required to send a letter or note, as described above, one may send a gift along with or instead of the letter or note.

      Not that long ago is was considered rather rude to invite someone to a shower if that someone was invited to the wedding. The idea was if there someone was placed into a position where double gifting might be expected from that somewhere, then somebody somewhere was being greedy, greedy, greedy. Of course this rule did not apply is someone invited to the wedding ASKED to be included in a shower.

      The Wedding Industry has made a lot of progress toward its goal of transforming weddings into a commercial orgy of gift buying, rather like all the worst aspect of a modern Christmas season. This is supposed to be a joyeous celebration of a happy event, not an expensive and irksome series of chores.

21. QUESTION:
    Is it appropriate to insinuate wanting a grocery store gift card for my wedding present? ?
    I would like to tell guests in our wedding website that in addition to our Crate and Barrel registry, some of our favorite stores are Whole Foods, Target, and Amazon. Is it appropriate to insinuate wanting a Whole Foods (grocery store) gift card for our wedding present?

    • ANSWER:

22. QUESTION:
    How much cash should I give to one of my employees as a present for his wedding?
    This man has been working for 3 years under the group I manage, and he is a great worker. After he announced his wedding to everyone, he said that he preferred cash over any other gift. I am kind of tight on my budget because I am looking to buy a house. I was thinking to give him a gift of no more than 0, but after hearing his preferences I feel pressured to give him cash and I feel awkward giving him the 0 because it may be seem as too little.
    Is 0 too little for a wedding present?

    • ANSWER:
      I would say if you go alone it would be enough. If you are bringing someone I would add another 100. You are the manager
      Other coworker..100 is plenty!

23. QUESTION:
    What should i get my brother and his new wife for a wedding present?
    I’m gonna be a bridesmaid when my brother marries his girlfriend in a couple months and i was wondering what i should give them for their wedding present and also what exactly do i have to do as a bridesmaid? I’m only 15 by the way

    • ANSWER:
      Are you artistically talented in any way? If so, do what you do best – paint them a picture, write them a poem, sing them a song. As long as it is from the heart, it will be so special

24. QUESTION:
    How much is it right to spend on a wedding present…?
    My parents have to get a wedding present for my dad’s niece, from him and my mum. How much is it right to spend?

    • ANSWER:
      There is no “right” amount. You spend what you want, and what you can afford.

      Edit: Please do not listen to the people who say you should at least cover your plate. That “rule” was made up by boorish gift grabbers. I doubt the bride and groom are looking to make up for what they spent (how incredibly rude if they are!). Also it is rude to ask or assume about anyone’s finances (what they are paying per plate)

25. QUESTION:
    What do you think for my husbands wedding present I was thinking of learning the lap dance and surprising him?
    We are a normal everyday couple and are getting married in 6 months. I have been working out alot a have been using Carmen Electras striptease aerobics. Its a fun workout and she teaches alot of good dances and moves, I was thinking of doing a lap dance as my wedding present as this would be something that my man would never expect from me and I think it would spice things up, what do you think

    • ANSWER:
      That sounds like a great idea.

      I take poledancing and lapdancing classes and it’s so much fun and can be such a workout beyond what you would believe.

26. QUESTION:
    How much for a wedding present?
    How much should i spend (Australian $) on a wedding present for my friends? We are all middle income earners or students (less than ,000 per year). They don’t have a registry but they have an account with a travel agent for the “honey moon” fund. I am never really good with these things. Help…

    • ANSWER:
      to 0 which every you can afford without breaking your budget.

27. QUESTION:
    What is a traditional wedding present in Hungry?
    I am attending a wedding in Hungry and wanted to know what gift to buy. Should I buy standard toater type present or would cash be better, just need to know if there is a tradional present for a wedding in Hungry?

    • ANSWER:
      LOL I like the previous answers…

      Seriously, it depends on whose wedding you attend. My sister married not so lon ago and I gave them money, but far relatives usually give the usual presents, such as a porcelain set… etc.

