Frequently Asked Questions

1. QUESTION:
   Can anyone PLEASE come up with a cute saying for a golf wedding invitation and a western wedding invitation??
   My cousin is getting married on the golf course her and her fiance’ met at and we are trying to come up with invitations that are cute and go with the theme. My aunt is also having a wester themed wedding and any help on that invite would be greatly appreciated! Thanks so much!!!

   • ANSWER:
     well, i have racked my brain for days and still cant come up with a golf saying…

     for the western theme, you could do…
     so and so are tying the knot…
     and have western style lassos with knots around the border and for decorations

     if you wanted something funny (although not very formal) you could put…
     Aunt “Linda” has roped(lassoed) in her man…

     not much i know but it is all i could come up with. you could use the first for the wedding invite and the second for a bridal shower or bachelorette party invite.

     hope this might help inspire more answers

2. QUESTION:
   I am looking for a western wedding invitation?
   IT CONTAINS THE WORDS PUT ON YOUR COWBOY HAT, SLIP INTO UR BOOT SOMETHING ABOUT GETTING HITCHED BUT I CAN NOT REMEMBER THE WEB SITE. HELP. THANK YOU

   • ANSWER:
     check out “invitations by dawn”. they have a website and they have all kinds of invites.
     they may not have that exact look but they will be able to customize the design.

3. QUESTION:
   Where can I found blank invitations for my wedding?
   I am looking for paper, that has a heart, hat and flowers. For my wedding invitations, I just wanted the paper so I can print the words.
   Anyone know where I can find this???????
   Any kind of cardstock with embossing or design, with western, and hearts will do.

   Thanks

   • ANSWER:
     They have all types of blank invitations. Look around and get some ideas.

     http://www.paperdirect.com

     There’s a cute bandana paper frame here:

     http://www.paperdirect.com/Bandana+PaperFrames+/item_no=PF1738P/cid=982/page_no=3/shop.axd/ProductDetails

4. QUESTION:
   Wording for a western style wedding reception if already married?
   My boyfriend proposed this past Saturday and we are looking to get married with only our parents and brothers and sisters at the Court house followed by a reception with friends please help with western style wording for the invitation.

   Thanks!

   • ANSWER:
     We’re getting hitched down at the courthouse and only our really good pals are invited. You guys are welcome to mosey on down to the bar later that night so long as you bring yer own likker and a fancy present.

5. QUESTION:
   western clothing for a western wedding?
   I am going to a western themed wedding in a couple weeks and the invitation says to wear designer western clothing?

   Any ideas what I could wear and where I could get it?

   I’m clueless – thanks!!

   • ANSWER:
     check out this site. It will help you a lot

     http://www.rentonww.com/Wedding-c3-p3.html?&Customer_id=1760912&st3=XKWJC821719037&

     here is the site for wedding attire:

     http://www.rentonww.com/Wedding-DressesSets-c135-p3,134,135.html?

     I know that is the bride dresses, but if you go to the top tab under “Womens” it will show you or at least give you an idea. Do you not have a Western store near you????

6. QUESTION:
   Advice on save the dates and Invitations for my wedding!!!?
   Country-Western wedding. We were originally going to make the invitatios as a WANTED poster with each persons pic on them, but that was when we were going for the bar-b-que menu, more “down home” style. We are having it in an anitque barn at a nice venue and the menu I like is called “The Southern Belle” menu which is still “country” but not “Western.” What would you think if you recieved a WANTED poster for a wedding invite? (Most everyone knows it will be a country-western wedding). Which save-the -dates and invites do you like the most? (I think my fave is the branded one) Oh and I will be wearing cowboy boots under my dress

   Save the Dates

   http://www.invitationsbydawn.com/CasPage1B.cfm?sEnsembleCode=CasEns06001&page=1&strcontinue=yes&strsearch=yes&format=STDCasEnsDD&vid=60899012F2

   http://www.invitationsbydawn.com/CasPage1B.cfm?sEnsembleCode=CasEns05762&page=2&strcontinue=yes&strsearch=yes&format=STDCasEnsDD&vid=60899012F2

   http://www.invitationsbydawn.com/CasPage1B.cfm?sEnsembleCode=CasEns04617&page=2&strcontinue=yes&strsearch=yes&format=STDCasEnsDD&vid=60899012F2

   Invitations

   http://www.invitationsbydawn.com/We_ViewEns.cfm?sItemCode=WedEns4246&sCatalogCode=WedEnsDD&iStartRow=1&lCriteria=3303&strcontinue=yes&strsearch=yes&format=WedEnsDDa&vid=60899012F2

   http://www.invitationsbydawn.com/We_ViewEns.cfm?sItemCode=WedEns7364&sCatalogCode=WedEnsDD&iStartRow=1&lCriteria=3303&strcontinue=yes&strsearch=yes&format=WedEnsDDa&vid=60899012F2

   http://www.invitationsbydawn.com/We_ViewEns.cfm?sItemCode=WedEns6224&sCatalogCode=WedEnsDD&iStartRow=1&lCriteria=3303&strcontinue=yes&strsearch=yes&format=WedEnsDDa&vid=60899012F2

