Frequently Asked Questions

1. QUESTION:
   Wedding Toasts?
   Who usually gives the wedding toasts? How many people should give them? Is there a particular order for the toasts? And how long should each last?

   • ANSWER:
     You definitely want to limit who gives toasts or it will turn into a toast a palooza, which you don’t want. Usually the most typically people and order is as follows:

     Father of the Bride
     Best Man
     Maid of Honor
     and
     possibly a blanket thank you from the bride and the groom.

     Good Luck and Happy Planning!

2. QUESTION:
   What are some good wedding toasts from movies?
   I’m trying to find a bunch of wedding toasts from movies, preferably funny ones. Have any ideas and what movies they are from?

   • ANSWER:
     the one from step brothers lol

3. QUESTION:
   What would be a good drink to use for wedding toasts?
   I am getting married in 2 weeks and my fiance and I are stuck on what kind of drink to use for the wedding toasts. I am not a wine person, it gives me bad headaches, and my maid of honor is pregnant. Please help. We need something good and that won’t make every ones faces scrunch up.

   • ANSWER:
     Haha. Okay I know this isn’t very traditional, and by now my groom & I have voilated so many wedding rules it’d bring martha stewart to tears. But we’re toasting with homemade wine coolers. It’s just easier to stomach than “the real thing.” We taste tested these drinks at our engagement party. The berry wine cooler & strawberry were the most popular. The strawberry was easiest to make (blackberry juice is pricy and hard to find) so we decided to go with that. Plus it looks better in toasting glasses.

     Here’s a berry wine cooler.
     4 oz Chablis® white wine
     6 oz 7-Up® soda
     1/2 oz blackberry juice
     1/2 oz raspberry juice
     1/2 oz strawberry juice
     1/2 oz blueberry juice

     This is a melon wine cooler (yummy)
     1 honeydew melon
     2 lemons, thinly sliced
     Juice of 2 limes
     3 bottles Chablis, Sauterne or other white dinner wine
     1 bottle champagne, chilled

     1. Cut honeydew melon in half. Scoop out seeds. Use a melon-baller to scoop out perfectly shaped melon balls. Place them in punch bowl.
     2. Add lemon slices. Pour in lime juice. Add wine. Cover and chill at least 1 hour.

     I’ve seen spice wine coolers at winter weddings (which ours is) but it didn’t go over as well with the guests as the fruity ones:
     1 1/2 c. boiling water
     6 Lipton Cinnamon Apple Herbal Tea Bags
     1/3 c. sugar
     1 1/2 c. cold water
     1 c. white wine
     2 tsp. lemon juice
     Club soda, chilled

     **** This one tastes awesome and, if you can get the strawberrys just so – it looks like a blush wine. The mint gave it a very crisp taste:

     2 c. strawberries, hulled
     4 lemon slices
     2 lg. mint sprigs
     1 bottle white zinfandel, chilled

     Cut strawberries in half. Place in large pitcher with lemon slices and mint. Pour in wine. Serve chilled. Serves 6.

     I would probably 86 the lemon slices, melon balls and any other floaty fruits – just for the toasts. But crack ‘em out for the reception!

4. QUESTION:
   Not serving champagne during the wedding toasts?
   Because our budget is limited, we were hoping to cut costs by not serving champagne to our guests during our toasts. Is this seen as rude? Should we serve champagne to the person making the toast? What are some other ideas of how we could do this? Thanks!

   • ANSWER:
     People can just toast with whatever they’re drinking – wine, soda etc. I wouldn’t serve champagne to only the person making the toast – that seems a bit unfair. Better to have no champagne at all than only for the ‘chosen’ guests. You could consider making some kind of non-alcoholic punch to toast with – sprite mixed with a flavor/color would work well for this. That would be a good substitute for the toast as well.

5. QUESTION:
   Who should do the Readings at the Wedding Ceremony and Toasts at the Reception?
   I am getting married in May and my fiance and I have picked two poems we want read at our wedding. We just don’t have any idea of who should read them. Who usually does the readings during a ceremony? Don’t say the brides mom should do one because my mom wont be attending. And also who does the toasts during the reception?

   • ANSWER:
     The critical consideration is that whoever you choose to do a reading must be good at it. Too often the readers mumble, stumble through, or completely destroy the meaning of the reading. So pick someone who has some skill and experience.

     Definitely do NOT pick anyone in the Bridal Party. They already have a role. Choose someone else, someone who you want to honor, and someone who has some connection with the reading. So, if the reading is about marriage, choose someone who is happily married, and so on.

     Make sure that the reading is read from the actual book or is in a nice folder if they are not standing at a lectern. The last thing you want in your photos/video is someone diving into a pocket or purse and bringing out a torn-out sheet of paper that has been folded up a gazillion times.

     Most etiquette books will tell you that the toasts are made by the men in the family – the best man starts off by proposing a toast to the couple, this is responded to by the groom and it is perfectly acceptable for that to be the only toast according to Emily Post. The fathers can offer welcome toasts to each other’s families or to express their happiness at the marriage. Other people may also propose toasts – including a toast to the bridal party.

     In practice, anyone can make a toast, male or female, and respond to it. It is becoming more and more common for the bride also to respond to the best man’s toast.

     Basically, this is your big “after” party, so whatever works for your family.

6. QUESTION:
   How should I start and what should I say in a matron of honor speech? any tips on wedding toasts?

   • ANSWER:
     Some great tips so far.

     Length is very important in a speech. A few minutes at best.