28. QUESTION:
    what would be a good wedding present for a 58yo French woman in Paris?
    I am going to a wedding in Paris but I am not sure what to give as a present. The couple is in their late 50′s and they already have grown children. I do not want to spend too much, and cannot carry heavy luggage.

    • ANSWER:
      Crochet them a nice throw or buy them one of those soft throws in a color you know they will like.If you don’t know ask them what their favorite colors are if you can get one of each.Or get them to match their furniture.

29. QUESTION:
    What would be the most uniques and the best wedding present for her?
    My friend’s daughter, shes 22 (in America, Georgia) is getting married. I want to give a unique and one that is also a special wedding present. Please let me know your suggestion and what is the cost?

    • ANSWER:
      you can give her a bok for household management ,if she is interested in children u can present her a book for managing children.

30. QUESTION:
    What was the best wedding present you recieved?
    I got a widescreen tv for the house from my wifes family,it wasnt typical wedding present but it was at least useful for a new place

    • ANSWER:
      Apart from my lovely wife, I guess it would have to be the three bed bungalow. It had been built for us by my father-in-law who spared no expense in its decoration and fittings. Set in a two acre plot of land beside a small river here in Wales, it has splendid views to the front and sides, up and down the valley and a gentle hill to the rear leading to the mountain. It’s south-facing, so we have the sun for most of the day. The village is just five minutes walk away down the valley and we have become accepted by the locals.
      It’s very quiet with just Nature’s sounds to keep us company, but we do occasionally hear a train in the distance and the odd car making its way up the hill to the rear. Our days are peaceful and evenings very relaxing with our various hobbies and interests. Life is great.
      My wife though has the Habit of tickling my ribs then whispering,’Time to take the dog out, dear.’ I awake and sit on the edge of the bed, eyes still shut and smile to myself because I know that I can take her back to our dream home again tonight.
      The sounds of heavy traffic and children shouting on their way to school invade my senses. ‘Sian!’ I call out to our Labrador, ‘Get your lead, we’re going for a walk.’
      Maybe today will be a better one – well we can all dream.

31. QUESTION:
    What can the bride buy the groom for a wedding present?
    Getting married on 12th August and i’m looking for ideas on what to buy for my hubby(will be then) as a wedding present.

    • ANSWER:
      To tell you the truth – I didn’t BUY my husband anything for a wedding present, I didn’t even know it was common to.

      I did however try to treat him and spoil him on our wedding night by wearing some gorgeous lingerie and massaging his entire body. I think that was the one present he’ll never forget or lose because it’s etched in his memory AND it’s not something he’ll be getting regularly

      The best present I could’ve asked for was sitting on the bed after the wedding, going through our cards, messages and thereafter opening our presents one by one (we didn’t register for anything, we thought it would spoil whatever people thought would suit us or what they wanted to buy us).

      Congratulations and, have a wonderful wedding and blissful married life.

32. QUESTION:
    is it bad manners to ignore the gift registry thingy when buying a wedding present?
    A friend of mine is getting married and she loves animals – i thought that maybe I would donate money to the local animal shelter in her name for her wedding present – what do you think?

    • ANSWER:
      Only you are able to answer the question. If you think that your friend would really like the idea of giving something to a charity rather than their new home then go for it.

      Even though my husband and I had been living together before we got married, we didn’t have many things and decided that a wedding list was one way of getting what we wanted.

      We were, however, annoyed with a friend who got us something that wasn’t on the list. It was a couple of garden ornaments which we didn’t really have the garden for them to go into, however, another friend gave us something which we hadn’t asked for and we loved it.

      So you see, it does depend on your friend and what their life / living arrangements are like.

      KD

33. QUESTION:
    What would be a good wedding present that could go in the bedroom?
    I am going to a wedding shower next weekend and I want to buy them one present for every room, except I can’t thing of anything for there bedroom…all they have in there is a bed and a small vanity, no night stands or anything. I asked them for some ideas and they said they don’t know, there is no theme in the bedroom, not even a certain color that they want. Any ideas would be very helpful. I am looking for something that is no more then -. Thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      Candles. They are very romantic too.