   Program, menu, thank you notes

   http://www.invitationsbydawn.com/We_ViewEns.cfm?sItemCode=WedEns6089&sCatalogCode=WedEnsDD&iStartRow=1&lCriteria=3303&strcontinue=yes&strsearch=yes&format=WedEnsDDa&vid=60899012F2

   http://www.invitationsbydawn.com/ProductCluster.cfm?prev=1&TempPrev=0&blnPreviewRequestSubmitted=0&recordsperpage=48&CompletedOrder=0&sBasketID=0&ClusterItem=Clust5761&alogo=1&menu=none&morethanonepage=YES&HostDomain=0&FirstTimeThrough=1&option=ProductCluster.cfm&format=PG0250&bShoppingOn=1&Cluster=Clust5761&vid=60899012F2&CFID=63363494&CFTOKEN=18981689

   • ANSWER:
     Hi again:

     I like:

     Save the Dates – #2
     Invitations – #2

     I would try to coordinate the program, menu, thank you notes possibly with a different company. I like the horseshoe…not the Wanted poster.

     Just my opinion……

7. QUESTION:
   Need a little verse to put in with wedding invitations ?
   we dont need gifts as we have already got every thing we would like people to put a little some thing towards our trip to western australia then bali everyone is a close friend or family member so one will be offended just need a hand in putting it together as im no good with this sort of thing thank you

   • ANSWER:
     Hi

     As you are an Aussie we accept this more readily than other countries. It has been going on here for some years and I’m never offended when I have given a gift (money) to the happy couple. I would rather see them get something they want then something they don’t.
     Try various websites and mix and match what you feel may express your request nicely. You may even find that as you are doing it something nice will just pop into your head.
     Just remember not to include it on the actual invitation but with an accompanying letter/note.
     If it offends then those people should seriously not partake in your celebration.

     Cya

8. QUESTION:
   Looking for wedding invitations with stars on them.?
   I booked my venue yesterday and now I want to get going on the invitations. I’m getting married this August so I’ve got to get moving on this. My theme is “I love you more than all the stars” So I want an invite with stars on it but all I can manage to find are starfish and country western themed stars. I don’t know that it matters but colors arent decided yet. I’m thinking either “Black, White and Green” or “Hot Pink and Lime Green” or “Cotton Candy Colors” Help please!

   • ANSWER:

     http://search.magnetstreet.com/search?department=517#w=stars&asug=&department=517

     hopefully the search that I did comes up correctly.

     either way, I went to magnetstreet.com and searched for stars. Anything of theirs is customizable in colors, font, wording, etc.

     We used them for our save the date magnets. We were going to use them for our invitations as well because the samples we got (that were free) were awesome, but then i went to a bridal show and found someone that did hand made invitations and we went with her instead.

9. QUESTION:
   Does the Western concept of a wedding bother anyone else?
   You’re expected to spend thousands, endure the stress, send out invitations to people you’ll only see once a year (at the wedding) and people you don’t even want to see once a year (that uncle who is a complete tool)

   Then after the long elaborate ceremony, which is supposed to be the high point of your marriage, things go downhill from there. You start discovering crap about the wifey that she carefully hid before the wedding. Then you’re slapped across the face with 60% divorce rate, and wifey tears you a new asshole and takes your money.

   Then she further spits in your newly torn asshole by winning the kids and keeping them from you.

   I think the concept of marriage is no longer applicable in the modern Western consumer-driven society.

   • ANSWER:
     Wow, bitter much?
     Personally, I think the large expensive wedding that is more to appease guests and pay social obligations than it is for the bride and groom is crap. My wedding was very inexpensive and included only close friends and the family we wanted. It was not the high point of our marriage, it was only the starting point.
     And let’s look at the glass as half (or 40%) full. If 60% end in divorce, that means that the other 40% make it (or at least end when one person dies, which is how it’s supposed to end anyway). Anyone who wants to be in that 40% (and I do) will have shown all their ugliness to their partner well in advance of marching down the aisle (or down the back porch steps, as I did). That way, both people know what they’re getting, and if they’re willing to endure a lifetime of each other at their best, worst and all points in between, then there’s less chance of ending up a divorce statistic.
     You just have to take your vows more seriously. As I have told my husband during some of the hard times, I did not stand in front of God and everybody we care about and vow to be with him in the good times, when it’s easy and convenient. We vowed to be there for each other through worse, poorer and sickness too, as long as we both shall live. That means we can leave each other when we die and not a second before. I ain’t dead, so I ain’t going anywhere.

10. QUESTION:
    I need Black and Lime Green invitations!?!? Where??
    It’s a quinceanera but sometimes wedding invitations can work… My theme is Western so it would be my ideal invitation if it could be a black boot! Keep in mind my colors are black and lime green…. If you have any ideas or suggestions tell me=] Best Answer 10pts.! thanks.