     A good place to start the speech is thinking also how you want to finish it. I like to compare a speech to a sandwich. It has two pieces of bread or a top and bottom bun. As the bun holds your sandwich together, your opening and closing remarks hold your speech together.

     An old speech trick I use when in doubt, is to open with a couple of questions, then use the body of your speech to answer those questions and of course wrap it up with a conclusion to those answers.

     Good Luck!

7. QUESTION:
   Can anyone suggest any good wedding toasts in German?
   The only german word i know I Sipen which means drink.

   • ANSWER:
     Why don’t you Google “German wedding speech”? And to make sure you’ve found a speech that’s not offensive, copy the text into an online translator.

     Try Googling “babelfish altavista”, that’s the translator I always use. It will give you the general gist of the speech, though you need to make sure you know how to pronounce the words

     I studied German in school, and some words/phrases that might help you are:

     * Liebe (pronounced lee-bah) – “love”
     * Mein Liebling (prn muyn leeb-ling) – “my darling”
     * ich liebe dich (prn ich lee-bah dich), “I love you”

     By the way, to get the “ch” sound like in ich and dich, you need to close your throat partially and exhale until you get a sort of coughing-up-plegm kind of sound. DO NOT pronounce it “ik” and “dik” or “ish” and “dish”. They’re common mispronounciations, and it’s pretty ignorant.

     Perhaps don’t go with the suggestion from the first answerer though, as roughly translated, it means “she has a small sausage”

8. QUESTION:
   What order do wedding toasts go in?
   Here is how I have it set up now, do you think I should switch it up?

   Toast to the bride
   Toast to the groom
   Toast to the bridesmaids
   Toast to the groomsmen
   Groom’s parents welcome the bride to the family
   Bride’s parents welcome the groom to the family
   Bride and Groom’s thank yous

   Is there anything else?

   • ANSWER:
     The order is entirely up to you.

     Typically, the best man opens with the first toast, and the parents of the groom or the bride and groom themselves will close out the toasts for the evening.

     The rest if whatever you prefer.

9. QUESTION:
   Where can I get a book of toasts that includes wedding toasts?
   I need a good original toast to give at my friend’s wedding.

   • ANSWER:
     wedding-toast.org

10. QUESTION:
    Wedding toasts and speeches- who gives them?
    Who gives speeches and who gives toasts at a wedding? What if the groom has 2 best men and I have both a maid and matron of honor?

    • ANSWER:
      I think they all can, or you can ask just the Best man, or if you know that some of them would be embarrassed (after all public speaking is scary to many people) just ask the willing.

11. QUESTION:
    are there any “wedding toasts” in Shakespeare’s plays? What about weddings in Shakespeare’s plays?
    I am giving a toast at a wedding reception in a Shakespearian theater, and would like to add an authentic quote to a speech that I already have planned. Any help would be great. Any Shakespeare quotes of friendship and love or advice about marriage would be great too.
    I thought of “taming of the shrew” but it might not be too well received (he he).

    • ANSWER:
      This is from Shakespeares As you like it

      No sooner met but they looked;
      No sooner looked but they loved;
      No sooner loved but they sighed;
      No sooner signed but they asked one another the reason;
      No sooner knew the reason but they sought the remedy;
      And in these degrees have they made a pair of stairs to marriage…

12. QUESTION:
    Catchy Wedding Toasts for our glassware?
    My boyfriend and I are not big fans of Champagne, so we have opted to have an open bar at our wedding. When we do the toasts, everyone will have their choice of drink. I’m looking for something to put on the glassware such as “here’s a shot to us tying the knot!” But I need some more ideas…

    • ANSWER:
      Were here for the beer.
      OR
      Here’s to Texhasfan, he sure has a lot of accounts.

13. QUESTION:
    What is a good site for some Irish wedding toasts?
    I came across this one.

    http://evesdream.com/uncategorized/is-the-most-famous-romance-in-ireland-between-biffo-and-mary-c-ending-relation-to-vital-tourist-info/

    We must be famous lol.

    Cheers for answers.

    • ANSWER:
      Lol what is that site and how did our posts get onto it?

14. QUESTION:
    are wedding toasts just for rehearssal dinners?
    My moh n bm are shy and don’t really wna do a speech would it be weird to have/let guests at the reception give speeches/toasts

    • ANSWER:

15. QUESTION:
    Do you know any funny non-speech-related wedding toasts?
    I am best man for a wedding and I’m thinking of going beyond the typical speech for a wedding toast. Have any of you ever seen anyone play a song on the guitar or stage a skit or anything like that?

    • ANSWER:
      Never but that sounds so awesome and non traditional. What an unforgettable wedding speech you will provide. DO IT. Usually they are memorable because of awful things said!

16. QUESTION:
    What are some funny wedding toasts?
    My aunt is giving a toast at my cousin’s wedding, and she wants something funny to say, but it has to be nice. Also, there will be a lot of old people so… they have to be able to understand. Thank you!

    10 pts to best answerer!

    • ANSWER:
      I think the best way to make it funny, nice, and meaningful all in one, is to tell a funny anecdote about you and the person you are toasting. This can be about something they did as a kid, for example, and can be used to segue into your toast for the person. This could be something that they did that was slightly embarrassing or overly cute, or was about the opposite sex (like how they used to feel about them or something they said about them), and then talk about how they’ve changed or wish their spouse the best as they now take on that quirky aspect of the person.