34. QUESTION:
    how much money to give as a wedding present?
    My partners friend is getting married next month and have asked for money rather than a present. We have 3 children and not a lot of money so was wondering what is acceptable as a present? We are invited to the whole wedding. Thanks for any helpful advice

    • ANSWER:
      Ignore most of the answers as things are very different in the UK and USA and since most of them are talking about dollars it’s entirely different. It’s very wrong to ask for cash instead of a gift, it’s bad manners to even ask for or expect a gift, it’s done out of love and freewill and is not compulsory. If you were buying them a gift what would you normally spend? You then have 2 choices you can go against there wishes and buy a gift and in the UK half of the guests will probably do that anyway so you won’t be the only one or you can give them the equivalent money. Do not feel that you have to up it because they will see how much it is. If it is only £5 then so be it, it might teach them to have some manners and not to expect so much next time. As for covering the plate, that’s an absolute joke. If I go out for a meal I get to chose the price range I don’t if I’m invited to a wedding. Weddings are supposed to be about celebrating two peoples love not a money making exercise which appears to be how some treat it. Just go and enjoy yourself, like CJSmummy said you have 12 months after the wedding to send the wedding present it doesn’t have to be on the day.

35. QUESTION:
    Help what to get for a wedding present ?
    hi everyone
    well my friend is getting married very soon and i ain’t got a clue what to get for a present.
    This will be the first wedding ive been to and am one of her bridesmaids she is 25 and lives with her soon to be husband and has a baby so she doesn’t really need anything for a house.
    Any good suggestions.
    thanks you in advance.

    • ANSWER:
      To find out if they are registered anywhere, you can just ask her or look online yourself. In my area, Bed, Bath, and Beyond as well as Target are two big places people register. You can just go to their websites and click on the bridal registry tabs to see if your friend is on there.

      Personally, I think money is always wonderful to give. However, are there memberships to a club, museum, or anything like that that would be up her alley? Thinking outside the box a bit could lead to a really thoughtful gift.

36. QUESTION:
    what should i give as a wedding present?
    its my bosses wedding in 2 weeks i really dont know what to get her…for hers hens night i paid for her to go to a fancy day spa. i am putting in for the present from everyone at work but i would still like to get her something else.
    any ideas?

    • ANSWER:
      is there anything special about the couple? if so get them something related to them. personal gifts are the best. a great photo of the two, a photo album (filled), something with their names engraved, ect. good luck!! i hope you choose my answer as the best!

37. QUESTION:
    What’s the polite way to word that you only want $ for the wishing well for ur wedding present?
    I would like to know the polite way to word (not on the invite, on another card in the envelope) to say that you only want $$ or vouchers for a wedding present and that there will be a ‘wishing well’ at the reception that they should put it in.
    Some out there may think I’m rude – (sophie wouldn’t have been invited anyway! – take the cake for rude!) I appreciate any advice RELATING to the question, not ur personal opinion. Remember what your mum always said, “If you dont have anything nice to say, dont say anyhting at all”.

    • ANSWER:
      what is the point in recieving gifts if you already have everything you need….that is where a wishing well comes in handy…… you don’t need doubles or triples of everything….all the weddings i have been to have all had wishing wells / treasure chests as they already have everything…..so put this poem in with your invites

      our treasure chest
      more than just kisses so far we’ve shared,
      our home has been made with love and care…
      most things we need we’ve already got,
      and in our home we can’t fit alot…
      a treasure chest we thought would be great
      (but only if you wish to participate)
      a gift of money is placed in the chest,
      then make a wish…..but shhh don’t tell!
      once we’ve replaced old with new,
      we can look back and say it was thanks to you.

      seriously it is your choice to whether you want a wishing well or gifts…..my partner and i are getting married next year and we will be having a wishing well as we have everything we need…the house and everything in it and a family ( 3 young children)
      don’t worry about what anyone else say’s it’s your own decision in the end

38. QUESTION:
    What wedding present should we ask for?
    For our wedding, we don’t want to ask for any presents but ultimately we know that people won’t accept that and demand that they buy us one anyway.