    • ANSWER:
      Have you thought about going to kinkos? They have a wide variety of plain and detailed colors you could put together yourself they will even help you get creative. I made my own wedding invitations and printed them at kinkos they came out unique and wonderful.

11. QUESTION:
    Wearing Red to Vietnamese Wedding OK?
    I am going to a Catholic Vietnamese wedding. The bride is wearing a Western style white dress. I don’t know about the bridesmaids, but the groomsmen will be wearing black with red accents. My male significant other is a groomsman and I wanted to wear something that didn’t clash with what he will be wearing. I don’t have much else to wear but black and a bright red dress I just altered.

    I’ve seen plenty of strong opinions against wearing white, but I’m not wearing white! I’ve seen about half-and-half on black, which is my back up. I’ve seen snooty opinions about the attention-grabbing properties of red. But I assume with how red the wedding invitations are that the wedding decor may be red, I thought I might actually blend in!

    Does anyone have anything to offer from a specifically Vietnamese American point of view, or have you been to such a wedding?

    • ANSWER:

12. QUESTION:
    What is the best way to invite our wedding guests to a brunch the following morning after the wedding?
    I’m typing all the accommodations on a notecard to place in the envelope with the wedding invitations and direction cards. I have the hotel info and price, the transportation info (we are providing shuttles to and from the wedding from the hotel) and lastly, I am informing the guests of a brunch the next morning. I can’t figure out how I should word it though. So far I came up with…
    The bride and groom would like to invite everyone that stays overnight to join them in the Best Western’s private Garden Room for breakfast as a way to show our appreciation.
    Should I state the date, or just say, “the morning after the wedding?”
    Should I set a time? The wedding ends at 12am and then we are paying the hotel to keep the bar open. So, 10-10:30am should be the earliest right? I want to make it convenient for the guests with the check-out time too (12 noon).
    Should I not say “everyone that stays overnight?”
    What do you think? My brains fried with all this! Nothing sounds right anymore!

    • ANSWER:
      The bride and groom invite you to join them on Sunday* morning at 10 a.m. for a farewell breakfast in the Best Western’s private Garden Room.

      *i’m assuming your wedding is on a saturday.

13. QUESTION:
    How do I tell the bride that some of her ideas for the wedding are tacky?
    I am the maid of honor in a wedding. It is on July 11, 2009. She is so stressed but she isn’t really doing much with planning, one or two things per week. She wants to have a country western theme wedding. Not my style, but it sounds neat. I have spent hours online researching ideas for this. She couldn’t find a church, so yesterday she gave up and booked a pavilion from 9-12 pm in a park on the lake. That’s a nice idea. She just assumed the mayor would marry them, but she found out today that he can’t. She wants the wedding guests (she doesn’t even have a list yet!) to sit at picnic tables for the ceremony. I have gotten info on chair rentals for per chair and an arch and podium for . She wants to decorate the pavilion before the wedding ( i guess sometime in between getting the food to the reception, getting hair done, getting dressed and getting her 2 kids ready). She is having the reception at the local VFW. She has the hall from 3-11 and wants to have people go to the reception right after the wedding where she said she will have chips and stuff for like an appetizer. That is crazy to me, a reception from 3-11 with dinner at 4. I suggested a pig roast to go with the country theme, but she doesn’t want the “hassle”, yet she wanted to make all the food herself! I finally talked her out of catering the wedding herself (that is a horrible idea), but now she is complaining about the caterers charging 0 for two types of meat for 130 people. That is a great price! I offered to help her do the salad, rolls, a pasta salad and the green beans ourselves. She was going to charge people to drink at the wedding. Now she is just going to get 2 kegs and put on the invitation ” bring liquor if you want it”.The bridesmaids dresses are too fancy for her theme ( light blue with a sheer blue overlay and a rhinestone broach type accent under the boobs)and will look awkward with this super casual wedding.
    I know this is not my wedding, but it seems like she is really trying to skimp on everything. She has not set a budget whatsoever, so it is hard to help her to do things. She complains no one is helping her plan, but I am doing quite a bit. I can’t hold her hand and stand over her to make sure things get done. I suggested pushing the wedding back til September but she said no way! The theme is great but her antics and mismatched ideas are going to make it look more redneck than country/western. I think it will be tacky, but I don’t know what to say to her. I have tried little things, but nothing seems to get through to her. i am always sending her info on places to call: caterers, churches, djs, etc. Please help me! I want her to have a nice wedding, but still be inexpensive! I know we can do it.
    I put together a wedding planner I found on Todays Bride. I mad a customized cover that reflect her theme and I put it through a binding machine. I don’t think she has even opened it.

    You are all giving wonderful advise!
    I don’t want her to do it my way, but I also want her to have a nice wedding. She cares about what people think. I just want her to start putting this thing together. She keeps saying no one is helping, but she needs to help herself too!

    • ANSWER:
      Tell her that you will spread the word about the BYOB – it would be ridiculous to put that on an invite – as you obviously realize. As for the bridesmaid dresses, simply speak up and say that you think it may be a bit too much for what she has planned.