      For instance, I could say that when my little cousin was 4 years old, he said that he never wanted to get married because kissing was yucky. But “now” (whenever he gets married), his feelings have obviously changed. I could add that it’s been a joy to watch him grow up and am thrilled to see him getting married now, and I wish him the best of luck, etc.

      Or, others could’ve said about me, how I wanted my entire life to get married- how I used to do make-believe all of the time and have had a list of my future children’s names since I was a young kid. (Specific examples would add to the humor). And then, now that I am experiencing my dream come true, it tells them that their dreams can come true as well (how sweet!), etc.

      I hope this helps a bit. It’s not easy when you don’t know the people, but I hope this provides a jumping off point for your aunt.

17. QUESTION:
    who toasts who during the wedding?
    My wedding is coming up in two weeks and I need to know who toasts who. Who toasts the bride, the bridesmaids, etc etc.
    any advice would really help me!

    • ANSWER:
      The maid of honor and best man give toasts to the couple. You and your fiance can give a little speech (toast) to welcome everyone and thank them for being there. Sometimes parents will give little toasts. That’s really it. Anything else is extra. (FYI: Technically, when someone is toasting you, you do not raise your glass or drink after because you are not supposed to drink to yourself.)

18. QUESTION:
    Would it be weird not to have toasts at our wedding?
    I mean the bestman and MOH dont want to do the toasts,so can we(bride and groom)just say thanks to everyone and such.

    • ANSWER:
      I’m a DJ and have seen this before.

      It is not required and everybody has fun. Nobody even bats an eye at that.

      The two of you making a “thank you” speech is awesome.

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19. QUESTION:
    Who traditionally gives the toasts at a wedding reception?
    I think it’s maid of honor and best man… am I right? Do any other folks usually do it?

    • ANSWER:
      Traditionally, yeah its the best man and the maid of honor. I’ve been to a lot of weddings that opened the mic to anyone who wanted to give a toast after the best man and maid of honor has given theirs.

20. QUESTION:
    Where can I find good wedding toasts?
    Hi! I’ve been asked to toast at my friend’s wedding. She told me not to make her cry (so now it’s a goal) Any great toasts you have heard that are sure to mess up everyone’s mascara?
    THANKS!!

    • ANSWER:
      Raisen bread. Ever since childhood, I always thought that made the bestest toast. Someimes with cinnemon on it. Sorry for deviating from the subject a scant bit, but it brings back fond memories.

21. QUESTION:
    What is a good drink to use for wedding toast?
    I am getting married in 2 weeks. My maid of honor is pregnant and I am not a wine person. My fiance and I are having trouble deciding on a drink to use for wedding toasts.

    • ANSWER:
      sparkling apple cider, sparkling pomegranate juice, sparkling grape juice can be found at most grocery stores and “club stores” (sams club, bj’s or costco)

      How about 7 up with a splash of orange, strawberry or peach puree. Fruit punch with seven up or ginger ale.

      Bubbly drinks are thought to be festive, but enjoy whatever you wish

      We wish you much happiness!!!!

22. QUESTION:
    How many bottles of champagne should we buy for toasts at a wedding reception for 140 guests?

    • ANSWER:
      One bottle should fill each glass of 140 guests.

23. QUESTION:
    father of the groom wedding toasts free sites?
    sample toasts for rehearsal dinners and for wedding

    • ANSWER:

      http://www.realsimple.com/realsimple/browse/skills/0,21771,4010000000-Issue_Date-desc-596-1-25,00.html

      http://www.aphids.com/cgi-bin/quotes.pl?act=ShowWedCategories

      http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Wedding-Toast

      http://www.ehow.com/how_1383_propose-toast.html

      1. Let the host or hostess make the first salute at a dinner party. If she or he does not do so, initiate a toast after the dishes from the main course are cleared.

      2. Make certain that everyone, no matter what he or she is drinking, has a full glass to raise.

      3. Stand up and tap your glass to get everyone’s attention.

      4. For a formal occasion, have everyone (except for the person you are toasting) stand up. If it is less formal, guests may remain seated.

      5. Direct your toast toward the host or hostess or the guest of honor. Speak loudly and slowly so that all can hear you.

      6. Keep it brief, sincere and to the point; choose simple but substantial words to convey your feelings. Some of the best toasts are just a single sentence or two.

      7. If you are feeling more creative, you can begin with an appropriate quotation, a poem or an amusing anecdote.

      8. Consider mentioning an unusually brave, heroic, romantic or awesome act performed by the honoree.

      9. Weave humor into your toast, but don’t embarrass the honoree. If the assembled group is close-knit, it’s all right to refer to shared experiences, but don’t make the toast a private joke between you and a few of the people present.

      10. When you have finished your toast, lift your glass to the recipient and lead the group in drinking to that person.

      Tips:
      If you know ahead of time that you will be giving a toast, write down some thoughts on note cards and practice delivering the toast before the big event. Remember that the toast puts the spotlight on the honoree, not on you.

      If you are the recipient of a toast, remain seated and refrain from drinking when everyone drinks to you.

      Warnings:
      Make sure your toast is appropriate for everyone at the event. For example, a best man’s speech at a wedding ceremony shouldn’t refer to bachelor-party escapades.

      Tips from eHow Users:
      Make eye contact when toasting by eHow Friend
      Be sure to maintain eye contact during the touching glasses portion of the toast. You need to only glance at your glass from your peripheral vision, and move your glass along without too much force if you’re worried about breaking something. Constant eye contact shows you really mean it.

      http://www.heavenstouchweddings.com/how-to-toast.html

      Hope some of the help out.. there are many great places on the net that offer onfo for FREE!!!