    We absolutely do not need any home-ware items.

    What should we ask for/contribution for?

    • ANSWER:
      Ask for vouchers or money, it makes a lot more sense and means you get exactly what you want and not 20 toasters. You could ask for money or travel vouchers and put it towards your honeymoon!!

39. QUESTION:
    What would be the best and unique wedding present for her?
    My friends daughter, 22 (in America, Georgia) is getting married. I want to give a unique also special wedding present. Please let me know your suggestion.

    • ANSWER:
      Does her and her future husband, own a house?
      Buy her a young tree.

      As it will grow, so will the years with her husband.

40. QUESTION:
    what to get my sister for her wedding present?
    ok so its my sisters wedding. she is 26 and i am 24. we are really close, but i dont know what to get her for a wedding present? any ideas that would be really special or she might like? what would make you cry of being happy if your brother gave you a certain something for your wedding?

    • ANSWER:
      the stuff that would make someone cry is generally different for everyone

      best way to get some tears out of her is to write her a letter – hand written is more from the heart of course
      tell her how much she means to you and how happy you are to be as close to your sister as you are… talk about some story from when you were kids

      if that doesn’t do the trick no material gift will

41. QUESTION:
    What can my nephew buy his wife to be for a wedding present?
    He has asked me to go with him to choose a gift as I’m the closest female to him family-wise. He wants to buy his wife to be a special present for their wedding. Any ideas? Something tasteful, or fun.

    • ANSWER:
      some expensive gold jewellery

42. QUESTION:
    What’s a good wedding present for people who have tons of stuff and don’t want any more?
    Two good friends of ours are getting married. They are middle-aged and have been living on their own forever, and consequently have all of the household appliances, dishes, and stuff that anyone could want. In fact, the husband-to-be is taking a bunch of his stuff to the dump and donating it to make room for his future wife’s stuff. We would like to get them something to celebrate their wedding, but don’t want to add to their stress by giving them something that they probably don’t need. What’s a good present?

    • ANSWER:
      1. Cash
      2. Gift certificate to their favorite restaurant
      3. Tickets to a concert, show, or sporting event you know they would enjoy.
      4. A good bottle of wine.
      5. Spa day? Give them gift certificates for massages.
      6. Maybe something like this? A way to help others? http://www.heifer.org/site/c.edJRKQNiFiG/b.204586/k.9430/Gift_Catalog.htm?msource=kw875&gclid=CKHLjo3ot4kCFQgGQQodAR7zPQ

      edit: I like Dixie_n_pixie’s idea of gas and groceries! Cannot go wrong with that.

43. QUESTION:
    What to give for a wedding present?
    So I was invited to the wedding of a really good friend’s sister, which I actually can’t go to. But my mom told me I should still get them a present. I don’t know the bride all that well and it’s going to be a pretty small wedding so how much should I spent/what should I get them?

    I’m 17 btw.

    • ANSWER:
      I suspect you were invited to the wedding to be with your friend so she has some friends there. If you are not going to the wedding, you do not have to buy a gift, however, it would be thoughtful to send a wedding card. If you really feel you MUST buy them a gift, due to pressure from your mother or your friend, then I would suggest something inexpensive such as a gift card from Target or any store they are registered at. Also, you MUST RSVP that you will not be attending the wedding. However, understand, if you hardly know the bride and won’t be going to the wedding, you never have to give a gift at all. If the bride or groom were part of your family, and you are not going to attend the wedding, then it is usual to give a gift. But in this instance, no gift is required at all.

44. QUESTION:
    What is the least (and the most) you would spend on a wedding present?
    I’m trying to find out what people feel is a reasonable amount to spend on a wedding present. I know it depends on finances but what is the very least you would spend and what is the absolute maximum?
    My wife said this was a silly question because it depends on who’s wedding it is!!
    Please think of it this way:
    If you went to a wedding of someone you hardly knew/disliked what is the least you would spend?
    On the other hand if you went to someone very close to you’s wedding (say a sibling or best friend) what is the most you would spend?