      As for the scatter brain attempt at everything else, ask what tasks you can specifically make yours. Maybe that will help her focus and not leave so many ideas out there for her. If she picked you as her MOH, I would assume that she loves and respects you, sit her down and tell her you want this to be a beautiful, special day for her and you are worried that it may not come together as she thinks it will.

14. QUESTION:
    ok i am losing it lol. I need help.?
    I am doing my own invitations for my wedding. and i dont want the traditional “we request your presence at our (yawn)…….we are having a western wedding and i want something like saddle up ur horses we’re riding to the wind type thing hehe. thats funny. please help. thanks
    i would like examples to go off of thanks.

    • ANSWER:
      *giggle*

      Here are some things I found on the website I’ve attached in sources:

      “Two-Stepping” our way
      into a new life…
      the dance will begin
      for a husband and wife.

      Please join us,
      BRIDE and GROOM
      when we get married on
      DATE
      TIME
      LOCATION
      ADDRESS
      CITY, STATE

      BRIDE
      and
      GROOM
      are gettin’ hitched!
      Please join us in this celebration
      and witness their vows
      on DATE
      YEAR
      at TIME
      LOCATION
      ADDRESS
      CITY, STATE

      Please join the round-up
      of friends and kin
      to celebrate the day
      our new life will begin!

      BRIDE
      and
      GROOM
      invite you to c’mon over
      for a big wedding to-do
      on DATE
      at TIME
      LOCATION
      ADDRESS
      CITY, STATE

      The woo’in and the courtin’s done
      Our life together has begun.
      BRIDE
      and
      GROOM
      request the honour of your presence
      as they tie the knot
      on DAY
      YEAR
      at TIME
      LOCATION
      ADDRESS
      CITY, STATE

      The trail winds onward through the hills
      from here to prairies end;
      Will our journey ever last?
      As long as you’re my love, my friend.
      BRIDE
      and
      GROOM
      invite you to share
      in the joy of our marriage
      on DAY
      YEAR
      at TIME
      LOCATION
      ADDRESS
      CITY, STATE

      Aaaaaand some more:

      Out of wind and prairie dust,
      a cactus flower stands:
      a tribute to our love so true
      are elements it will withstand.
      BRIDE
      and
      GROOM
      invite you to share in the joy
      when they exchange marriage vows
      on DAY
      YEAR
      at TIME
      LOCATION
      ADDRESS
      CITY, STATE

      Let’s join our hands – form a ring
      let’s stamp our feet – dance and sing!
      With joyful praise to
      the Loving One who created us
      BRIDE
      and
      GROOM
      invite you to join the circle of celebration
      as we unite our hands, hearts, and heritage
      on DAY
      YEAR
      at TIME
      LOCATION
      ADDRESS
      CITY, STATE

      You could also make it in the form of a WANTED poster:

      WANTED
      A posse alive and willing
      to witness the marryin’ of – - -

15. QUESTION:
    Does the western concept of marriage bother anyone else?
    You’re expected to spend thousands, endure the stress, send out invitations to people you’ll only see once a year (at the wedding) and people you don’t even want to see once a year (that uncle who is a complete tool)

    Then after the long elaborate ceremony, which is supposed to be the high point of your marriage, things go downhill from there. You accidentally have a sexual relationship with another woman, and the wifey is UNFORGIVING and MERCILESS, and decides to tear you a new asshole with a divorce

    Then she further spits in your newly torn asshole by winning the kids and keeping them from you.

    I think the concept of marriage is no longer applicable in the modern Western consumer-driven society with women who don’t forgive infidelity and care about money from the divorce.

    • ANSWER:
      “You’re expected to spend thousands, endure the stress, send out invitations to people you’ll only see once a year (at the wedding) and people you don’t even want to see once a year (that uncle who is a complete tool)”

      I think you are being a bit presumptuous. The people at my wedding were family and friends. We spent 0 total on it.

      “Then after the long elaborate ceremony, which is supposed to be the high point of your marriage, things go downhill from there.”

      That’s the wrong way of thinking. The wedding is NOT the high point of the marriage. And my wedding was something like 30-45 minutes.

      “You accidentally have a sexual relationship with another woman, and the wifey is UNFORGIVING and MERCILESS, and decides to tear you a new asshole with a divorce”

      Like what, you were just walking by this womans bed naked, she naked on the bed, and you just tripped over something that made you go into her?

      “Then she further spits in your newly torn asshole by winning the kids and keeping them from you.”

      You should have thought about what your getting naked and doing the nasty with some other woman would have done to your wife and kids before, oh, I don’t know, actually DOING IT.

      “I think the concept of marriage is no longer applicable in the modern Western consumer-driven society with women who don’t forgive infidelity and care about money from the divorce.”

      As though you’d forgive some woman for cheating on you.