24. QUESTION:
    Turning Down Wedding Toasts?
    My fiance and I have asked two close friends to give wedding toasts at our wedding reception — and now two more people have asked us whether they can give wedding toasts as well. I’m basically okay with it, but will it be two toasts too many? I feel bad turning them away, but at the same time, I don’t want to have to drop either of the friends we originally asked.

    • ANSWER:

25. QUESTION:
    What are some common cliches heard at wedding toasts, such as “They make such a wonderful couple”?
    Some other cliches I have come up with:
    “I knew from the moment I met John that he was the one for Susan,” “I love you both with all my heart” (accompanied by some tears),
    “You two make the most beautiful couple.”

    • ANSWER:
      These two are the definition of “love”.

26. QUESTION:
    where can i find wedding toasts?
    anyone know where i can find a maid of honor speach for my sisters wedding?

    • ANSWER:

      http://www.theknot.com

      It has tons of articles and other ideas for everyone in the bridal party.

27. QUESTION:
    Questions about wedding toasts?
    I am getting married on June 7th. I am wondering about the toasts. Who all makes toasts and when. Like at the rehursal, doesn’t the bride and groom make toast to the rest of the wedding party, thanking them for being in the wedding. And also doesn’t the bride and groom do a toast at the wedding reseption thanking everyone for coming?

    Also can anyone give me some ideas for toasts or websites where I can find toasts. I can not write and have no idea what to say.

    I would also like to do a toast to my mother, thanking her for everything she has done for us and wedding (she had paid for everthing and organized everything). Can anyone give me a nice and meaningful toast for this, also when should I do it, at the rehursal or at the reseption?

    Thanks everyone for reading this and taking time to asnwer! Any and all answers will be wonderful!

    • ANSWER:
      At the wedding reception, generally the best man and maid/matron of honor each propose a toast to the bride and groom. At the rehearsal dinner, it would be appropriate for you to propose a toast to those in your wedding party and a special toast to your mother. Just thank the wedding party for being willing to be a part of such a special day in your lives and thank them for their love and support.

      To your mother say “Your love and support has made me the woman I am today and without you, our wedding would not have been possible. I love you and hope to be as wonderful a mother to my children as you have been for me.”

      It would also be nice for you toast your in-laws for raising such a fine young man as your fiance – they did good, right?

28. QUESTION:
    Can friends give wedding toasts to the groom?
    This is a speech assignment for my college class. I have to give a wedding toast with my partner so in essence, 2 wedding toasts, each 5-6 minutes. We decided that our topic was going to be the wedding of Prince William and Kate Middleton. My partner is going to toast Kate Middleton, and I have to toast Prince William.

    I was wondering if it is normal for regular friends, as in not best man or anything, to toast the bride or groom.

    Also, any tips on how to write this speech? Like what format I could use?

    I’ve never written a wedding toast and I’ve never actually heard one before either.

    • ANSWER:
      Anyone can give a toast at a wedding.

      However, its normally limited to the best man, maid/matron of honor, fathers and sometimes the couple being married. However I have been to wedding with friends of the couple giving them, and the rest of their bridal party.

      Too many speeches make the guests bored plus they are usually during dinner, and with too many their food is going to get cold.

      Most speeches are 2-3 minutes or so, 5 or 6 is more like a presentation.

      http://www.freeweddingtoasts.net/

      http://www.weddingspeechdigest.com/

      http://www.keepandshare.com/htm/wedding_planning/wedding_speeches/best_free_wedding_speeches.php

29. QUESTION:
    what should i say in a wedding toast?
    my best friend is getting married tomorrow and she asked me to say a toast at the reception (i’m the maid of honor) It will be an informal ceremony and an informal reception. I have no idea what to say or where to begin. Do i talk about my friend and i and our friendship or talk about how i view the couple or talk about how i know the couple ect.

    please tell me everything there is to know about wedding toasts. such as how long should i make it, do i pre-rehearse, when do i give the toast, what is it about, ect. and some examples

    thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      You dont have to prepare an elaborate speech. If you have a nice story involving the two of them or the three of you, you might include that if its approprate. If not, just tell them how happy you are for them, how much you love them, etc.

30. QUESTION:
    Wedding Toasts – Wine instead of Champagne?
    My fiance and I are both from towns with popular vineyards and wanted to incorporate the two different labels of wine into our wedding. We were going to put one bottle of wine from either winery on each table, but figured that might be a little pricey (and kinda messes up my centerpiece idea..lol). We were thinking instead to use the different wines (we’d have a white and a red) for the toasts instead of champagne. We’d have the glasses handed out just as we would with the champagne, except with wine in them. It is an added bonus because neither of us really like champagne. Is doing this ok?

    • ANSWER:
      You can toast with anything you like. I would give the guests a choice of red or white though. Neither my husband or I drink, so we just toast with water or soda or whatever we are drinking. It’s not really what’s in the glass that matters.

31. QUESTION:
    What is a traditional Russian wedding toast from a father to a daughter?
    I’ve been asked to write a toast for my fiance’s father for our upcoming wedding. He is a formal Russian businessman, and I am looking for a traditional Russian toast that a father might give at his daughter’s wedding. If it was possible to have a translated toast, as well as the original Russian, that would be ideal. You could go back into history or it could be a poem or except from a traditional poem. Thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      davai vodka !