    • ANSWER:
      -0

45. QUESTION:
    what could be a nice present or souvenir gifts to in a wedding?
    i will get married soon in the philippines. i have problems finding a nice, unique but not so expensive wedding presents/ gifts to the major sponsors or to my ninong or ninang (the God parents) Please help. thanks in advance

    • ANSWER:
      If you need an original gift try photoartomation (http://www.photoartomation.com/ArtWork/pages/03_Impasto.htm ). They convert ordinary photo into Art

46. QUESTION:
    What wedding present to buy?
    I started a new job at a company recently. As it happens, my boss is getting married in a couple of weeks’ time and has invited everyone in his team to his wedding reception which includes dinner. I am planning to go (with my spouse) but since I don’t know my boss that well, what would be an appropriate wedding present for him? BTW, he’s English while his fiancee is Japanese.

    • ANSWER:
      See if you’re co-workers are doing a group gift. If not then find out if he is registered, you can check on your own at the different stores or you can just ask (some people register in different kinds of places like travel agencies or a store they particularly like). If you are uncomfortable just giving a check in a card then pick out something nice for their home (like a vase or crystal, especially if you don’t know their taste) from a store that has a good return policy (you should get a gift receipt anyway). You could also just go the gift certificate route (like an American Express – that way they can get what they want or need from anywhere they like or take it on the honeymoon with them – we did that and they came in pretty handy). Just make it generic and don’t slant it towards their heritage – you don’t know how they will feel about that.

47. QUESTION:
    what to give my fiance as a wedding present?
    I am trying to sort out a present to give my fiance of the morning of the wedding and would like to give him a few small things with little notes that make him smile, so far I have these, can you think of anything else I could give?

    Socks “in case you get cold feet”
    Pint glass and can of beer “To settle your nerves”
    Boudoir photo “Meet me at the altar …”
    Bacon roll “To give you energy for the day”

    • ANSWER:

48. QUESTION:
    What should I get my fiance for a wedding present?
    The wedding is in the end of May and it will be a very small low-key ceremony. We’re moving to another state and buying a house so money is tight for both of us. I can’t figure out what to get him as a present. Any ideas?

    • ANSWER:
      What does he like? My guys sister in law got his brother a really nice watch(he’s very business-y); and I’m going to save up and get my guy a drum since he’s a professional drummer. I’d say something like a watch, a signed copy of something from someone he really admires(i.e. book, ball, etc…) Or you could get some super sexy lengerie that you usually wouldn’t be caught dead in and give him a little “wedding present” of your own… It all depends on what he actually likes, what his interests are, and his hobbies. Do something based on that.

49. QUESTION:
    What sort of wedding present do I get for my friend who is marrying an ex-lesbian?
    My friend is the first guy that a girl who had been in a non-monogomous lesbian relationship met after she ditched her lesbian ways of 6 years. They ended up in bed together on their first date. Now they are getting married. What is the appropriate wedding present?

    • ANSWER:
      Why does it matter that she used to be with a woman? Give them what you would offer to any other couple. You can try something off of their registry, or perhaps a picture frame or a gift certificate to a nice restaurant.

50. QUESTION:
    Suggestions on what to get my fiance as a wedding present?
    I will be marrying my fiance in about 5 months and have no clue what to get her for a wedding present. She is terribly hard to shop for…

    Can anyone offer any great ideas for a romantic and thoughtful present?

    • ANSWER:
      Wow, are you ever a sweetheart!! The fact that you are puuting thought into it is great! A nice gift would be a spa gift certificate for after the wedding – a massage or manicure pedicure certificate to ease the post wedding stress! Or maybe a pair of diamond earings or pendant? Just don’t expect her to wear them that day as she like has had her jewelry picked out long in advance and could be wearing heirloom pieces.
      Now, I am in the same dilema as you – what to get my fiance on our wedding day. What is a great guy gift? What would you like?