16. QUESTION:
    Would you ever ask for a gift from guests for your wedding?
    Apparently, my friend’s family were given an invitation to go to a wedding and there was this little paper attached to it. It was called “GIFT IDEAS”. Here’s what it said:
    “Please donate generously towards the AR foundation and make our day a little more special.
    Alternatively you may wish to follow the western tradition and bring a gift. Visit www.richanna.net for a list of ideas and contact Anna & Richard for further details & confirmation.
    All gifts are appreciated no matter the shape or form, how large or small the donation. ”

    Anna & Richard are the bride and groom. There’s no such thing as the AR foundation. They are just bloody asking for a gift or a donation to keep for THEMSELVES. If it was given to charity, they would actually tell what charity they were giving it to. Also, wedding gifts to charity? My ASS. I mean who does that?
    They are also asking us WHERE to get it. Bloody go on a site which is named RICHanna.net which is apparantely THEIRS.
    Its like some bloggy-type site. To top this up, the AR foundation is actually a ‘foundation’ to support their wedding needs. One gift idea they listed is a Intergrated Home Theatre Receiver. Is this what they are expecting from people? This isnt even to charity. If the AR foundation was to charity, then I wouldn’t post this up BUT COME ON GET A LIFE. Anna&Richard, I declare you a SCARY, GREEDY, UNREALISTIC couple I have ever seen in my whole wedding experience in my whole entire LIFE.
    If I were the guests, I would just gonna give them an empty envelope or a piece of crap from my dog.
    Long live Anna & Richard ! Have fun asking for more gifts in the future ! See you at the wedding.

    • ANSWER:
      I was once associated with a Bride whose “formal china pattern” was so expensive it was labeled “special order” on her bridal registry list. This pattern was so cost prohibitive that she did not even receive the salt and pepper shakers to this set. Needless to say, the bridal shower and wedding guests had more common sense than she did. And here’s the most surprising thing about this scenario . . she really expected her guests to purchase this china. She really thought her guests would buy her “anything and everything.”

      In cases like this, the wedding gift envelope should be addressed to:
      Mr and Mrs. Greedy

      Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant

17. QUESTION:
    Dear Householders, do you agree that Wedding in the Family is THE most Stressful time of your married life?
    All differences with your spouse, henceforth swept under carpet, manage to come to the fore! There are clashes of tastes, methods, styles…each one wanting to do things his/her way…refusing to budge (at least till tempers cool!)…beginning with the number of invitation cards to print and its design.

    Bewildered children do not know which side to take…groom-to-be included!

    I must clarify here that I’m talking of an Indian Wedding…where parents still run the show (or stall things before they pick momentum!). I gather, in Western cultures things are different…

    How can one make the whole process tension-free…yet have one’s own way! Please suggest some good diplomatic techniques in Tact )

    Non-parents/to-be married-couples are also welcome to try!

    Thanks in advance!!!
    Children have been consulted at every step of the way! They agree to the traditional wedding and will go with all the rites and rituals. Its the preparation that’s taking its toll! Groom wants mother to be in charge…father feels resentful. Its not that he is being sidelined, yet, he being ‘unworldly’ sort can’t give helpful inputs…keeping with the times! He’s been so busy wooing Science that he never saw things changing!!! His ego is prooving to be one big stumbling block…that wife can’t move. Groom is now upset with mother for her failure!

    Complicated situation!!!
    Thanks Una Hora…your best wishes couldn’t come at a better time!!!
    Studious: I had to go underground…for the reasons clearly mentioned, Son! Some people think it funny to follow you around and writing amorous notes…which are least wanted!!!

    I thoroughly enjoyed the video ) Thanks for the laughs! Wonderful canine!!!
    Indeed, nina, I have seen that movie! Thoroughly enjoyable…when it happens to others, LOL!

    LOL @ psyengine’s idea! Sounds like a wrestling match )

    • ANSWER:
      When my brother was getting married our house was in utter chaos. Scratched lists, papers strewn all over, Paa suggesting one thing, Maa vetoing, Maa saying something Paa barking her down. I was dragged in to play a witness now and judge then. Brother at one point said he wasn’t interested in marrying and bringing bride home in this pigsty. Harsh words, but effective. Both sobered down.

      Take the middle road. Else, split duties. Do not interfere in another’s area, give opinions only when asked to. Offer praise for a job done well, instead of criticizing the bad one. Win other’s confidence this way then God-Willing there will be no need for backhand techniques.

      Bend down or back step. do what is needed, and see the results.

18. QUESTION:
    Invitation wording?
    sorry i already asked this but keep getting answers about the rsvp part but not the invitation wordings..
    My mom is having a western themed post wedding reception in her back yard… im really not sure how to word it….its going to be in formal and we are not having rsvp cards just going to include a number and email address so people can call or email if they are coming or not

    So ladies how should this be worded?
    Thanks!
    already checked versit.com didnt find anything
    ok no the reception in the back yard will not be after the ceremony.. it will be held a month after

    • ANSWER:
      BRIDE
      and
      GROOM
      are hitched!
      Please join us in a celebration of the couple two-steppin’ into a new life together on,
      DATE
      YEAR
      at TIME
      LOCATION
      ADDRESS
      CITY, STATE

      Please send a “Yee-haw” or an “Aw shoot” by DATE to RSVP PERSON, NUMBER.