32. QUESTION:
    Wedding Toasts for a friend?
    I have to do a Special Occasion Toast for my public speaking class… Not too sure how to start it. I was going to do a wedding toast for my friend. Just need some help starting the speech and the middle part of it. I got the ending

    • ANSWER:
      hi im actually going to be a best man for my mates wedding this saturday & have just posted it on here for a bit of advice on it, take a look if you want

      http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ai_a2uAmqYoMCe3c7hhclQXsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100706130830AApVse5

33. QUESTION:
    Any suggestions on how to write a good wedding toast for Scrubs characters?
    My speech class requires us to write a wedding toast for a TV show couple. We have to pretend that we personally know the couple and I will be playing the part of bridesmaid. I picked JD and Elliot from Scrubs. I’m having writers block. Any suggestions on what story I could include to describe JD and Elliot?

    • ANSWER:
      tutorial and traning-

      http://homeschooling3.blogspot.com/

34. QUESTION:
    What should I write about for an imaginary wedding toast?
    I have to write an imaginary wedding toast to present in front of my class. The speech has to rhyme every two lines and I have to tell how i know the bride or groom. After I introduce myself, I have to tell a funny story or stories about one of them. This is all fiction but I still don’t know what to write about. Any ideas?

    • ANSWER:
      you already have what to write ABOUT, you just need someone to tell you what to write. Think of one of your closest friends (male or female) and imagine them getting married and what you would say about them. You don’t have to use any real names, but maybe think of an embarrassing moment that you two shared.

35. QUESTION:
    5 weeks pregnant, getting married this weekend, don’t want anyone to know yet, wedding toasts etc.?
    I have been planning our wedding for months now and exactly one week before it we found out that we are pregnant! We couldn’t be happier, but being only 5 weeks along we don’t want to tell anyone yet. The problem I have is I was planning on drinking with toasts and drinking in general, my girls and I had planned to have tequila sunrises and what not so it will be very obvious if I just decided not to drink. What should I do, is it safe to just drink a little for the toasts, I really don’t want to do any damage to my baby and I know that no amount of alcohol is safe but we really don’t want to tell everyone yet.

    • ANSWER:
      Congrats! Some suggestions… for the toast have some cider or sparkling juice (no one has to know whats in your glass). As far as your friends just tell them that you’ve been to one too many weddings were the bride has drank too much and you are only getting married once and want to remember every detail so you are holding firm to your no drinking rule. True friends will understand.

36. QUESTION:
    What kind of wedding toast should I give?
    I’m the maid of honor in a friends wedding this summer and I need to give a toast. However, I’m not sure what kind of toast to give. She got married (to the same guy) last summer in a very small backyard ceremony but she’s having her “formal” wedding this summer. I just don’t know if I should give a wedding toast or an anniversary toast? What do you guys think?

    • ANSWER:
      What about a joke that you’ve been waiting a year to give this toast and then just say what’s in your heart.

37. QUESTION:
    Funny Wedding Toasts!! Help?
    I’ve written my whole speech for my sisters wedding. Anyway, there’s a really funny toast I want to use but my sister just heard it at the last wedding she went to. So I want something just like this “Married life has many ups and downs…may most of yours be between the sheets.”

    And I don’t want corny ones you hear all the time, I want something more original. Thanks!!

    • ANSWER:
      Tell the groom to put his hands on top of the brides hands & once they’ve done that say “This is the last time you’ll have the upperhand in this marriage!”

38. QUESTION:
    which champagne to buy for my wedding toast?
    I need advice on which champagne to buy for my wedding toast.
    I want something sweet and tasty.
    Not too expensive also.

    Also, can someone explain what brut means?

    • ANSWER:
      Brut explains the amount of “dryness” of the champagne – if you’re going to be purchasing a few bottles, try Prosecco – it’s a sparkling Italian wine – affordable with a nice sweetness and also very tasty!

      PS. It’s about 10-15 bucks depending on where you shop

39. QUESTION:
    Is it wedding tradition for the maid of honor and best man to make a wedding toast or speech?
    I have been wondering if it is wedding tradition for the maid of honor and the best man to make a wedding toast or speech and if so, what should/shouldn’t I say?

    • ANSWER:
      Yes, always the best man and often the maid of honor. Keep it short and sweet and dont embarass them as so many people like to do and its really not the appropriate time.

40. QUESTION:
    I have never had champagne before and have no clue what to pick for my wedding reception toast. ?
    I need to figure out what type of champagne to have for our wedding toast. I like fruity flavors so any suggestions?

    • ANSWER:
      well brandi, unless you are wealthy, do not get moet or dom perignon.
      one of the best champagne toasts are either korbel or andre.
      the guest only gets a small taste of it and could not even tell if its . a bottle or . a bottle. plz, trust me

41. QUESTION:
    What is the reason for doing toasts at a wedding reception?My future brother in law is being shy…?
    He is the best man- and really doesnt know me very well. My fiance (his brother) really doesnt want anyone to do toasts (think it will be akward?) Why do we do toasts?

    • ANSWER:
      You are toasted to honor you during your wedding, and in some cultures to wish you good luck.

      Your fiance could simply tell his shy brother to wish you both the best in luck and life. Believe me, when people are waiting for a meal, they would just as soon the toasts were short and sweet.