19. QUESTION:
    Am I right to view marriage in this way (Read details)?
    You’re expected to spend thousands, endure the stress, send out invitations to people you’ll only see once a year (at the wedding) and people you don’t even want to see once a year (that uncle who is a complete douchebag)

    Then after the long elaborate ceremony, which is supposed to be the high point of your marriage, things go downhill from there. You *ACCIDENTALLY* have sex with another woman, and the wife is unforgiving and cruel, and decides to tear you a new asshole with a divorce

    Then, your c*nt of a wife further spits in your newly torn asshole by winning the kids and keeping them from you.

    I think the concept of marriage is no longer applicable in the modern Western consumer-driven society with women who don’t forgive infidelity and care about $$$ money from the divorce.

    • ANSWER:
      wow would make for a movie…or a book

20. QUESTION:
    Anyone else feel this way about marriage in modern society ????
    You’re expected to spend thousands, endure stress, send out invitations to people you’ll only see once a year ( like that uncle who is a complete douchebag)

    Then after the long elaborate wedding day, which is supposed to be the HIGH POINT of your marriage, things go downhill from there.

    You **accidentally** have sex with another woman, and the wife is unforgiving and merciless, and threatens to tear you a new asshole with a divorce

    And if she wins, she will further spit in your newly torn asshole by winning the kids and keeping them away from you.

    I think the concept of marriage is no longer applicable in the modern, Western consumer-driven society with women who don’t forgive infidelity and care about $$$$ money from the divorce.
    It was accidental, because I did NOT plan on it. So technically, I’m not a cheater.

    • ANSWER:
      I agree. My wife accidentally forgot to tell me she stopped taking the birth control pills. Woman today want it all, and when they don’t feel like they are getting it, it’s all hubby’s doings. The love of money and possessions have taken away the desire to be wife and mother. Unforgiving is the pathway to drama. Just listen to some of the music today’s woman listens to, or the TV shows they watch. Unbelievable to me that “Sex in the City” out-grossed “Indiana Jones” at the box office this weekend. When I walked out of the theater this past Friday, the line to see “Sex in the City” looked like a casting call for “Desperate Housewives” right down to the desperate looks on their faces. God save us.

21. QUESTION:
    Shower invitation help?
    Need Wording for a Wedding shower and bachelorette party held on the same day I need help with wording. The Shower is early noon and the Bachelorette party is in the evening. I need help wording the invitation. The shower is casual nice and the bachelorette party will be western themed. Thanks for your help.

    • ANSWER:
      The first suggestion looks good to me, if you’re inviting everyone to both events. If you’re only inviting some people to both events then you’ll also need separate invitations that don’t list both parties…
      Have fun!

22. QUESTION:
    Indian Dance Recital (bharatanatyam arangetram)?
    My husband’s boss asked us if we wanted to attend his daughter’s dance recital. Our daughter is a similar age, so we thought “sure, why not, no big deal.” Then we got a written invitation, which was more formal than our wedding invite. Suddenly it appears to be a very big deal. It’s called a “bharatanatyam arangetram” We’re still very excited to go, but have no idea what to expect. Also, should we bring some type of gift or are there any cultural things to do or not do associated with this type of event? My daughter and I (who are not Indian) have matching selwar kamise outfits, would it be OK to wear those or should we wear western clothes?

    • ANSWER:
      An arangetram is definitely a big deal in India. An arangetram is like a graduation. In this case, the girl has graduated from the art of bharatanatyam, and this means she has trained under a respected guru (teacher) for around 4 to 6 years. It is best you bring a bouqet and a card that congratulates the girl and western, formal clothes is appreciated.

23. QUESTION:
    Maximum points please help me!!!!?
    Gray dusk of the winter solstice day was gently covering the valley. Scattered sounds of pounding indicated that some of the women were still mashing rice for the little balls they would serve in red bean soup.

    Choon Soo was coming home from returning a neighbor’s sieve when she felt someone following her. She moved faster toward the shelter of her home, straining her ears for sounds behind her. Once she thought she heard faint choking as if someone were trying to speak to her.

    “What do you want?” she said, defying her fear. “You do not need to creep behind me.” There was silence so absolute it seemed she had only been imagining things. Choon Soo entered her house and came out, carrying a little lamp which she held high, her face averted from its glare. The light shone on a shabby man with a bundle under one arm, an umbrella in the other hand. He wore a torn and faded Western coat and Korean trousers, patched on the knees with yellow. A glance was enough to tell her that here was Meng Dol. Not the boy of her early married years, but a thin, tired man, whose gaiety had left him long ago. Her husband, but a husband from whom she had been separated for many years. Had it been this man for whom at every meal time she always found herself cooking an extra bowl of rice as if he would return any moment to join them?