42. QUESTION:
    speech for wedding toasts – brother and best man?
    hi all, sure youre all fed up of me by now!
    i was just wondering what the most touching thing was your brother/ father/ best man/ MOH said in their speech at your wedding? i trust my brother and best man to do a fab job i was just curious to what your loved ones said about you!

    share! 10pts for the sweetest!

    wedding wishes to all xx

    • ANSWER:
      I run the bachelor party idea site “The Doomed Groom” and I’ve written an article about what I think makes a great best man speech. Below, I have reprinted the exact speech that my best man gave to me and my wife during our reception that is included in that article. To this day, all who attended have told me that it was the best best man toast they’ve ever heard.

      It all started out with, of all things, a survey. Jason showed up at our door and asked us to fill out a sheet that had a whole bunch of questions about ourselves. And this is what he came up with:

      “When Tom asked me to be his best man, I obviously realized I would be giving a toast. And I certainly felt I could easily come up here and say wonderful things about Tom and Julie and their relationship, but I really wanted to be able to express something that went beyond just gut feeling and observation.

      I wanted to be able to say something more absolute, something that had some serious empirical data behind it. So I decided to create the most accurate compatibility survey known to man. This survey was carefully designed to test the exact areas of the human mind where attraction and potential for relationship take place.

      There were five questions, and I’d like to share Julie’s and Tom’s results with you. The first question was, ‘Did you like the movie “Titanic?”’ Julie’s answer was “yes.” And Tom’s said “no.” Now what this told me was that Julie is indeed female and Tom is male, which I considered a positive result in terms of their compatibility. So we were off to a good start.

      But then came question number two. What is your favorite candy bar? Julie said “Nutrageous.” And Tom said “Payday.” I know that on the surface this might seem good, both bars having nuts and all, but let me ask you, what type of person likes Payday? An independent thinker. Maybe a little too independent.

      I moved on to question three. If you were a character on the Brady Bunch, which one would you be? Julie said “Jan.” And Tom said, “Sam the Butcher.” Tom also added, “Cause he’s the one with all the meat.” Jan and Sam the Butcher. Not exactly a match made in heaven, folks.

      Question four. What celebrity do people say you most resemble? Julie said, “Connie Chung.” Tom said, “Moby, with a thyroid problem.” At this point, not only was I questioning their compatibility, I was seriously questioning Tom’s mental stability. I mean what was I going to say for their toast? Congratulations Connie and Moby? I can’t endorse that.

      So I moved on to the fifth question. I asked Julie, “Why is Tom the right person for you?” And she said, “Because he’s like my other half. We see the world the same way, like the same things, share the same sense of humor. But most of all it just feels “right” when I’m with him.”

      And I asked Tom, “Why is Julie the right person for you?” And he said, “Because, no matter how much love I give to her, I get it back double. And then some. Because, with her, I can finally see my future and a life I can’t wait to live. Because being with her is as easy as breathing and just as necessary for me to live. She is everything to me. Everything.”

      After I read those answers, I thought to myself… Payday? Maybe. Maybe Payday and Nutrageous can walk off in the sunset together and one day have beautiful chewy, peanut-buttery children. Maybe there’s a reason Sam the Butcher never married Alice. Maybe he had his eyes on Jan the whole time. Who knows.

      But honestly, I obviously was having a little fun with this survey, but when I did read those answers and as I read them today, I was and am moved by Julie’s and Tom’s obvious love for one another.

      I’ve known Tom for 20 years, and I can honestly say he is one of the kindest, funniest, most wonderful people I have ever known, and I’ve never seen him happier than he has been since he met you Julie. I can’t tell you how proud and honored I am to be able to stand up here and toast your future together.

      To Tom and Julie, may you support one another as best friends, may you always create joy for each other, and may you have a long life of love and happiness.”

      So, there you go. There weren’t many dry eyes in the house, let me tell you. It may not work for your brother and best man, but I think it really addresses where their heart should be when they do write theirs.

      I hope this helps!

43. QUESTION:
    questions about wedding toasts?
    can other people give toasts besides the best man and maid or honor?
    when a toast is given should i be about the couple or should the maid of honor share personal stories about the bride and best man about the groom?

    • ANSWER:
      here is a website that will really help you with the whole wedding toasts thing.

      http://www.elegala.com/go/ideas_advice/for/toasts/

44. QUESTION:
    what are some great Italian drinking toasts or cheers besides salute?
    I’m looking for toasts young Italians would say at a bar, not wedding toasts.

    All I’ve heard was alla gioccia which I think literally translates to the drop, but is supposed to be more “to the last drop” Do people say that?

    What else?!

    • ANSWER:
      We also say “cin cin” (cheen cheen) that means nothing in Italian but it is a very common expression, otherwise someone says “prosit” which is a Latin expression that stands for “may it be good” however it is very rare nowadays and a sign of a certain elegance and culture…

      “alla goccia” instead is not exactly a toast, it means that you have to drink all in one go…

      Bye ^^

45. QUESTION:
    I want some examples of wedding toasts to groomsmen. Any ideas?i?

    • ANSWER:
      Off the top of my head (from the groom – can be altered if someone else is toasting the groomsmen):

      “Let us toast to these fine men and the lifelong friendship they have brought to me. May our bond only strengthen as this endearing friendship broadens to forever welcome my most wonderful and beatiful bride. Cheers!”

      “A toast to the groomsmen. May the joy my bride and I share today also be part of your life forever. May the new roof above us never cave in and may our friends gathered below it, who are here today, never fall out.”

      “A toast to the groomsmen. May the riches my wonderful wife and I experience today be spread amongst my dear friends who deserve all the riches in the world.”