    “It is you,” she said at last. From the fish dealer’s words, she had learned where to find Meng Dol, and when she had written him, her letter did not contain a plea, nor even an invitation, but just the facts of Yang Ho’s wedding, Meng Dol, who had gone away on his own decision, would have to make up his own mind about attending the wedding. She did not really believe he would come.

    As though he had approached too near before calling out to a strange woman, she moved back with several uneasy steps.

    A sudden voice behind him exclaimed, “Who are you?” Yang Ho had come up from the new house where he was checking the fire in the pit of the room.

    With a startled jerk of his shoulder, the man tried to answer. “I am … I am…”

    Yang Ho had come nearer to make sure that he was a stranger and demanded again impatiently, “Who are you?”

    “Is this Yang Ho?” Meng Dol asked quietly.

    Choon Soo held her chin high as she looked at her son and said, “This is Your father. Bow to your father.”

    A frown came on the boy’s face. “What! My fa … ! Did you not say my father was in Manchuria?”

    “I told you that your father left us soon after you were born. He was chasing the spring wind. What he has done in Manchuria and Pusan, I do not know. Bow to him.”

    “But this man could be … Does he say he is my father?” argued Yang Ho stubbornly. As Choon Soo’s eyes stayed on him in command, he bowed ever so slightly. Meng Dol’s hands reached out to his son awkwardly but dropped without reaching him.

    “I did my duty by letting you know of your son’s marriage,” said Choon Soo primly. “Now that you are here, you should know that tomorrow, your son’s wedding day, was set by your old teacher, Pak, who said the early lucky day comes after the longest night shadow of the year. You should also know perhaps that a new house is added to the old one for Yang Ho and his bride, and the village people already call him the newhouse son.”

    Meng Dol stood awkwardly looking beyond the garden patch to the solid mass of new thatched house against the darkening sky. Still uninvited, he walked in weakly and sat down on the porch. His eyes were traveling over his son’s strong wide figure and then over Choon Soo as if comparing them. Then seeing his eyes turned to the velvet shoes, Choon Soo became embarrassed and hurried into the house.

    She had been keeping his velvet wedding shoes on the porch, dusting them every morning as if he were coming back that very day. Remembering the hunger on his face, she soon brought out a tray, on which was a little plate of pickled cabbage and crabs dipped in soya sauce. This she set before her husband, and then fetched the same brass bowl that she had kept filled with warm rice during his absence.

    Without any words, she went back to the kitchen and busied herself with balls of pounded rice she was making for her son. She shaped each ball by pressing and rounding between her palms, then placed it on a large wooden platter. Her fingers trembled as she worked. Each rounded bit of rice meant a year, and there would be eighteen.

    Yang Ho came in and sitting down beside her, began to count the balls.

    “You should sit with your father while he eats,” she told him. “Though he has been away, you should treat him with respect.”

    Later, Choon Soo observed Yang Ho gathering up his bedding to carry to the new house. “Why do you want to move?” she reproached him. “Take blankets to the new ho

    • ANSWER:
      no idea bud. no idea what ur asking help for

24. QUESTION:
    why are his parents hesitant about meeting mine?
    What I’m about to describe isn’t what it seems to a Western perspective, so answers from people who understand (Southeast) Asian culture only, please. We are Indonesians of partial Chinese descent (my father and his mother).

    My fiance and I have been going out for a year. Both his family and mine are aware that we are progressing towards marriage, although no wedding date has been picked yet. My parents love my fiance as if he’s a family member, and his parents love me the same way too. We feel so much at home with each other’s families.

    However, I’ve noticed that his parents have been hesitant about meeting mine. One day my fiance and I had to delay an appointment with my parents unplanned because his mother needed a ride. Since it was in the same direction as where we were meant to meet my parents, when she was done I insisted that she came with us. But she wouldn’t leave the car, so my mother took the initiative to come there and greet her, then gave permission to my fiance to drive her home first before joining us. (Apparently this is not rude according to Asian culture; my parents treated it as no problem and it seemed like I was the only one bothered about it).

    Today is my birthday, so in order to celebrate, my parents want to invite my fiance’s parents for dinner to get properly introduced to each other. Since we’re busy moving out, we’re taking them to a nice restaurant in town. When I asked my fiance whether he’s extended the invitation to his parents, he said his mother agreed but his father is hesitant, so they had to tell him the white lie that the restaurant has already been reserved and that a penalty will have to be paid if he fails to show up. My fiance hasn’t re-checked with his father since he last asked, so the RSVP isn’t fixed yet.

    Why are his parents acting this way? And why do Asians somehow consider this to be normal? Is my family being too aggressive by taking the initiative to get us introduced to each other? I mean, they’d eventually have to meet anyway, right? Why not now? If this is a problem, what can I do to ease the situation?