      “May my groomsmen be blessed with a life full of greatness and may our children be blessed with rich parents!”

      Good luck to you!

46. QUESTION:
    who usually does the toasts at the wedding.?
    so who usually does the toasts at the wedding.
    i was thinking my fiances dad, my mum, best man, maid of honour and my fiance and i do one speech together.
    is this to many or not enough?
    what order do you do them in?

    Thank you!!
    my dad passed away when i was younger so my mum will be giving me away. that is why i am having her do a toast.

    • ANSWER:
      I don’t think it needs to be set in stone as to who “has to” or who “should” give the speeches.

      In the majority of the weddings that I’ve been to, the speeches have been given by the best man and maid of honor. But that doesn’t mean that’s how its meant to be. My parents didn’t do speeches at either of my brothers weddings, and neither did the parents of their wives, but that doesn’t mean it shouldn’t or can’t be done.

      I don’t see anything wrong with what you’re proposing, but I think it may be a lot to do them all in a row unless all of them are short & sweet since a lot of couples do this when people are eating (or getting ready to) so people are either going to be eating cold food or getting antsy because they’re hungry.

      This is how I’d do them (which may differ from your preference or anyone elses)

      Just before dinner:

      Best Man
      Maid of Honor

      During dinner or near end of dinner:

      Your mum.
      His dad.

      After dinner or just before the “dances” start (if you’re doing them)

      Your FH & you

47. QUESTION:
    Good humorous traditional wedding toast?
    I am going to give a toast at the wedding of two good friends later this month. Anyone know of any good, traditional, funny wedding toasts?
    Nina, get a life.

    • ANSWER:
      Don’t over think it.. Any canned speech seems impersonal and gets less laughs. Try not read off of note cards unless you have a bulleted list.

      Here are a few themes you can start with:
      — “i’ve known “groom” for X years and i can tell you he’s made some really dumb decisions….” go into some dumb, funny things he’s done and wrap it up with the first good decision is getting married
      — top 10 reasons “bride/groom’ should get married
      — before you get married, here are some things you should know about “groom”… go into some wierd/funny things, end with “he loves you” “never seen him so happy”, etc
      — “‘Bride” thank you for making this guy a better man” go into how she’s made him a better man….

48. QUESTION:
    do you have any wedding toast tips for maid of honor?
    My maid of honor needs a little help with her wedding toast. I’m having toast instead of speeches, so that my wedding party isn’t up talking too long. Do you have a tips for her? Thank you

    • ANSWER:
      Crucial – keep it short! It will make it much easier on her and the guests.

      I gave an MOH toast a couple of weeks ago. I described the moment when I knew the bride and groom were right for each other. I decided to go with sweet instead of trying to crack jokes.

      Practice, practice, practice. I did the toast for my boyfriend, for the other bridesmaids, and about 50 times in front of my mirror – and I was still nervous!

49. QUESTION:
    How does this sound for a wedding toast?
    I’m the Matron of Honor at my Mom’s wedding at the end of the month and I’m making a toast to them. Here’s what I have, let me know what you think or if you think I need to add or subtract anything. Thanks !!

    “When my Mom first told me about Rik, I could tell he was someone very special to her. After listening to a list of his many virtues, the one that stood out the most to me was that he always made her laugh.From their first date at Grandaddy’s Antique’s to “urgent client issues” that resulted in a laundry room proposal, Mom and Rik have laughed all the way through it and taken on all challenges with smiles and unwavering support for one another. My mother has always been a wonderful woman and today I’m glad to be here to witness her marriage to the wonderful man that she’s chosen to spend her life with. Rik, through your loving commitment to my mother and your great sense of humor you’ve made yourself family. Here’s to laughing together for the rest of your lives!!”

    • ANSWER:
      I absolutely love it : ) Its really sweet. I am a hopeless romantic and i think its fine the way it is!

50. QUESTION:
    Can you show me some examples of some wedding toasts made by the Maid of Honor?

    • ANSWER:
      Jenny, I’m telling you
      This is your last chance
      To escape the adult world
      Of marriage and romance.

      Jenny, I’ve found it
      The stuff of a dream
      We can return to childhood
      In a shiny time machine.

      We’ll just set the dial
      Back to the year we turned ten
      It will be fun to return to the days
      When we were gymnastic friends.

      You’ve been like my big sister
      From the very day we met
      Neither time nor place nor marital state
      Could ever make me forget.

      I long to write you OTESNAY
      In a cursive little girl’s hand
      Back when we felt like wallflowers
      Who would never find a man.

      We could rekindle our debates
      That lasted through the day
      About the merits of our coach, Jack
      Whether or not he was o.k.

      Remember how we worried
      That we would bloom too late?
      As through junior and senior high school
      We passed with too few dates.

      But bloom we did,
      It worked out fine
      And now you’ve found
      Your permanent Valentine.

      It’s no surprise you’ve found him
      That you’ve managed to capture his heart
      How could any man resist someone
      So creative, beautiful and smart?

      Ryan seems the perfect guy for you
      The tall dark boy from Michigan
      He calms you and helps you decorate
      Soon he’ll turn you into a big sports fan.

      It was so appropriate
      Such a happy thought for me
      That the night before my wedding
      You became a bride-to-be!

      And now as your Matron of Honor
      I’m so happy you have found
      A terrific guy in Ryan
      He turns your world around.