    In case this helps, my family is economically, academically, and socially better off than his. But that’s really just because my dad studied abroad, worked hard, and looked out for the best job opportunities when he was young; he started off worse off than where my fiance is today. The rest of my extended family are mostly in a similar socioeconomic condition as my fiance’s family. My fiance’s parents didn’t finish college, don’t speak English or any foreign language at all, but got to live in various European countries in the 1980′s-early 2000′s because my fiance’s dad worked for our country’s embassy: hence my fiance’s great education, and now career as a lawyer. I actually have a lot of respect for my fiance’s parents, how against all odds they did a great job in providing a better future for their (now adult) children. I’ve done my best to keep as humble and low profile as possible in his family. After all, it is my parents who are successful and wealthy, not me. Before my parents became like this, we were economically worse off than my fiance’s family now, so unless his parents are acting this way (if this is indeed the cause), then it doesn’t even occur to me that our families are “different”, or that my family is in any way perceived to be “superior”.

    Thank you for kind and considerate answers.

    • ANSWER:
      I think it is true. That is part of their culture of ” shy” or ” not enough confidence yet”. I am from Java Island. Yes we do have that culture. Education and social-economic level is one of the thing that my effect on people’s confidence to meet others in our culture. They need time to get comfortable with people of higher level of education/status.
      Keep being humble, you may start telling them that your parents really want to get to know them. You may ask when is the appropriate time to come over, ask them to help you and your Mom to cook their favorite certain food, etc. Give them opportunity to be the “teacher” for your family. Just find out what specific thing your fiance’s parents good at and tell them that you and your parents (or MOM is better starter) want to learn from them.
      That way they will feel more confidence and slowly they will want to meet your whole family.

      Good luck.

25. QUESTION:
    Why are his parents hesitant about meeting mine?
    What I’m about to describe isn’t what it seems to a Western perspective, so answers from people who understand (Southeast) Asian culture only, please. We are Indonesians of partial Chinese descent (my father and his mother).

    My fiance and I have been going out for a year. Both his family and mine are aware that we are progressing towards marriage, although no wedding date has been picked yet. My parents love my fiance as if he’s a family member, and his parents love me the same way too. We feel so much at home with each other’s families.

    However, I’ve noticed that his parents have been hesitant about meeting mine. One day my fiance and I had to delay an appointment with my parents unplanned because his mother needed a ride. Since it was in the same direction as where we were meant to meet my parents, when she was done I insisted that she came with us. But she wouldn’t leave the car, so my mother took the initiative to come there and greet her, then gave permission to my fiance to drive her home first before joining us. (Apparently this is not rude according to Asian culture; my parents treated it as no problem and it seemed like I was the only one bothered about it).

    Today is my birthday, so in order to celebrate, my parents want to invite my fiance’s parents for dinner to get properly introduced to each other. Since we’re busy moving out, we’re taking them to a nice restaurant in town. When I asked my fiance whether he’s extended the invitation to his parents, he said his mother agreed but his father is hesitant, so they had to tell him the white lie that the restaurant has already been reserved and that a penalty will have to be paid if he fails to show up. My fiance hasn’t re-checked with his father since he last asked, so the RSVP isn’t fixed yet.

    Why are his parents acting this way? And why do Asians somehow consider this to be normal? Is my family being to aggressive by taking this initiative?

    In case this helps, my family is economically, academically, and socially better off than his. But that’s really just because my dad studied abroad, worked hard, and looked out for the best job opportunities when he was young; he started off worse off than where my fiance is today. The rest of my extended family are mostly in a similar socioeconomic condition as my fiance’s family. My fiance’s parents didn’t finish college, don’t speak English or any foreign language at all, but got to live in various European countries in the 1980′s-early 2000′s because my fiance’s dad worked for our country’s embassy: hence my fiance’s great education, and now career as a lawyer. I actually have a lot of respect for my fiance’s parents, how against all odds they did a great job in providing a better future for their (now adult) children. I’ve done my best to keep as humble and low profile as possible in his family. After all, it is my parents who are successful and wealthy, not me. Before my parents became like this, we were economically worse off than my fiance’s family now, so unless his parents are acting this way (if this is indeed the cause), then it doesn’t even occur to me that our families are “different”, or that my family is in any way perceived to be “superior”.

    Thank you for kind and considerate answers.

    • ANSWER:
      Sounds like they will finally meet – just make sure everyone is comfortable

      And I think you are right on – it’s the economic status being the problem

26. QUESTION:
    Indian Dance Recital (bharatanatyam arangetram)?
    My husband’s boss asked us if we wanted to attend his daughter’s dance recital. Our daughter is a similar age, so we thought “sure, why not, no big deal.” Then we got a written invitation, which was more formal than our wedding invite. Suddenly it appears to be a very big deal. It’s called a “bharatanatyam arangetram” We’re still very excited to go, but have no idea what to expect. Also, should we bring some type of gift or are there any cultural things to do or not do associated with this type of event? My daughter and I (who are not Indian) have matching selwar kamise outfits, would it be OK to wear those or should we wear western clothes?

    • ANSWER:
      This i a classical dance it has no formalities only an open mind and lot of patience and taste for classicals is neededed.
      It is a very beautiful dance.Any type of clothing will do.
      Kindly see more details on you tube and google.