      So now as I think further
      Maybe we don’t have to go
      Back to those days of leotards
      And standing on one toe!

      Let’s leave the time machine alone
      Even though it would be a great trick
      We have so much to enjoy right now
      Save that box for a science fiction flick.

      I won’t say this in Pig Latin
      I want everyone to hear
      That I wish you a perfect wedding
      And a marriage that lasts 100 years

      ————————————————————————————–
      Good evening everyone. I have to admit that I’m a little bit nervous, so to make myself feel better, I’m imagining that you are all naked.

      I have to warn that the content of this speech may be offensive to those of you who don’t know Cheryl very well, so please accept my apologies.

      When Cheryl first asked me to be her maid of honor, the first thought that went through my head was…

      - What had I done to be blessed with such an honor?

      And then I got suspicious and thought…

      - Who had dropped out at the last minute?

      - Had all her other friends left the country AND

      - Could I say NO and still get invited to the wedding, but more importantly to the reception?

      I’ve been the maid of honor in four weddings now and I’ve always followed the book of wedding etiquette, which states that the maid of honor should NOT, under ANY circumstances, roast the bride….but I’m going to make an exception to the rule at THIS wedding, besides, it’s all the more fun now, because Ernie’s already married her and it’s too late!

      But, before I continue with Cheryl’s character assassination, I thought I should talk about Cheryl’s life story from the time she was born to present day:

      Cheryl was born in 1968, grew up in San Francisco, got a job at Federated, met Ernie, got married. Well that about sums it up. Let’s move on to the fun stuff, shall we?

      Actually, I’m not going to tell you any embarrassing stories about Cheryl today because (1) I respect her too much (Who put that in there?) (2) we’ve only got this place until midnight.

      Instead, I’d like to share with you a few of the most valuable things I’ve learned from Cheryl in the 10 years that I’ve known her.

      #1 Etiquette- Anyone who has been around Cheryl for even the shortest period of time can relate to what I’m about say….The first time that I ever heard Cheryl belch, I RAN FOR COVER! Some people (and I use the word “some” loosely), find her incessant belching rather disturbing, including her own mother, but what’s even more disturbing to me is that Cheryl doesn’t find it even REMOTELY abnormal that her belches have the ability to clear an entire room! Let’s just hope she displays some will power tonight.

      #2 Things You Should NOT Do at a Softball Game – I think Cheryl sometimes gets her softball games mixed up with her weekly Lambada and River Dancing lessons. Cheryl’s “theory” on hitting is based on her belief that the more movement you make while you are batting, the better your chances of getting a good hit. THAT theory has yet to be proven. IF, by chance, she happens to make it to first base by some freak of nature, she has no reservations with yelling out to her team, “Who’s your daddy?!”. But alas, the most entertaining part of playing softball with Cheryl is listening to her creative excuses as she’s walking back to the dugout after she has just struck out once AGAIN like….

      I swear, if that umpire shows up drunk just ONE more time! OR

      Well, if it wasn’t for me, we’d be first place every year. How boring would THAT be? and my personal favorite…

      Ya know, I’m just a RINGER trying NOT to stand out.

      #3 Learning to Laugh at Yourself – Cheryl has taught me how to laugh at myself. This would be better translated as Cheryl laughing at me hysterically because she’s convinced me to do something to publicly embarrass myself like the time we went to look for the bridesmaid’s dresses and she insisted that I try on the most hideous dress she could find in the entire store, if not the entire planet. Not only was this dress hideous, but it was 10 times my normal size. As I walked out from the fitting room wearing the M&M green dress, green because Cheryl thought the color would compliment my yellow skin, I thought, “Kim, you have sunk to an all time low”. But, if wearing the dress wasn’t torture enough, for her added amusement, Cheryl then tells me to put one of the poofy sleeves of the dress, which closely resembled a shower cap, on my head. Having no mind of my own, I did it! Of course timing is everything because as soon as I placed the “shower cap” sleeve on my head, the owner comes upstairs and catches me doing the catwalk with this ridiculous dress on. Cheryl, as always, plays innocence and leaves the store looking like a perfect angel. As I was being escorted out of the store telling the owner that I’d been kicked out of better places than this, all I can remember are the tears streaming down Cheryl’s face and her telling the owner as she was shaking her head, “Some people….Such a shame!”. But she didn’t fool me. I knew these tears were tears of laughter.

      #4 The Meaning of Friendship – Cheryl has taught me that friendship, next to watching a Giant’s game, slurpees, a fine restaurant that serves onion rings, and Puma shoes, is the most important thing in life. Well, at least I’m up there with the onion rings.

      Seriously though, Cheryl is a beautiful person inside and out. I’ve had the pleasure of being Cheryl’s friend for many years and I will always cherish the wonderful times I’ve spent with her. Cheryl, I want you to know that you’re like a sister to me and I love you very much. You’ve always been there for me and I hope our friendship only flourishes in the years to come. I’m so happy that you’ve found “your little lamb” Ernie.

      I would like to finish by offering some advice for a successful and happy marriage. Always remember to say those 3 important little words……………..”You’re right dear”

      On behalf of the bride and groom, I’d like to thank everyone here for sharing their day, and it now gives me great pleasure to invite you all to stand and raise your glasses in a toast to Ernie and Cheryl, Mr. and Mrs. Dijamco. We wish them well for the future, and hope they enjoy a long and happy marriage.

      Ernie and Cheryl.

      There’s more, but you get the idea. There’s lots of sites with lots of examples. Good luck!!